To ask the good folk of MN, who have been to rock bottom, for whatever reason, to give those of us that are there at the moment some inspiration to keep going.

[TheMitsubishiWarrioress]

The title says it all..(long title sorry..)

just that if you don't stick around, it will never get better. Who you travel with makes a huge difference too.

yanbu why would you be?

Didn't know where to put it and I know a lot of people are dispirited by life....I find it helpful when folk talk of how they picked themselves back up and thought it might help more people than myself.....

YANBU

Great that you felt you can ask.

Small steps are always the best place to start.

I am in a good place at the moment and so don't want to go back there.

it gets better..one foot in front of the other

you are tougher than you think

yanbu

Muffinbaker has hit the mail on the head about not wanting to go back there...it is not an easy thing to just dole put your top tips for IYSWIM. It's got something in common with childbirth in that you amaze yourself with what you can cope with or endure, and you forget once it's over quite how awful it was. However, you never forget to the point where you want to repeat the experience, and not so many people even want to remember and tell you their birth story! Hope that makes sense.

You didn't even need to ask.

I'm never going back there and just now i feel like I am going to drag as many others out of 'that place' as I can.

See you've made me cry now and I haven't done that once on that other thread thats got me and my advice/support/nagging all over it.

.......

it feels sometimes like that actually is no bottom, but you have to keep believing don't you...

At rock bottom there is only an up....there will be happier better times and you will appreciate them all the more for having gone through the rubbish...

Sometimes you just need someone else to do the paddling don't you?...

I know it sounds a bit trite but if you can find one thing to feel good about every day(however tiny the good thing is and however horrible the day), it can give you a bit more energy to get through the dark days and back to your place in the sun.

I felt like I lived at Rock Bottom Central for, ooooh, about 7 years, maybe more. About 5 years through that time I found MN. I 'met' people who scraped me up and dusted me down, turned me around, checked on me, guided me, empathised with me, listened even when they must have been bored, shared with me and who told me the truth.

I am about 6 months into the place that is not Rock Bottom Central and I feel like a butterfly that has popped out her chrysalis. I feel strong and I feel happy and I feel positive for the first time in a long time and maybe ever.

Keep talking.

the best thing about rock bottom is the only way is up ,thats what i repeated mantra style to myself when i was there ,oh and learnt to let miniscule things make me happy .

Just keep looking up, it really realy really does get better.

Like all have said, when you're at Rock Bottom there's only one way you can go.

I'll let you into my little ray of sunshine discovery -

showering with my 5yo DS. Thats all.

I found it very hard to bond with DS, but this little recent discovery (should've done it years ago.... I know, I know!) has made us closer, and that makes every day a bit better.

At one point I had hideous PND. I'd only just got over it after nearly 2 years of serious suffering and been brave enough to get pregnant again... and I had a miscarriage. The darkness and depression are indescribable, really, especially now, when I am feeling fully well again and it is all a horrible, distant memory.

Times like that there is nothing to do but grit your teeth, feel the pain and tell yourself that things will get better. Blind faith. I am an atheist, actually, but blind faith has kept me going many a time.

xx

Telling someone who feels shite that there is only one way to go, find something to be happy with each day, etc etc really doesn't help in some situations as you just want someone to agree, that yes, it is a load of shite.

It sounds annoying but there is only one person who can do it and that is you. It isn't easy, and goodness knows how you will do it, but when you least expect it you will feel happier than you did yesterday and just enjoy it without worrying about tomorrow.

Of course.

Of course they can get worse, but is that what you want to hear? . There is only one way to go and that is to carry on going, somehow, some way, getting through in whatever way you can.

I sympathise. I empathise. Surely that is all anyone can do?

True

You posted on my thread last week when I was feeling very out of control and confused, your words along with others really helped and I started to see myself in a positive light, slowly and surely is the way to go.

I am sorry to see that you feel you have hit rock bottom, but if at rock bottom you can still be as objective and insightful as you were on my thread, it will not be long before you start clawing your way back to the top again.

Remember that whatever happens you have support on here

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