My friend whacked my dog

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I invited my friend around this morning and she came wearing a woolen type coat. Anyway I have a staffordshire bull terrier dog who gets very excited when she sees new people and she kept jumping at my friend. I told her to get down but she was just excited. Then my friend said "Can you get her, she's ripping my coat".

She wasn't ripping her coat, she had just pulled it in a few places. Anyway I grabbed her and my friend sat down with a cup of coffee. We were just chatting at my dog suddenly got excited again and ran toward the sofa. I saw my friend roll her eyes so I called the dog back. She ignored me and jumped up on my friend and tried to sit on her knee. This spilt some coffee on the sofa and on her jeans. I shouted at the dog and she muttered "for fucks sake" so as the dog started toward me my friend bent down to put the cup on the floor and the dog turned back thinking she was playing and dived on her. At the point she just whacked her across the face the dog wasn't bothered but I still thought it was totally out of order so I said "there was no need to hit her" so she said "Look at my fucking coat, its all pulled, it's my only coat and its ruined". There was a few pulls on it but nothing noticable.

AIBU for being annoyed that she hit my dog when she was only excited? if she was biting etc I could understand but she was just trying to be friendly and my friend is SUPPOSED to be a dog lover

Oddly Coffeecolouredcloud - I feel like slapping you across the face, having read that OP.

Or, you could go to her house and she could tug and pull at your expensive winter coat, then she could throw herself onto your knee, spilling your hot coffee and whilst you are bending down she could dive on your head.

That would be fair wouldn't it?

TROLL

I'm going back to my secret garden now. Have a nice coffeecovered day

Jumping - the light is dawning here too, I did wonder if it was for real, but had not noted that it was a staffy dog - so obviously a thread designed to bring out the anti/pro staffy arguement again

yawn

JB - but I do feel stupid now

YABTU, your dog was out of control despite your friend clearly being uncomfortable. If you cannot train your dog not to jump up at people when they visit your house, put it in the garden - its not rocket science!

If i were there i would have smacked you instead of the dog. [joke] but why be pissed off when your friend did what you should have done ages ago!

Might not be a troll. Some people are complete idiots about their dogs. Memories of my mum's neighbour's dog (pit bull terrier - nice) pulling DD along the length of the sofa by her ponytail. Dog owners laughed in the 'oh look at Fluffy playing with dd' vein. Did not understand at all that I was pissed off (and dd was crying). I think if you need to keep a bloody cage in your sitting room in which to house your dog perhaps that dog is not the kind to keep (but that is another thread).

Oh, its a troll - why why why do i keep feeding the fuckers!

Gooseyloosey - I agree. I would not have bashed someone elses dog but I would pushed it away firmly and got it under control.

Dogs are like children. A dog or a child is a joy if well behaved. An out of control child or dog is toil and a burden to all concerned.

Oh I have no hesitation in whacking someone's dog if I think they are out of control. I bloody hate it when dog owners are walking their animals off the leash in a children's play area, and then when they jump up at your terrified child they say "she won't hurt them!" Oh well that's fine then! I'll just let the mutt put it's dirty paws all over my child, terrify the living daylights out of her and slobber all over her face!

No, I'll kick it or whack it and if they complain I'll point out that walking a dog in public areas near children off the leash is illegal. And they are welcome to take me to court anytime. My children are far more important than their bloody hounds.

I have never shouted troll before, I hate it. I try and give the benefit of the doubt, but surely...

you have a staffy and most staffs act like that mine does in future put it in another romm or better still dont invite her again.

YABVVVU.

I would have whacked it the first time it jumped up and ruined my coat.

You really should not have a dog you cannot control but I bet you are one of these people who own a staffie and have no idea that it needs to be trained and made aware that certain behaviour is not acceptable.

Do you take it for walks too? I ask because my dog doesn't jump up people because she knows not to - she gets all her energy out in the time she is walked.

I'm with you there Kerry. But not until I'd got a cheque for the value of my coat from the OP.

If not troll, then vvvu. Have some control over your pet. People can be animal lovers without wanting to be slobbered over and pawed by uncontrollable overcitable dogs.

I don't think you be excusing any damage caused by your dog on the grounds that it's "barely noticeable". If it is your friend's only coat she is entitled to be pissed off (but not to hit your dog). You should have put the dog away if she that excitable.

Bottom line is your dog needs to develop bite inhibition (which involves not using her teeth anywhere near humans) and some discipline. You need to take her classes. This is especially crucial given her breed.

The difficulty is that once you've got the sofa under the bridge there's no space left to shut the dog away from visitors. And if you put it on top of the bridge, its going to chase the goats.

Does anyone else think it's troll central round here today?
WTF is going on??

YABU- I also have a mad staffie that jumps up, i shut her out when people come over apart from my neighbour (who also has a mad staffie), my neighbour would hit my dog if she got over excited and started jumping on her. I wouldn't let my dog jump all over a guest, i would have pulled the dog off and removed it from the room.

It is tough with dogs that don't behave as you want them to be around people to teach them how to behave IYKWIM, but i think you need to ask people first if they mind a dog jumping on them.

She should not have laid a finger on your dog.

However - you just let him bounce around and you didn't take charge? That was wrong. You could clearly see she wasn't happy. The sensible thing to do would have been to remove the dog. - it also needs training. It should be taught to not jump up at people.

YABU- That would piss me off too tbh