After the christmas holidays a new boy started DS's school. After a week, DS became obsessed with the boy and they became "best friends" or as DS put it "home boys"
He started talking like that all time, saying he was going out with his homies etc but DH said to let it go and that DS was just trying to act cool.
A few weeks later DS went to this friend's house for tea and came home doing gang sign things with his hands and holding his hand under his shirt as though he had a gun (and also started pretending to shoot people etc). I spoke to DH about it and he said "boys play guns, no big deal" but it wasn't just "playing guns" it was acting out this whole gang thing that was bothering me.
Next a neighbour complained that DS and his friends had been messing around in her front garden. She went out to tell him off and he turned around to her and said "stop tripping". I grounded him for 2 weeks.
Other things that have happened since then are DS and his friend being in trouble at school for calling a couple of girls 'hoes and bitches' and calling people 'muthafucker'. He is now on report for this.
The straw that broke the camels back however was that he went into a shop near us with this boy and opened a can from the fridge and started drinking it. When the shop assistant told them to pay for it immediately and that they shouldn't have opened it first, the other boy replied "chill the fuck out nigga" and DS said "before I pop a cap in your arse".
The shop assistant called the police. Its made even worse as the shop assistant was asian so the nigga comment has been taken as a racial slur.
This is now ongoing but I don't know what to do about the boy. We have been in to the school, they have seperated them during class but say they can't do much more. I don't want my son in any more trouble and I do NOT want him near this boy.
I know its not all his fault but this only started when he came to the school, DS was fine before that.