To think that actually, it is NOT boring being a SAHM/housewife!

[LEMAGAIN]

...........i have to go out, discuss

I think I win typo of the week award.

PMSL

I have to both threadhijack and nitpick by saying, Jeanpoole, it is not really in the spirit of things to go on an Easter egg hunt in Lent. It is a bit like opening your Christmas presents in November.

NiftyBlue - I shouldn't have time to get bored either, if I attempted to do even half the tasks I'm supposed to. But I've lost the will to even think about doing them.

But I agree that there is no place for criticising other people's choices. I really enjoyed being a sahm for many years and considered myself privileged to be in a position to be able to sah. Things change.

When i was with xdp and i was a sahm i was bored a lot of the time

Now im a wohm one parent family i dont get time to shit, let alone be bored

I am bored.

Would anyone like to try to help kickstart me?

DS2 has been ill for a few weeks but is now better. But since he has been ill and I have spent a long time indoors - he was infectious so we couldn't go to M&T groups - I have fallen into a "slough of despondency" and now cannot think of anything interesting to do because I am too bored.

I sit down and MN (DS in bed), look around and think, gaaah this place is a tip, MN some more, have another cup of tea, then it's 2.50 and time for the school run. I can't get myself moving.

DS2 has an assessment session tomorrow. I think it may be the highlight of my week.

Any ideas to get me back in the land of the living?

I didn't find the first yr of babyhood boring at all. Lonely maybe. Very. As I was far from home and when my first was tiny the only friends I had in the UK didn't have children.

Toddlerhood: boring, yes. and stressful. Because I needed freedom. Physical freedom.

As I said, now being with my dc is lovely, even if they can be more challenging than when they were toddlers. But it doesn't feel anymore like being followed by an unreasonable boss the whole time

Balloonslayer - make yourself a list of all the things that need doing:

dishes
hovering
beds
windows
etc etc etc

aim to tick as many things off your list within an hour then reward yourself with 30 mind of MN and a cup of tea, then get back to the list and do some more

LEMAGAIN....just realized who you are..

you ok?

BalloonSlayer do you mean motivate you to do housework? Or get out?

I used to start a thread to motivate us to do chores and report back on what we'd done. Of course you can cheat and say you've done stuff but there's no point in that?

I'm off to do chores now as ds2 is off school sick but well enough to nick the poota!!

I am not too bothered about chores, with an 18m old they are all undone pretty quickly anyway.

And I can't go out as DS2 is asleep.

I have always had all 3 DCs in this great routine where they have a long lunchtime sleep so I have 2.5 hours to myself . . . bliss!!! . . . but I find I am bored this week and wasting it.

And eating too much.

Right, I am going to DO something.

Thanks Vinegar.

I am a bugger for lists, but I abandoned my list this morning as it was all too boring!

But as you have taken the trouble to encourage me, I will have a go.

I especially like the sound of the hovering, I have never tried that before and it looks as if it could be fun

I am bored now. I have the last of four children at home and I have finally run out of patience.

lydle, no i'm not a stepford wife!.
i just really enjoy being with my dd and being a mother.
i do feel very lucky that we have the freedom to do whatever we like.

but it also might be because my dd is 22 months and is a single child, so in 1o years time i could have 5 kids and be totally jaded by he whole thing!.

but today we have been swiming, dd is just finishing her lunch. then will go for a nap.
then i will read a bit of my book.
and get to work on framing some photos, then also look at planing our next holiday.
which is a special celebration holiday.

i have made a beef wellington [with ready made puff pasty]
for tea, got a nice bottle of wine on chill.
made a butterscotch mousse for desert for us three to have lovely eve as my dh goes away for 4 days tomorrow.
but like i say i do love cooking.
it is something i enjoy.
i also feel vey appricieated as dh will often say how wonderful the food etc was and dd who will be eatting ther same claps when it's something she really likes.

when dd gets up from her nap, i'm going to play with her in the garden and do some playdoh.

and i can honestly say hand on heart to me this is a wonderful and i feel very happy.

DP - yeah, im good (im having an "interesting" week, coming off medication, so up and down). I just couldn't keep away could i! I actually posted ONCE on netmums when i was away - but someone called me hun, i closed the door gently as i left!

stop trying to leave ok!...you belong here...you're part of my history...

Not sure starlight, what I loved of the "institutionalized" life was the daily contact with other people.

I felt very lonely in my first yrs of motherhood, that was worse than boredom. Boredom came from wanting to do things I couldn't do with little ones around. It could be overcome.

But mine was a particular case, as I wasn't living in my own country.
I think I'd have had a better experience as a sahm if I hadn't moved to the UK. Probably, I would also have had a job to go back to and never become a sahm.

Ups and downs.

Have thoroughly enjoyed the past 3 years, but am rapidly getting bored of the routine of parks/playgroups etc and longing for something more...

Oh, and so over the idea that housework is more my responsibility than my DH's (and thats even with a very hands-on husband who does a good share of it all). And not having a reason to wear nice clothes - that's crap, too.

I think I've had my time, really. But would I be a SAHM if I 'had my time' again? Without a shadow of a doubt. Been a terrific few years. Wouldn't have missed it for the world.

I'm with balloonsayer - no motivation whatsoever. Nothing to do with an institutionalised childhood.

Maybe my brain is coming out of hibernation and is putting up a protest at wondering what to cook the dc for tea tonight. Maybe I don't give a stuff anymore about a neat and tidy house, or whether I've eaten nearly half a jar of nutella straight out of the jar, on a knife (don't worry about the germs, I don't let anyone near my nutella - I have to hide it).

I used to enjoy being a sahm too.

Only boring people get bored.

And if you are bored with babies/children then you are bored with life.

I am SAHM (sort of, doing some freelance work) but i am doing the same thing i was doing when i was working. I was a nanny
You see? IT IS a job!

god it was endlessly tedious when I did it

See, I think boredom is the key here, I am busy all the time with 2 small children but I am also bored most of the time. I cannot discuss the finer nuances of poetry with my DC or the washing machine and that is what makes me bored.

The Mums that I mix with want to talk about what kind of nappies are best or what a pratt they are married to. ( actually I do that too...) My point is that it's the lack of intellectual stimulation that gets to me, and how all the menial tasks are now my job and that sucks.

I hate being in charge all the time and not being able to EVER suit myself. It's horrible never being able to MN in peace because someone always wants something , and constantly being 'Solomon' between 2 feuding weans!

Sorry, rant over.