To feeel angy that 3 adults (dh and pil) pinned my 3 yo ds1 down and forced him in pjamas

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I was upstairs putting ds2 to bed. I'd said that ds1 could watch his fave programme (sky + planner) when his pjs were on. Thought nothing more of it ds2 "said his goodnights" and up he went. Next thing he knew all hell was breaking loose downstairs ds1 was refusing to get in his pjs and dh and pil decided to pin him down and force them on. You'd never heard such a commotion and he was hysterical. I was so imo it was so unnecessary. Dh just said ds is always like this when he's tired! He was fine moments earlier and he'd slept for half an hour in his pushchair earlier and he is not usually like that! Still 24 hours later!

Does sound a little excessive but i know my ds1 can go into hysterical meltdown over pretty much anything if tired.

Do you generally have different parenting styles? Or was DH feeling pressured by his parents not to take 'any nonsense'.

YANBU. I would be furious!! Poor little lad

Did they hurt him? Is he still upset about it?

If both of those answers are no, then YABU.

YANBU.

Goes on in our house on occasion - and it don't take three. What a wimpish trio they must be

really - it took 3 of them??? I frequently force my 3yo ds into a variety of clothes all on my own.

god, are they weak???

I used to do this on my own

It depends on the type of pyjamas he's got tbh. Some of them are boggers!

You should only ever need three when its a case of forcing medicine into them - one to hold them down, the second to open the mouth, the third to squirt the medicine in

My DS1 is 3 and has a right temper on him but I would never force him to get dressed/undressed.

Far better to say 'no pjs, no tv' and follow it through.

I would be livid if anyone did that to DS1

Joking aside, he could have found that quite scary. It should only take one person, ffs. I'd have been annoyed too.

YANBU it doesnt need 3 adults to put a pair of pj's on a child, no wonder he was hysterical poor kid

sounds horrible, i'd be angry too.

hmm why did they bother? He should have just gone straight to bed while the grown ups got the wine out

you are ALL bonkers

yy, dd goes to be in whatever, i'm not picking a fight with her over pjs.

You don't need three for that ELF.

Meds in syringe, child on back on floor. Sit on child pinning arms, one hand to open their mouth one for the syringe - sorted!

OP - I would not have been chuffed.

which is to say that 99 times out of 100 she goes in a nightie, but that one time when she's strung out and i want to get on with my evening, a fairy costume it is.

I'm with morningpaper on this one. Ds is in bed now in his T shirt and night time nappy. If he doesn't want his pjs on he doesn't have them. He does have to go to bed but so long as clothes are ok for the weather it's up to them.

Metatron, you forgot to mention the "hold-the-nose-to-make-them-open-their-mouth" technique.

We have managed it once with two, but to be honest there was a fair amount of medicine up the wall
She usually takes medicine like a dream, but she had tonsillitis at christmas and was really poorly, with awful medicine (tasted it, was foul) and everytime she saw the bottle, she turned into a kung fu master!

agree with morning, sounds like fruitcake behaviour. Three adults to put a pair of jammies on a child.

Giving meds is easier than that, just hold them tight to your chest and squirt little bits at a time into their mouth(dont force and squirt at the back of the throat) if you get the technique right (nurse showed me when ds was very ill in hospital) it works every time