To feeel angy that 3 adults (dh and pil) pinned my 3 yo ds1 down and forced him in pjamas

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I was upstairs putting ds2 to bed. I'd said that ds1 could watch his fave programme (sky + planner) when his pjs were on. Thought nothing more of it ds2 "said his goodnights" and up he went. Next thing he knew all hell was breaking loose downstairs ds1 was refusing to get in his pjs and dh and pil decided to pin him down and force them on. You'd never heard such a commotion and he was hysterical. I was so imo it was so unnecessary. Dh just said ds is always like this when he's tired! He was fine moments earlier and he'd slept for half an hour in his pushchair earlier and he is not usually like that! Still 24 hours later!

I'd be cross too - partly because of the unneccessary upset caused, but mainly because of the bad way it was all handled. As other posters have said, between the three of them they could have thought out a better way to deal with the problem than that!!

The simple 'no pjs, no tv programme' approach should have been the first option, with a calm setting of a time limit - ie. 'if you aren't in your pjs in 5 minutes, then it's straight to bed and no tv' - repeated calmly and followed through if necessary.

I had this with my dh too - he has a bit of a tendency to go straight to ballistic and shouty without exploring other options first, when staying calm and in control is usually a far better solution. He's learning - slowly.