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Original poster

AIBU to think shitting in a park is fucking vile?

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:10

was in the park opposite my house today-woman who i know but isn't a friend was there with her 2 boys-one's in first year secondary school and the other one is at least 5 (and to my knowledge doesn't have any special needs/mitigating circs) anyway-she's sat at the table with the papers and i stopped to say 'hi lovely weather etc etc' when her little boy (the one who is at least 5) comes up and says 'mummy,i need a poo' so-without further a do she says 'ok,we'll never get home in time so shall we find a bush and do it there?' and grabs a packet of handwipes from her bag (presumably to wipe his arse) i was fucking gobsmacked and trying to think of something to say when this bloke (who neither of us knew) and was sat giving his baby a bottle at the same table bit says 'i think there's a toilet in the shopping centre just over the road' to which she got all weird and said 'come on louis-we'll have to rush home-i hope we're there in time' and sort of flounced.
i was relieved the other guy said something but on what planet is shitting in a park ok?

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Hulababy · 19/04/2009 22:13

YANBU

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:13

I'm sorry I honestly don't see the problem

Therefore in my book at least YABU

morningpaper · 19/04/2009 22:14

YANBU

that is vile and should be ILLEGAL

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 19/04/2009 22:14

I wonder if she's got a dog and used to clearing it up? But with a child as old as five, I'd say that wasn't an ok approach.

monkeypinkmonkey · 19/04/2009 22:15

can I refer you to this post playground pooing
YANBU at any age!!

qwertpoiuy · 19/04/2009 22:15

Ronaldinho, would you like if she got her child to poo under a bush in your garden?

MintyyAeroEgg · 19/04/2009 22:15

Yanbu.

Yanbu at all.

RumourOfAHurricane · 19/04/2009 22:16

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spicemonster · 19/04/2009 22:17

YANBU - that's vile

Hulababy · 19/04/2009 22:17

Yes but those saying it is ok - what happens if someone then goes and stands it. OP only says woman took handwipes, no mention of a bag to deposit said poo into.

mistlethrush · 19/04/2009 22:17

When ds was potty training (only just over 2) we got caught short - but had dog bags in boot so cleared up afterwards - but he's had to wait until we can get to more appropriate locations since then - he's just 4 - so, yes, YANBU!

lockets · 19/04/2009 22:18

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Hulababy · 19/04/2009 22:18

Oh, and if you child isn't able to wait long enough to get to a toilet in the centre opposite - carry a potty with you.

edam · 19/04/2009 22:19

Had to let ds poo in some bushes on the common once. He was about 2 and it was urgent, no loos anywhere near enough. Made sure it was covered up (threw lots of earth over it) and nowhere anyone would tread accidentally. As it's biodegradable, I thought that was about all I could do.

Not something I would encourage generally and has never happened again!

Original poster
sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:20

there was no bag-when i saw her getting arsey i said 'you can come home and use my loo if you like (we live opposite the park gates)' i know her as we're on a comittee together (it's the friends of the park she wanted her kid to shit in btw...) anyway, i understand if it's a wee up a tree,or if the kids 3 and under (look at me being an age nazi again) but erm,5???

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edam · 19/04/2009 22:21

eek at cross post with lockets! (He didn't normally need a poo at that time of day, was VERY regular, so no, I wasn't carrying a potty.)

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:21

Well it wasn't my garden was it? ffs...

It was a public park and it was probably the best option she thought of at the time.

Perhaps she felt it better that he poo naturally and be cleaned up rather than try to make it home and have an accident and all the associated embarassment.

Child caught short and pooing behind a bush scandal.....what a monster that mother was

edam · 19/04/2009 22:22

Ah, now memory is flooding back, I think I might actually have picked it up in a wet wipe and put it in the dog bin...

Cazzaben · 19/04/2009 22:23

I would've offered her my toilet... if it was for her kids... Its not healthy to hold it in

I would've thought that was disgusting though.
YANBU but i would've definately offered my toilet if I only lived opposite

hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:23

Somebody better build some proper dog toilets, and bird toilets and squirrel toilets.

Cat toilets, mouse toilets, badger toilets, fox toilets......................

Are we objecting to the age unusual anal incontinence issue or the depositing of faeces?

morningpaper · 19/04/2009 22:24

this "Its not healthy to hold it in" argument

WHY

What is wrong with holding in a turd for 30 minutes?

Original poster
sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:24

it's a public park,that little children play in-i am sick of wiping dog shit off my pram wheels-it's a different shower of shit to wipe human shit off her shoes...
it just seemed icky...in a field in the country-maybe at a push,but erm in a park???i just don't think it's something anyone should consider-am surprised you think it's ok tbh ronaldinhio

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 19/04/2009 22:25

The depositing of faeces.

We'd all be up in arms if a dog owner didn't clear up after their dog. Quite rightly so. You just don't leave shit in parks.

However, i do not know anyone who can control where mice shit. But I'll bet they don't produce as much as my friend's labrador.

morningpaper · 19/04/2009 22:26

maybe if we made the mice hold it in for 30 minutes, then they would release MASSIVE turds