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To Have a Secret Crush on UnQuietDad?

547 replies

secretcrush · 26/03/2009 17:43

Cant help it
The thought that there are intelligent, funny, non-sleazy men out there who have masses in common with me....

It just gives me hope

And he's a regular poster on MN too.

OP posts:
IorekByrnison · 30/03/2009 19:18

In the interests of continuing this positive theme on the male presence on mumsnet, can I just say how very thoroughly I enjoyed the contribution of this man who posted for advice on "sexual technics".

Rhubarb · 30/03/2009 20:50

Now that's what I call a proper trolling experience!

UnquietDad · 30/03/2009 21:07

heh-heh, I missed the whole sexual technics thing.

BigGitDad · 30/03/2009 21:23

For the record after paddad's comment I would like to say that I have never posted on any breastfeeding forum.
I came on MN after my wife showed me the Beruit thread which was hilarious. I then posted as I found that with my job there were loads of MN'rs wanting advice in areas that I have expertise. After that I found the whole place a lovely place to be. It was funny, warm and educational for me too having two young kids.
FWIW I have chatted with DaftPunk loads of times on the music thread's and she is fun and enjoyable to chat to just as the other posters are on the music threads. But DP you have lost me on this one. Did you think I was weird all along?

ABetaDad · 30/03/2009 21:46

BigGitDad - I have. It didn't go well.

BigGitDad · 30/03/2009 21:56
Grin
Swedes · 30/03/2009 21:59

IorekB Thanks for the link to the sexual technics thing. It's made my day.

I think we should be allowed extremely detailed conversations with prospective male Mumsnetters' wives or partners for a minimum period of several months before they're allowed to join Mumsnet progress to the formal application process.

Then I'd like to see a thoroughly thorough and impossible vigorous application process.

And finally, as a trapdoor to the more persistent male Mumnsnetter, I'd like to see Mumsnet introduce a thought activated 'I'm staring at your breasts' emoticon. This would result in the male Mumsnetter's immediate lifetime expulsion.

UnquietDad · 30/03/2009 22:01

Swedes, can this come with a swift-reaction, head-jerk, "no, no, I am looking into your eyes, do carry on" counter-emoticon? This is, after all, how most of us survive in real life...

PadDad · 30/03/2009 22:13

I would just like to say that many times we are simply reading the logo on your T-shirts.

Why buy a T-shirt with writing on it if you are then going to take offence if someone reads it!

Does my head in...

UnquietDad · 30/03/2009 22:18

And those store assistants with a badge saying "Nicola" pinned to one breast... Oh, gawd, what a challenge they are to the PC man...

"Must... not... say... what's the other... one... called?... Must ... not...."

UnquietDad · 30/03/2009 22:23

Nobody laughed. Oh heck. I'm about to have my membership rescinded...

Threadworm · 30/03/2009 22:23
Swedes · 30/03/2009 22:47
PadDad · 30/03/2009 22:51

UQD, I laughed.

I was just being a Quiet Dad

2shoes · 30/03/2009 22:52

this thread has made me wonder where all the men hide.
I have only spoken to BGD(and SDOT WHEN HE WAS HERE)
maybe I am too boring

IorekByrnison · 30/03/2009 23:09

They've been hiding behind their computer screens looking at your breasts, 2shoes, and pretending to read the writing on your t-shirt.

Rhubarb · 31/03/2009 07:40
MerryPonymum · 31/03/2009 07:52

"this thread has made me wonder where all the men hide."

2shoes, you can often find at least a couple of them in the Religion threads, waiting for people to join them in a rousing good 'Stand up, Stand up for Jesus'!

2shoes · 31/03/2009 08:23

oh I have to be nice to the church
dd is going to lourdes

ABetaDad · 31/03/2009 08:31

PadDad/UQD - LOL

Actually I know you are both being half serious. I do take pride in being a quite sensitive PC bloke and I find myself facing the same embarrasing problem. Luckily, I have done a lot of Speed Reading training and I find that I can take in a lot of information without looking directly at the subject matter.

If you are interested I would recommend combining the 'chunking' method with 'field of focus widening' which utilises the peripheral vision.

The closest analogy I can think of is going to Egypt and standing in front of the Sphinx looking directly up at the face while still being able to take in a lot of detailed information about the twin Pyramids of Chefren and Cheops to left and right.

daftpunk · 31/03/2009 08:35

Pellmell; no, i'm not on a wind-up...

have i changed my mind?...a little bit i suppose..they all seem harmless enough, but i wouldn't want anymore here

biggitdad;

i have been avoiding you over this, which isn't my style as you know,. i never hide from anyone!

tbh, i don't really know what to say to you...shall i say it in a song?...sorry seems to be the hardest word..lol

look, when i first posted on here i didn't even think of you...you're just another poster on the song thread to me...of course i know your a man..but i have never thought of you as "odd" or "weird"...never, you are good company.....i never see you on any other threads, so i'm guessing you just stick to the song thread?? ...maybe that's different...i don't know?...i do talk to harley and 2shoes off mumsnet...and a few other (female) posters...i would never talk to you off mn....purely because you're a man, i just wouldn't cross that line...maybe that makes me old fashioned....but that's not a bad thing is it..

i would find it a bit...(i'm not sure what word to use here) "new man"...if my dh spent his evenings on mn chatting with women...infact i wouldn't let him, i'd be jealous... i don't think that makes me insecure etc etc...i'd worry more if i didn't care.

anyway, i will stay off the song thread,..

i'll survive...gloria gaynor did!

Paleodad · 31/03/2009 08:51

at Beta and BigGit,
aBetaDad: not that i want to rubberneck, and purely wishing to learn from the mistakes of others [insert innocent faced emoticon]....how did it not go well....?

Rhubarb · 31/03/2009 09:28

daftpunk, you are taking all of this way to personally! You love that song thread, I don't think there is any need for you to stay off it! We may not agree with your opinions but I'm pretty sure I speak for us all when I say that none of us wants to drive you off any thread because of them.

Your views are probably described, at best, as old-fashioned. From my point of view, I've always got on better with men than women. I find some women to be too bitchy/emotional/needy/boring (note I did say some there, most Mumsnetters are excluded! ) I have some very very good male friends that I speak to on the phone, email etc. But their relationship to me is probably one of brother. I care about them very deeply.

dh is fine because he knows all of my male friends, he's known them way before I did. Also he trusts me. He accepted that I was always part of a male group when he met me.

I am assuming you have had very different experiences and that's why your opinions are as they are.

I hope that this thread, among other things, will help you to change your mind. There is nothing wrong with a man wanting to chat on a parenting site, just as there is nothing wrong with women spending all their time on here. Some men are quite happy to spend their time talking to women and some men get on better with women than other men. That's life and it doesn't necessarily have to have any other meaning.

So perhaps this thread should end with a group hug whilst the men folk pretend they really aren't pressing up against our boobs!

Gateau · 31/03/2009 09:28

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Rhubarb · 31/03/2009 09:29

too excuse my shite grammar!