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AIBU?

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AIBU to think shitting in a park is fucking vile?

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:10

was in the park opposite my house today-woman who i know but isn't a friend was there with her 2 boys-one's in first year secondary school and the other one is at least 5 (and to my knowledge doesn't have any special needs/mitigating circs) anyway-she's sat at the table with the papers and i stopped to say 'hi lovely weather etc etc' when her little boy (the one who is at least 5) comes up and says 'mummy,i need a poo' so-without further a do she says 'ok,we'll never get home in time so shall we find a bush and do it there?' and grabs a packet of handwipes from her bag (presumably to wipe his arse) i was fucking gobsmacked and trying to think of something to say when this bloke (who neither of us knew) and was sat giving his baby a bottle at the same table bit says 'i think there's a toilet in the shopping centre just over the road' to which she got all weird and said 'come on louis-we'll have to rush home-i hope we're there in time' and sort of flounced.
i was relieved the other guy said something but on what planet is shitting in a park ok?

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hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:27

We don't know if she left the poo. I'd be surprised if a parent left poo on the ground if equipped with wipes.

spicemonster · 19/04/2009 22:27

hobbgoblin - that's an absurd argument. Why don't we all just wee and poo wherever we feel like eh? Feel the wind on our bums?

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:28

cazzaben-i did offer my own loo.
i didn't think holding in a poo for a bit (ten minutes tops til they get home) would be a problem for a child that age?

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kittywise · 19/04/2009 22:30

She's a lazy mother

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:30

I'm just not that freaked out by children peeing and pooing places that's all.

Sorry but if your child steps in shit it's hardly the end of the world now is it?

Nor am I freaked out by dog shit on my buggy wheels but I'm a counrty type at heart and was well used to slopping through, picking up and generally larking about in all manner of animal shit as a child.

Why are you surprised that I hold views like this?
I genuinely wouldn't have thought twice about it...

hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:30

Roffle. But it's only a problem from any of our pov if the poo is left. If she/others like her cleaned up then the only problem is her 5 year old not being able to figure when he needs to poo with a bit of warning. That's her problem, and even then she may be of the 'he won't be doing this at 25' school of thought.

There is a lot of poo about. We don't insist on toilets for every crapping species in existence so I see no need to fret particularly about the fact this is human poo.

Cazzaben · 19/04/2009 22:31

The thread doesn't state whether or not she cleared it up. So assume she did...

Is it really that bad????

Poor little bugger.
If you look it up on the net it says you shouldn't hold it in. Its really bad for you...

Doga and cats and birds and all sorts of animals do it all the time. We are talking about a CHILD here!!!

If it was an adult then fine... But a child come on...
If my son was desperate (he's 3) then I wouldn't mind him doing it behind a bush (provided there is nothing else in the vicinity) I would always clear it up though...

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 19/04/2009 22:31

I think that if a five year old knows that a loo is on its way, then no, it really shouldn't be a problem. It's if i tell DS to hold on in the hope that we might come across one, that he starts to get hassled. He needs some hope on the horizon.

morningpaper · 19/04/2009 22:32

REALLY if my mum had made me do a shite in a park at the age of 5 I think I would probably be some sort of violent offender

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:32

i don't think she is though? this is the thing that surprised me,and clearly not just me as the guy who spoke to her looked fit to gip all over at the idea of it...

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hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:32

Does anyone know what the etiquette was in caveman dave days?

MadamDeathstare · 19/04/2009 22:33

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Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:35

I also see no problem in using lard in bed

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:35

he didn't do the erm doo-she had a massive flounce and said really loud (to me and the man on the bench) 'come on-we'll have to go home,just hope we get there in time big dramatic eye roll' if she had taken him to the bushes i think i'd have had to say something but what the fuck would you say? it seemed a very natural reaction to her to go cack in the bushes.

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TheSmallClanger · 19/04/2009 22:35

Caveman went for a poo behind a rock, probably. Or hovered their bums over the river.

If a nearby toilet had been offered/suggested, I don't think YABU. This was a schoolchild, not a toddler, and it wasn't as if they were out on the moors or suchlike.

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:36

I thought you did say something
I thought you said why not use my loo..much closer?
When did that happen?

Feelingoptimistic · 19/04/2009 22:38

It is a bit vile, but I know that if my DD (3 years old) really needed to go, I would let her do it in the bushes and clean it up, rather than letting her do it in her pants.

Actually, around where I live (North London) I am surprised that everyone isn't shitting in the park, because there are NO public toilets. Honestly, I only know of one, and you have to pay 20p for that one.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 19/04/2009 22:39

I don't much care what cavemen did, we've moved on since then, and there are a few more of us.

Even cats cover up their own crap.

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sleeplessinstretford · 19/04/2009 22:39

can't remember the precise moment-think it was when she started to get the wipes out...she declined it though and said it was ok-(can i just point out they live backing onto us and were on bikes so actually it's 5 mins home)
if she had decided to go into the bushes i really would've had to say something to her about it being a bit erm don't know-i am seldom lost for words but today stumped me

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morningpaper · 19/04/2009 22:40

I would rather my kids shat their own pants and I cleared it up, than shat in the bushes and had some other poor mother clearing it off their children's shoes!!!!!

hobbgoblin · 19/04/2009 22:41

So we were cool about it a gazillion years ago, when there were no toilets?

So it's a social construct, dependent upon the availability of toilet facilities?

And there were no toilets within the bounds of a 5 year old's continence ability, yes?

Why are we getting upset about it then?

violethill · 19/04/2009 22:41

Lazy bint. Bloody disgusting for everyone else using the park, and bloody disrespectful to her son. Expecting a 5 year old to shit in a park rather than hang on a bit. Lovely

TheCrackFox · 19/04/2009 22:42

Unless he suffer from IBS (or other medical condition) he can wait 10 minutes to get to a toilet.

What does he do when he is at school?

Disgusting.

Cazzaben · 19/04/2009 22:42

Oh ok so you did offer your loo...

Well then no excuse. I wouldn't have let her son have a crap in the playground.

YANBU then

Ronaldinhio · 19/04/2009 22:42

You might have had to say something but she might have had to tell you that she doesn't see a problem with it and perhaps carry on regardless.
Then you would have had to ......??

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