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Original poster

to object to the slight but all persuavive attitute on mumsnet recently

109 replies

ScumdogSquillionaire · 26/03/2009 13:18

I have noticed these last few months there seems to be an attitute on mumsnet of

"if I can't have it I don't want anyone else to have it either"

OP posts:
Curiousmama · 26/03/2009 13:48

you can post with us too I meant...pah!! DS2 is wanting the computer back have to get back to RL.

BitOfFun · 26/03/2009 13:48

Buck up then girl...we are in a silly mood

FAQinglovely · 26/03/2009 13:48

tell you what - you tootle off and start your Bodenet, I'll head off and set up "primarknet" - and hopefully we won't see too many of you Bodenites over on the Primarkers website in the future - although if you should find yourself not qualify for Bodenet you're be mor than welcome

Lizzylou · 26/03/2009 13:49

Wasabi, what if it's ones own wealth?
Not one's DH's...

Counts me out again, but hey ho

BecauseImWorthIt · 26/03/2009 13:49

How about we call it Munnies?

Curiousmama · 26/03/2009 13:49

Rhubarb That's not nice at all smug bastards

BitOfFun · 26/03/2009 13:50

Resting Irritable Bowels? I hope they stay calm over lunch, hullygully...

BitOfFun · 26/03/2009 13:50

Munnies, ROFL

wasabipeanut · 26/03/2009 13:51

Lizzy if it was ones own wealth then fair play.

But........I have a feeling that Hully's target market may not work. Just a feeling.

Lizzylou · 26/03/2009 13:53

Snort Wasabi....run, run like the wind

Rhubs, I know what you mean about the Mothers Day thread, I was going to say how happy I was with my Daffodils and Tesco's chocolates and felt bad that some posters were upset that they had not got anything so didn't, then ohers go own about their expensive gifts...

It's not about the have and the have nots, its about the haves who love going on about what they have

Or summat

MollieO · 26/03/2009 13:55

Can't say I've noticed it at all. I wasn't bothered by the Mother's Day thread. Why shouldn't people have a nice time and write about it? Neither mother's day or father's day are my favourite days but I certainly wouldn't expect people not to post in case I'm offended. How odd.

diedandgonetodevon · 26/03/2009 13:55

Hully, we need a list of criteria to meet for this one...

MadamDeathstare · 26/03/2009 13:56

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Original poster
ScumdogSquillionaire · 26/03/2009 13:56

mmmm, perhaps they objected to other mothers getting a bunch of flowers and a card on mothers day because they didn't.

OP posts:
wasabipeanut · 26/03/2009 13:57

We could always invent some criteria while Hully sups with her irritable bowels investment bankers

Rhubarb · 26/03/2009 13:57

Because Mollie, if you start a thread about how nothing has been done for you on Mothers Day, then presumably you are quite upset by this right? You would expect posters to sympathise maybe? Not to rub salt in your wounds by telling you what wonderful and expensive gifts they got and how they were made to feel like a princess for the day.

That would just make you feel rubbish, would it not?

Lizzylou · 26/03/2009 13:59

I know MollieO, but sometimes it can be a little tactless if people are upset about not getting anything and then someone wafts in saying "I got Hotel Chocolat truffles, 3 bottles of champagne and a diamond watch" for example.
I don't care what anyone has or hasn't got (I do love looking at what some Mnetters buy from posh clothes sites, for example), we are fairly middle of the road finance wise, but a little tact can go a long way.

Original poster
ScumdogSquillionaire · 26/03/2009 14:00

Actually I'm with Rhubarb on this. the posters on that thread were obviously hoping for some sympathy and it was insensitive of others to brag about what they had. And it's OK to feel sad because they got something you didn't.

I just don't think it's OK to not want someone to have something for mothers day, just because the other posters didn't.

But your right, the other posters should have had a different thread.

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theyoungvisiter · 26/03/2009 14:00

If DH got me a card and flowers and chocs for mother's day I'd assume he was having an affair!

pagwatch · 26/03/2009 14:02

It is just incredibly insensitive if the OP was about not having received anything.

But in fairness it happens all over the place - mums posting that they are worried that their child isn't reading well get replies about toddlers reading war and peace, posts about late potty trainning get posts about babies out of nappies before they can walk...
In fairness posters are just a bit egocentric sometimes . But it is bloody insensitive where ever it is done

BonsoirAnna · 26/03/2009 14:02

Agree with MadamDeathstare.

theyoungvisiter · 26/03/2009 14:07

I didn't see the mother's day thread but it sounds like the people boasting about their gifts were being a tad insensitive to say the least.

Fine to do it - but post your own thread. Context is all. I wouldn't put details of my amazing raunchy anniversary on a thread about someone else's divorce.

Rhubarb · 26/03/2009 14:15

I do think people post without reading the OP though.
I did that once - the poor OP was posting about what name she should get for herself on MN. But previously there had been threads about the stupidest name you could have on MN and I thought the thread was another one of these. So I posted stuff like iamalittletosser, fuckyouifyoudisagree and so on. The OP started another thread asking people what she had done to upset me!

I did explain and thankfully she believed me!

theyoungvisiter · 26/03/2009 14:21

He he he

TrillianAstra · 26/03/2009 14:31

Thread about a thread? You should have gone to the new thread and told her it's just not done!