to not want a 15 year old girl I don't know at all to stay at my house for three weeks?

[emkana]

My aunt phoned me from Germany - she has a friend who has a daughter who would like to come to the UK to improve her English... so aunt thought of me... [sigh]

aibu to not want some teenager moping around my house for three weeks?

No
God no.

Aunt thinks it would be "nice" for me as girl could play with my children... can't see it myself

don't do it

Just
Say
No

Oh dear. I would be planning to move house and forget to give the aunt my forwarding address!

I'm imagining her as quite formidable. And formidable German ladies of a certain age are, um, intimidating. To me, at any rate, you are presumably MUCH better at fending them off

Well she might be cheerful & charming & love children - not necessarily a moper - any way of finding out?

If she's wanting to come, not having it imposed on her, you could get a lot out of it.

Would they be planning to pay you?

My mum knows her (not very well though) and thinks she's more in the moper category

Yes they would pay me some money towards food

Just don't even consider it.
It's a big deal to have a stranger in your home for that time.
I couldn't even cope with one of my dear sisters for that long!

Yes but she may be mopey at home because it's in the rules for teenagers.

You lot have a very negative opinion of teenagers - do you actually have anything to do with them currently? They can be delightful you know (esp when not with their parents!)

But I would feel like I would need to keep her entertained, drive her to places, make her stay worthwhile...

Stop even discussing it Emkana!
I hearby declare thread closed.She is not coming.

lol

I think you should bite the bullet and do it. You might like her and even if you don't it'll be a learning, growing experience.

Also if you turn this, um, opportunity down, you will retain a small amount of guilt about it forever. (I speak from experience.)

Where did the 3 weeks thing come from? How about saying maybe she could come for 2 weeks, & that you won't be able to entertain her, but she can watch English TV () & help you with the children if she would enjoy that.

If she's not keen on that suggestion then you can say no?

AND you can get her to babysit for a couple of nights so you can go out. There are so many ways you can make it work for you.

Also what if your children, when teenagers, want to spend some time in Germany, hmm...?

& moondog, won't your children be world citizens who want to visit other countries without their parents?

Christ,I'd rather indulge in vigorous mutual masturbatino with Trevor macdonald than have some teenager I didn't know from Adam in my house for 3 weeks.

Three weeks !!

My children spend nearly every school holiday in Germany as it is...

My kids Ponders???
They will be.I have sisters in Korean and caribbean and parents in Saudi. Too youngnow thoguh.

Anyway, surely you will speak German to her Em, which defeats object?

I'm loving the word "masturbatino" moondog

Agree, the thought of unknown teenager hanging around the house for three weeks makes blood run cold. No way.

Sounds like something a teen would do with a waiter on holiday eh?
(Or was that just me??)

Teenagers - especially someone else's - are generally really nice people (except possibly in gangs)

I'm genuinely shocked & saddened that you are being so negative about them.