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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think you don't tell someone you're popping round later with 4 kids in tow?

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junglist1 · 25/04/2009 12:43

I just want to be able to do what i f ing want with my weekend without having to put up with friends forcing themselves on me. OK if you have one or 2 children maybe, but if you have 4 maybe think before you threaten to come round. I have exams to study for, and maybe would like to do something with my DC's without her lot rampaging through my house. If I wanted a party this weekend I would have f ing arranged one.

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pottycock · 25/04/2009 17:03

Original poster

junglist1 · 25/04/2009 17:04

Of course! Twas a sarcastic sad face. i managed to sound SO disappointed when she told me, obviously

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pottycock · 25/04/2009 17:08

enjoy your peaceful evening!

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junglist1 · 25/04/2009 17:14

I really need to get off this website and do some flippin revision!! Focus, Junglist!

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Thingiebob · 09/05/2009 03:54

I think most of the posters here are being unfair to be honest. If you are busy she shouldn't have descended on you with four kids. Sometimes it is hard to say no to people and if you can't have a rant on MN, where can you?!

cory · 09/05/2009 16:07

Surely even one friend popping round would keep you from studying. And will 4 children really keep you more busy than 2? I'd have thought the best number for maximum disturbance would be one friend and a child constantly clinging to her and interrupting.

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junglist1 · 09/05/2009 16:42

She's pregnant again! What if it's twins?

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cbmummy · 09/05/2009 17:27

Just caught this thread and personally - perhaps you should distance yourself if thats how you feel about her kids!

lockets · 09/05/2009 17:39

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cbmummy · 09/05/2009 17:42

Well I don't really know what to say to it to be honest...?

Yes we have friends sometimes whose kids can be more 'difficult' than others shall we say. But the fact is you do not come on and blast your 'friend' in that manner.

Sure it would not be said directly

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junglist1 · 09/05/2009 17:55

Well I get tired and weekends are precious. I already said I don't mind the kids but it's too much. People who study full time and have their own children shouldn't be expected to play host at a moments notice. Or shall I just not revise, fail my exams and be happy about it. I'm not unreasonable, 4 kids plus mine is a small party and I didn't have time. And I told her I was busy and she didn't give a toss.

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ssd · 09/05/2009 18:03

ur friend sounds like she was being a bit thoughtless, so don't feel bad

YANBU at all

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junglist1 · 09/05/2009 18:07

Thanks SSD. I think I worded the OP quite strongly, was ranting, everything just gets on top sometimes.

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ssd · 09/05/2009 18:11

yes it sure does!

I generally find folk look out for their own best interests, and if you don't no one else will!

do what suits you and your family

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