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Original poster

to be pissed off last night as the cinema cos someone took their little boy to a film rated 12 which didn't finish til gone 11pm?

31 replies

juicychops · 22/02/2009 13:48

went to cinema last night to see He's just not that into you (which i thought was very good). its rated 12 and started after 8.30pm and didn't finish until after 11pm. i sat at the end next to the aisle. in the seat next to me but the other side of the aisle was a boy aged no more than 7 with his mum.

he was so bored and kept talking, moaning, getting up, jumping around, etc he was really really bored. i felt so sorry for him and his mum just kept pulling him back into his chair and moaning at him to be quiet. i was going to offer his mum the rest of my sweets for him but thought she might have a go at me for interfering.

it really pissed me off that she could be selfish like that and make the poor boy watch a film too old for him, that he would clearly not find interesting in the slightest, and have to stay up so late as well. AIBU?

OP posts:
LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 22/02/2009 13:49

No, he should have been in bed not made to watch a film too old for him

yanbu

Nabster · 22/02/2009 13:49

I am thinking she probably had no one to watch her child so she could go out and probably didn't enjoy the film much with having to sort him out and sensing disapproval from people.

giantkatestacks · 22/02/2009 13:50

yeah you are being a bit u - did you drag your poor old dp along who would have had the same reaction?

belgo · 22/02/2009 13:50

yanbu

StealthPolarBear · 22/02/2009 13:50

Was it a 12a or a 12? or is there nodifference?
(I don't get out much!)

belgo · 22/02/2009 13:52

if she had no one to babysit then she needs to wait until it comes out on dvd or is on the tv. Or go to a sunday afternoon showing.

compo · 22/02/2009 13:52

yanbu

compo · 22/02/2009 13:52

agree with belgo, she should do what the rest of us do and not ruin her son's and everyone else's sat night

giantkatestacks · 22/02/2009 13:53

In all seriousness the age thing is a problem but it is advisory.

The judgemental stuff about his bedtime is a bit off though - they might just do things different in their house and it wasnt a school night.

LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 22/02/2009 13:54

DP's jump around, talk and moan through films kate?

giantkatestacks · 22/02/2009 13:56

True Laurie - mine would just tut and shift in his seat a lot then eventually fall asleep and then moan all the way home about how shite it was.

belgo · 22/02/2009 13:56

let's hope he doesn't snore then kate!

Original poster
juicychops · 22/02/2009 13:57

didn't drag dp there, went with a friend

OP posts:
CherryChoc · 22/02/2009 19:20

Stealth 12A is in cinema, 12 is just for DVDs now. So they are the same thing.

ellingwoman · 22/02/2009 19:23

She might have been locked out?

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 22/02/2009 19:23

Not the same. 12A means under 12s have to have an adult with them.

violethill · 22/02/2009 19:29

YANBU.

Very selfish of this other woman to drag a kid along to something unsuitable and cause annoyance to other people.

nooka · 22/02/2009 19:35

When we went to see The Return of the Sith, at about the same time in the evening, there was a dad with two small children (they looked about 4 and 6 at most). They both grizzled a bit and then fell asleep. I cannot see the point in taking children to unsuitable films after their bedtime. They don't enjoy it, the parent doesn't enjoy it and no one else likes it either. There are many many films dh and I have missed over the last ten years, but we chose to have children, and IMO having to find babysitters in order to go and see adult films is par for the course. I think we have managed to see about five films, where we used to go most weeks. I feel that there will be time enough to catch up on our cinematography in a couple of years when the children are OK on their own, or their social life is such that we will have plenty of night alone!

PersephoneSnape · 22/02/2009 21:05

I'm annoyed at people taking lairy toddlers to bolt yesterday, so I'm not really in a happy enough place to comment.

yanbu. children shouldn't go to the cinema until they are of an age to appreciate that there are other people there, who have paid a bloody fortune to see a film. it's a big dark room. toddlers are scared, bigger children shouldn't be seeing something age inmappropriate and may well be bored rigid or scarred for life and grown ups should wait until it comes out on dvd.

i don't get to go the cinema half as much as i would like to - when i do get to go, it's a big outing for us. I don't like it spoiled by other peoples lack of manners

Simplysally · 22/02/2009 21:11

Yanbu - it drives me mad when people take tiny children to see films that aren't designed for them. I still take dd to afternoon showings for 'her' films and she is 8. When I do go out, I don't want kids there.

(I also hate popcorn rustlers, mobile phone chatters, and seat-kickers/fidgeters but that is beside the point....)

staffylover · 22/02/2009 21:46

It makes me wonder why some people go to the cinema...........they talk, make noise when they eat and despite being asked to turn off the mobile they continually use it. If you want to eat, go before you enter the cinema, its probably cheaper by the way! If you find you don`t like the film, feck off!

lollipopmother · 22/02/2009 21:50

You're being unreasonable to be pissed at just the age issue, it's got nothing to do with you how late the child is up. However, you're not being unreasonable to be pissed at someone (anyone) ruining the film, that would piss me off too.

Simplysally · 23/02/2009 09:49

Surely if the film is a 12, the cinema has broken the law by letting in an 8yr old?

FAQinglovely · 23/02/2009 09:59

He's just not that into You is a 12A rating which

according to the BBFC means

"12A ? Suitable for 12 years and over. No-one younger than 12 may see a ?12A? film in a cinema unless accompanied by an adult. No-one younger than 12 may rent or buy a ?12? rated video or DVD. Responsibility for allowing under-12s to view lies with the accompanying or supervising adult."

babyignoramus · 23/02/2009 10:28

I used to work in a cinema, and right from the start I noticed that the birth of the 12A signalled the death of the babysitter. It's cheaper to buy a child a ticket than to pay for childcare. Just because the child is allowed in doesn't mean the film is actually suitable. Poor little souls are usually bored stiff!