Feel a bit upset, DH is embarrassed by me

[Sheepishly]

I bought my pair of Guinea Pigs a couple of things off ebay. They're undoor pigs and I love them to bits. I know a lot of people don't "get" small animals but I am very, very attached to them.

Anyway the sawdust we were using as bedding was injuring their feet so on the advice of the vet, I bought them some vetbed fleece off ebay to line the cage with. It had pawprints on and when I laid it in, it DID look like a little carpet. I also bought them a little "pet" sofa. It's basically a tiny sofa with little cushions on etc, looks like a real sofa but tiny, rodent sized. I just knew the pigs would love it so I bought them one on the same order to save on delivery.

Anyway when I set it out, the fleece and the sofa DH commented that it looked as though I'd set out a "living room" scene. I just laughed and agreed it did look like that. I went to get a bath and when I came back in the fleece and sofa was gone from the cage. I asked DH why and he snapped that his parents were coming around tomorow and that he doesn't want me showing him up. He then started ranting that his family take the piss enough because of me and he's sick of me making a laughing stock of us I was too shocked to reply and so left the room. He has since apologised and said he didn't mean it but that must have come from somewhere. I can't think I do to show him up but I'm going to feel really self concious now I just feel really upset over it. Maybe I am over-reacting or whatever, I just had no idea he felt that way about me

The dh is extremely rude - both in word and deed. Snatching the fleece and sofa away was aggressive. His wife is not a servant who has to obey his orders.

I wouldn't have a guinea pig sofa myself but that's not the point. If dh bought one and I objected, I'd discuss it, I wouldn't just remove his possessions.

DH DOES embarrass me sometimes, he's very enthusiastic about some stuff I consider quite daft, but I wouldn't dream of being rude to him about it. Might giggle, but not in a nasty way.

LOL at "why are sofas for guinea pigs weird"

I think the pair of you need to have LesS to ddo with his family

where is the op

1. I cant find a GP sofa online

so

Let's say your DH is embarrassed by you.

Let him be embarrassed. That's his failing. It's not as if you fart loudly and pick your navel in front of his folks, is it?

It's up to you how you want to be. If you want your guinea pigs to have furniture or whatever, then so be it. It's a bit lame and childish of him to worry about what his folks think TBH.

I think as soon as people start to fret about what other people i.e. wider family think, it's a recipe for disaster.

awwww. now i want a guinea pig AND a sofa.

I couldn't find any either. Whilst i don't think the idea is weird (I have seen weird stuff, a sofa for a rodent is just a bit cutesy and eccentric for a grown up) i can't get my head round the hygiene of fleece flooring and a material sofa?

I agree the OP shouldn't care what his family think, but thought she was concerned about what he thinks, which is important.

oh that dinosaur guinea pig sooooooooooooooo needs a raaaaaaaaaarrrrrrhhhhhh speech bubble

I'm not sure why people are thinking this is a joke. I wrote this at gone 1am this morning, I was and still am very upset by the whole thing but I couldn't stay up all night to check on replies. But I'm here now.

The sofa was just bought so that the pigs had something soft to sleep on. I could have just bought them this:

www.petsathome.com/find/category-is-6+small+pets/breed-is-guinea_pig/product-is-17442 but I knew DS would love the sofa design. Really, what harm is it doing anyone? It was the same price, same size for the animals to lay on, why is it so bad?

And the 'carpet' was not actually a carpet, it was a vet fleece blanket that I have decided to use instead of woodshavings. Yes it had a pattern on but most of them do. How many cat beds do you see with fish bones etc on? I wasn't intending to make a living room scene, It just ended up looking like that when I put them both together.

The "other stuff" that DH has had to "put up with" include me refusing to use a choke chain for our dog and "upsetting his father" who insisted me use it. Getting the cat neutered against his mother's wishes (apparantly it's cruel not to let a cat have at least one litter, but not cruel to use a choke chain on a dog) and a more recent one was that I went to a fancy dress party. I went dressed as an angel (my friend went as a devil and we were going together). We had a lovely time. But DS showed the photos to his grandparents and they started on about "Don't you think you're a bit old for this kind of stuff now? you have children" and then when I left the room they told DH that he should be firmer with me and not allow me to keep showing him up

Oh and I kicked up a fuss because DH flushed a live fish down the toilet. His father said I was being ridiculous. I was livid and told them both so.

Anyway I have put the fleece back in the cage, I'll let DS put the sofa in later. And I might even buy them a matching arm chair because I'm feeling a bit pissed off about it actually.

reality, thats you pig sofa isn't it??

its ok you can admit it

www.guineapigcages.com/photos/showphoto.php/photo/14553

It's a bit like that. Not the exact one but similar.

I think your dh is acting a twat, he should be sticking up for yoiu
and his parents should butt the hell out

yes, a matching armchair and a reading lamp is the way to go

sheepishly. can we see pics of little living room. my friend wants to know where she can buy one too for her dc pigs

coffee table too and a little bowl of sawdust pot pourri

DS wanted to buy them a little car
cgi.ebay.co.uk/Beetle-Sleeper-bed-Guinea-Pig-Ferret-Rabbit-Rat-Cage_W0QQitemZ250404810046QQcmdZViewI temQQptZUKPetSuppliesSmallAnimals?hash=item250404810046&trksid=p3286.c0.m14&trkparms=72%3A1683 |66%3A2|65%3A12|39%3A1|240%3A1318 good job I didn't!

I will take some photos of the cage later on

Oh and I bought them an easter egg which DH didn't approve of. But if I didn't have DS, I wouldn't do half of this stuff, a lot of it is for his benefit and I just don't see the harm in being a bit daft with the pets.

Relieved to hear mention of ds as I would think the GP issue a tad strange if there were no children in the house (but I wouldn't think any of the other issues strange at all). However, I am someone who has spent years doing up rabbit hutches, hamster cages, fish tanks and dog beds so that the dc enjoy their pets. The house dog has spent years being dressed up as a fairy and Santa, he feels naked without now.
I think your house and you sound like fun. Sorry you're in with such a narrow minded crowd as DH's family.
Tell them you're bonkers but you're happy-bonkers and will continue to be so all your life. Like it or lump it.

What "interesting" in-laws you have? I don't think anything you do, say or think will be right in their eyes as you seem poles apart but I'm afraid that would be a red rag to a bull with me and I'd go out of my way to wind them up Think of the fun you could have!

I think your dh needs to seriously think where his priorities lie though.

the car is great. rofl

I think the fleece lining for the cage is a great idea, and why not spoil your piggies with something nice to cuddle in. You've inspired me to go out and buy some fleece and sew mine up a nice cuddly sofa.

I think your pil's attitude of your husband needing to control you and not let you show him up highly worrying. It's as if they think you should be subservient and I do hope your husband hasn't picked up those ideas.

www.petsathome.com/find/category-is-6+small+pets/breed-is-guinea_pig/product-is-17285 easter egg before anyone questions it.

Reality - the dinosaur GP is genius.

I am sorry but a guinea pig living room scene with sofa is just a tad cutesy-poo. However it has made me laugh and laugh and laugh this morning.

We have 3 guinea pigs, they live happily in sawdust and hay.............

YANBU - there's nothing wrong with buying funny things for your pets or going to fancy dress parties! Your inlaws sound boring and uptight and your DH needs to grow up and stop worrying so much what his parents think.