My friend whacked my dog

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I invited my friend around this morning and she came wearing a woolen type coat. Anyway I have a staffordshire bull terrier dog who gets very excited when she sees new people and she kept jumping at my friend. I told her to get down but she was just excited. Then my friend said "Can you get her, she's ripping my coat".

She wasn't ripping her coat, she had just pulled it in a few places. Anyway I grabbed her and my friend sat down with a cup of coffee. We were just chatting at my dog suddenly got excited again and ran toward the sofa. I saw my friend roll her eyes so I called the dog back. She ignored me and jumped up on my friend and tried to sit on her knee. This spilt some coffee on the sofa and on her jeans. I shouted at the dog and she muttered "for fucks sake" so as the dog started toward me my friend bent down to put the cup on the floor and the dog turned back thinking she was playing and dived on her. At the point she just whacked her across the face the dog wasn't bothered but I still thought it was totally out of order so I said "there was no need to hit her" so she said "Look at my fucking coat, its all pulled, it's my only coat and its ruined". There was a few pulls on it but nothing noticable.

AIBU for being annoyed that she hit my dog when she was only excited? if she was biting etc I could understand but she was just trying to be friendly and my friend is SUPPOSED to be a dog lover

Come on everyone. I'm not even a dog lover but a 'cat person' (though would never hurt a dog), and agree it should be trained, but do you really think it's acceptable to let a so called friend assault your pet?

YABVU - the dog was causing the problem and you should have controlled it, or kept it out of the room if you couldn't. She can't have hit the dog very hard if it wasn't bothered, sounds like she just took a swipe at it in exasperation.

You can be a dog lover but still get very very annoyed at other peoples unruly dogs. I'm a dog lover but I've hit peoples dogs when they've jumped up at my kids.

Fair enough, this dog was in your own home and she should accept that the dog is going to be there in your home. But if you want to keep your friends, you'd train your dog.

Staffys are bloody strong and can do a lot of damage - when he jumped up onto her knee was she hurt? Was she scaled by the hot coffee? Are you really more concerned about the dog than your friend's welfare?

Your attitude speaks volumes. It's your dog, your home, your life, but don't complain about not having any friends when you treat them like that.

It is completely out of order that she hit your dog but you need to get your dog under control. It really annoys me when my MIL says that her dog is just excited as the dog repeatedly knocks my 3yo flying.

Actually, have you thought of offering to pay for/repair her coat? It might be that you could repair the pulls with judicious/patient application of a darning needle.

YABU. Train your dog and keep it out of the room if it is a nuisance. Your friend made it clear several times she was unhappy with the dog jumping around her and you did nothing.

TBH your attitude to keeping an under trained dog gives real dog lovers a bad name

YABU - she shouldn't have hit the dog but when she started pulling at her coat I would have put her out in the kitchen/garden (the dog that is) It sounds like your dog needs training and I wouldn't come back to visit until you either realised you were being unreasonable or trained the dog.

yabu(an I LOVE staffs)

Well I think you should have shut him out if he can't behave sensibly. But no, she shouldn't have hit him.

YABVU!

YABU, did she whack it hard or tap it?

I watch the dog whisperer (too much ) and he often taps or pokes the dogs in the neck. He's even knocked a rotty on the face before according to dp but that dog was nasty although he turned it nice.

Ditto dog training, you are being dominated by your dog. You think it's just being friendly but it's showing who's boss.

1/10. Thought half term was last week.

Is that an invite then Pagwatch?

It would depend on whether there was wine or not. If they have wine I sometimes ignore my "no dog" rule.

It depends on the dog, I once had a friend whose dog always tried to hump my leg and my friend wouldn't intervene so I stopped going round. I won't go anywhere with big scary dogs because I am a bit of a wimp.

MrsSeanBean - the OP says the dog wasn't bothered, so surely it can't have been much of a contact made.

whilst I do not condone violence of any kind, what did you expect - you want your friends to tolerate this behaviour from your dog?

YABU - if you were a responsible owner your dog would not be behaving like that. would it have been the same if she had a child with her?

Have you changed your name Coffee or just joined mn?

You're thinking the same as me dontlookatmeimshy.

Christ. She didn't bludgeon the dog, she (presumably) slapped it. Some posters are more concerned about the welfare of a dog rather than a human being covered in hot coffee.

I would not feel guilty about hitting a dog if it jumped up on me or dd.

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My dog doesn't leg hump either. Although my friends little boy used to . I always found a glass of wine distracted me at those times.

oh and whether her coat really was damaged or not is irrelevant - the fact is that you continued to ALLOW your dog to behave in a way which COULD have seriously damaged the coat or even injured your friend

have you no respect for her feelings??

Oh come on everyone, re-read the OP. NO one is that thick surely to think this is ok?

To my mind a woollen coat with a few pulls would be a ruined woollen coat, so YABVVU

SoupD is thinking the same too JJ

didn't mean you're all thick just mean no dog owner is that thick to allow their dog to do this. I have a very excitable dog but I get him under control thanks to Cesar Milan