To think you don't tell someone you're popping round later with 4 kids in tow?

[junglist1]

I just want to be able to do what i f ing want with my weekend without having to put up with friends forcing themselves on me. OK if you have one or 2 children maybe, but if you have 4 maybe think before you threaten to come round. I have exams to study for, and maybe would like to do something with my DC's without her lot rampaging through my house. If I wanted a party this weekend I would have f ing arranged one.

So what time are they arriving? YOu don't have to feed them too do you?

Whatever time they arrive, she doesn't have to feed them.

It's awkward though if you're feeding your own kids and people turn up with theirs at mealtimes. You just feel bad for their kids. I know she doesn't have to feed them but most of us would.

They range from 4 to 12. The thing is sometimes she stays for hours and I don't have enough dinner for them all, once we sat there starving waiting for her to leave. And she really hates people turning up at hers unexpectedly, is always moaning about it. I might just suggest we all go to the park when she gets here, at least then I can leave when I'm ready (UNLESS SHE TRIES TO FOLLOW ME HOME!!???)

Just call her back and say 'Sorry X, I know I said you could come over but I've got lots of studying to do and now I'm getting really stressed worrying about when it will get done. So we'll have to make it another time'

When I went to friends with my lot, I never expected people to feed us. In fact, we used to take stuff with us if I thought we would be there over lunch. Took enough to share, too. Quite a few of my friends with children do the same.

Junglist, follow Alicet's advice. You'll feel better once you've done it.

I think I'd expect the older ones to keep the younger ones amused (without any rampaging) while you and your friend had a chat for an hour and then you could bring the visit to an end.

It's good advice... am trying to pluck up courage! OR could turn up at hers instead in a DA DA! sort of way

Good idea. Either phone her and cancel or just pop round to hers.

why cant you just tell her why cant poeple be honest with their friend

saying that, i have 4 and have never invited us round a friends altogether, as realise it can be quite daunting, and find it easier to be at my house and invite others here.

I feel better now thanks all!

thats ok, we are on our way put the kettle on

Sorry gardeningmum, just popping out!

"When I went to friends with my lot, I never expected people to feed us."

juule - that's because you have so many children

glad you're feeling better

Riven - you can bring yours round here - my kids aren't here at the moment - but I could do with some company

ooops - actuall I'm also supposed to be studying

Riven I must apologise to you for sropping by with my 4 last weekend .

OP say I'm sorry I have exams coming up, that should be enough, if it isnt then she's not a friend.

I have to confess am of your dilemma

if they are all under 12, what do you expect her to do with them when she wants to see you?

Peachy, can I send her round to yours instead?
Lou33 I had a pub lunch with her yesterday! I'm not that great company that she should want to see me every day (actually I am on second thoughts).

Junglist I am out this afternoon, sorry

Actuallyt hat'strue, she can come and join me and Riven for coffee one day eprhaps, then we cn bring all 12 around to see you?.......

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