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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think that actually, it is NOT boring being a SAHM/housewife!

133 replies

LEMAGAIN · 26/03/2009 11:18

...........i have to go out, discuss

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daftpunk · 26/03/2009 11:53

MillyR...life is boring for most people isn't it...it's an endless round of shopping/tidying up/paying the bills, that's life

i loved being a sahm...wouldn't of had it any other way...working would have completely stressed me out

mrsgboring · 26/03/2009 11:53

SAHMing - not boring any more than a job is.
Housewifery - deathly dull
Solution: do no housework. Works for me

shootfromthehip · 26/03/2009 11:54

I am definately bored being a SAHM- I work PTFH which does alleviate some of the boredom but it's all the chronically boring people that I have to mix with that really makes me struggle. Whilst I love my DC (2 and nearly 5), good conversation they are not. I also struggle with the constant, menial tasks- if I wanted to be a housekeeper, I'd have gotten a job in a hotel and not gone to Uni!

daftpunk · 26/03/2009 11:56

oh i dunno....i started to worry when i spent half an hour looking at different washing powders in sainsburys....it hit me straight between the eyes...my life was now boring.

earlgreytea · 26/03/2009 11:57

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Kewcumber · 26/03/2009 11:58

sorry but I would find it boring if I had to do it 24/7, in fact I would find anything boring if I had to do it 24/7. Thats not a critisism of anyone who loves it full on full time and you shouldn;t take it as such. I know most people would be bored to tears being an accountant but I like it - I don;t take it as a personal insult.

As it is my ratio of toddler taming 24/3 and 14/4 and accounting 10/4 works just fine for me.

jellybeans · 26/03/2009 11:58

I love being SAHM but I also study and volunteer p/t for several reasons. I love having my own time although that happens more with school age kids.

Idrankthechristmasspirits · 26/03/2009 11:59

YABU because everyone is different, some will find it deathly boring others will thrive.

LEMAGAIN · 26/03/2009 12:01

The reason i started this thread is beause i was upset with one of my friends last night. She is just coming to the end of her mat leave. I am a SAHM DD is starting school in sept. We are both professionally qualified in the same field. She has a good job, but she said "oh, i couldn't be a housewife" meaning SAHM, its so dull and boring, there is only so many times you can polish!!! Is there? Whats polish then? Can you imagine if i had said to her - corr X your job sounds really boring and dull (actually considering what she is qualified to do, her job does sound dull and boring but i wouldn't dream of saying it!). Why is it ok to demean being a SAHM? I know my friend didnt mean anything by it, hence i didn't say anything about it, especially as the comment wasn't directed at me.

Thing is, its what you make it isn't it - I do get bored, especially when i get lazy. I don't do hardly any housework, the BARE minimum because i don't like it. I play with my DD, i mumsnet while she is a playschool (obviously!!!) We go to the beach when we choose, the park, swimming, walk the dog - chill out and do bugger all. Watch crap tv sometimes. Have teabreaks ALL the time. I do the garden, we make cakes, i mumsnet, read a book. Go on play dates and let someone elses child entertain mine while i sit and drink tea and whine about how boring it is being a SAHM!

lol at mrsboring - thats what i said to my friend when she said about doing all the housework, i said, without thinking really, well i don't do any - my other friend pissed herself laughing because she has been to my house and knows im not lying .

I will go back to work when DD starts school but that will be out of necessity rather than choice!

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happywomble · 26/03/2009 12:01

I am the type of person who never gets bored! Wish DS was the same! He is always wanting attention and never settles to anything!

happywomble · 26/03/2009 12:01

I am the type of person who never gets bored! Wish DS was the same! He is always wanting attention and never settles to anything!

happywomble · 26/03/2009 12:02

didn't mean to post it twice..it came up with an error message first time.

daftpunk · 26/03/2009 12:02

earlgreytea

do you tap dance around sainsburys?...do the odd cartwheel down the bread aisle?

maybe i should try that

francagoestohollywood · 26/03/2009 12:05

Have to say, that there were times, when the children were younger, when looking at washing powders in Sainsbos was actually exciting .

Plus, I used to do translations, which wasn't exactly fun.

mrsgboring · 26/03/2009 12:08

I agree, LEMAGAIN, that some of the things said to SAHMs are rather insulting and the "boring" thing is one of them. There are other things that people say which aren't meant to be rude, and aren't really, but which upset me on vulnerable days anyway.

at you for living near a beach.

LEMAGAIN · 26/03/2009 12:08

I drinkthecrhistmasspirits, dont you think its about time you changed your xmas name? Or are you actually busy not being bored and forgot .

You are of course right, its horses for courses - i would rather shoot myself than be an accountant, but wouldnt dream of saying to an accountant, fuck me your job must be really boring!

shoot from the hip - i didn't go to uni to be a housekeeper either. But im not a housekeeper i am a MOTHER!!!! I actually think that uni has prepared me for SAHMness better than anything else.

I had to laugh at my other friend though, she has a good job and is pregnant. Her DP is probably going to be the SAHD as she earns much more, her job is secure and she said that she thinks he will do better at home than she would because she would just veg out and be lazy in front of the TV wheras he will potter about doing DIY jobs and such like. I did manage to stop myself from laughing in her face - bless her, its her first child - SHE HAS NO IDEA!!! ROTFL. by the time she goes back to work the child will be a year old - her DP isn't going to have TIME to potter about . I came up with the perfect solution - he works part time, in a job share with me and I'll look after their bairn the rest of the time. Actually i didn't think about the childcare thing, but i could actually do that. Sorted!!!

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mrsgboring · 26/03/2009 12:14

Or you could get him to potter doing odd DIY jobs in your house while you babysit over at theirs.

francagoestohollywood · 26/03/2009 12:14

I don't find it insulting, and tbh I don't have problems in telling friends that I find some jobs rather boring.

wotulookinat · 26/03/2009 12:18

If anyone thinks being a SAHM is boring, they are welcome to entertain my son for a day! Sometimes it's knackering, most of the time it is masses of fun!

LEMAGAIN · 26/03/2009 12:22

Sometimes i find that i crave adult company as a SAHM, but in my previous life i spent hours on end in a small room with no windows,bent over a microscope, talked to no one all day - now THAT was boring!

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Curiousmama · 26/03/2009 12:24

I'm a sahm and both my kids are at school and I never get bored. My dp is on nightshift so we have days together during the week when he has 3 nights off sometimes. I can also see friends and family. I do want to go back to work part time though once we both get a house together. Sounds bad but it isn't worth while at the moment. I have little energy as it is (anxiety related). I like being able to cook homemade meals and keep the house reasonable. If I worked full time it'd be a midden or dp would have to do most of it.

Anyway, no it isn't boring. Some out of home jobs can be much more boring. I did work for 14 years before kids and hated quiet days that was so boring.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 26/03/2009 12:25

SAHM and 30 weeks pregnant with DS2. Just watching DS1 (2.4) smearing jam from his sandwich all over his face.....

I'm bored... I might go and join him...

LEMAGAIN · 26/03/2009 12:28

what is a midden?

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Idranktheeasterspirits · 26/03/2009 12:29

For LEM

claireybee · 26/03/2009 12:30

On the whole I don't find it boring, monotonous sometimes yes, but then working was like that too.

But maybe I don't find it boring because I am boring . I do find it difficult to make normal conversation sometimes...