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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that my DD age 3 would SHUT UP when I'm on the phone????

59 replies

MamaJeVoirFairePeePee · 31/03/2009 10:38

I wouldn't care if I was talking to friends on the phone but I work from home and I am with her all day, the only time she does not have my attention is when I am on the bloody phone and she starts screaming and shouting and I feel bloody embarrassed when I am talking to customers.

I have tried reasoning with her and telling her how important it is that Mummy works, and even putting cbeebies on but nothing works.
Help please.......

OP posts:
CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:39

is this a joke?

ilove · 31/03/2009 10:40

YABTotallyU

She is 3!

Original poster
MamaJeVoirFairePeePee · 31/03/2009 10:40

Yeah I'm laughing

OP posts:
RidiculousCrush · 31/03/2009 10:40

get child care

ShowOfHands · 31/03/2009 10:40

I do so hope this is a joke.

Original poster
MamaJeVoirFairePeePee · 31/03/2009 10:40

She is 3 going on 14 - doesn't do this to Daddy!!!

OP posts:
CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:41

your name makes no sense either
Do you mean JeVaisFaire?

Ledodgy · 31/03/2009 10:41

If you're working from home then surely you should be concentrating on that and organising childcare for your dd?

RoseOfTheOrient · 31/03/2009 10:41

my 10 year old can still be a pain if I am on the phone...
I think you need to find a nursery....

CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:41

She is 3 ffs
Get childcare if you want to work!

CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:42

Do you actually say SHUT UP to her
and swear at her
You don't sound very nice from your post tbh.

Original poster
MamaJeVoirFairePeePee · 31/03/2009 10:43

It is not a joke - some practical advice or suggestions would be appreciated

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morningpaper · 31/03/2009 10:43

YABU that's what children DO

Find childcare

madwomanintheattic · 31/03/2009 10:43

aibu to expect my 3yo to not act like a 3yo?
lol.

CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:43

You have some
get childcare as 4 people have said!

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 31/03/2009 10:43

totally unreasonable and unrealistic.

she's 3. That's what they do.

get used to it. It gets worse.

flowerybeanbag · 31/03/2009 10:44

YAofcourseBU, if you want to work you need childcare, trying to work and look after a 3yo simultaneously is not fair on your child or your clients.

And yes your name doesn't make sense.

Ledodgy · 31/03/2009 10:45

My 3 year old insists on answering the phone everytime it rings and has a huge tantrum if someone else gets to it first.

rubyslippers · 31/03/2009 10:46

you CANNOT work from home and look after a small child

a 3 year old cannot understand that mummy needs to make an important call to a client

i work one day a week from home, and my DS is in childcare for that day - not fair to anyone otherwise

Tamarto · 31/03/2009 10:46

My ten year old does this, i'd look into childcare tbh, she's only three, that's still a baby really.

rubyslippers · 31/03/2009 10:47

@ Ledodgy - so does my DS!

he would be a rubbish PA - he can't take a decent message and has a tendency to hang up half way through a conversation

Original poster
MamaJeVoirFairePeePee · 31/03/2009 10:47

Ok - she goes to school 12.30 til 3, so that is my childcare, so yes I do have childcare. I work from home because we are marginally better off than sending her to nursery and me working out of the home (we have a baby here too, so paying £75 a day for both of them to be in nursery thru the day is not an option)

No I do not tell her to SHUT UP. I ask her nicely. again and again! and again and again. I don't shout.

I don't really care if you don't think I am nice Countess, walk a mile in my shoes.

I thought MN was for help, sorry if the title of the post was inflammatory, I needed to let off steam.

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Gorionine · 31/03/2009 10:48

Yabu, the rule is the following: they will shut up all day but if you so much as lift the phone handset they will ( age does not matter):

-ask you something very important that cannot wait at all!

-start a fight with their siblings!

  • hurt themselves and scream the house down!

You will just have to grin and bare it or ask them to cover theyr mouth with their hands while you are on the phone. Chances are it will not work though!

morningpaper · 31/03/2009 10:49

You need to only take calls at the time she is in childcare though, or respond via email at all other times. Put it to answerphone at other times and use email as much as poss.

CountessDracula · 31/03/2009 10:49

But you have been offered advice which you have ignored
You cannot expect a 3yo to understand that they have to be quiet because you are on the phone

Do you have a friend that would be prepared to do some reciprocal childcare?
Could you spread your work across two days and get it done when she is at school?

If you have a baby what do you do if he/she cries while you are on the phone?