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To want DD to distance herself from this girl?

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 16:54

DD aged 6 sent her best friend a lovely email today, asking how her half term was going and what she had been up to etc and this is the reply she got.

Hi (DD) your club is not as cool and great and asome as mine. and my TV is nicer than yours I can wach The wicklist link and Raods darls matilda and HSM3 HSM2 and HSM1. But my sleep room is biger and better than yours and now I must go oh Todels (Other girl)

The friend is a september born 7 yr old and we have had 'ishoos' before. I don't think I'm being precious..........am I?

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HecateQueenOfGhosts · 19/02/2009 16:56

No. she sounds like a brat.

Lizzylou · 19/02/2009 16:56

Goodness, she's lovely, isn't she

Is this normal girls behaviour? (I have two boys, younger than this)

ForeverOptimistic · 19/02/2009 16:57

No idea what HSM3 etc means, I presume they are TV channels?

I think it is pretty normal for this age group, my niece has a 6 year old and she is always complaining that all her friends are like this.

LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 19/02/2009 16:58

you can want it but don't say it. Kids say all kinds of crap and they are still very young and getting used to emailing.

She's 7, if she was still saying this at 17 then there would be a problem.

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:01

Thats what I think, what the hell will she be like as a teen! HSM is high school musical. DD is certainly no angel, but she's not a bitch! Def not 'normal' for all 6/7 year olds.

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nickschick · 19/02/2009 17:01

If shes 7 her spelling should be better than that - i think shes watching too much tv in her big bedroom/sleep place ....id deffo help my dd find a better class of friend (if i had a dd that is, as it is ds friends dont seem to be to bothered by such stuff)

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:02

My DD's spelling was brilliant and she used lots of emoticons and punctuation- a MNetter in the making.

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Lizzylou · 19/02/2009 17:02

Is the girl like this in person as well as via email?
If so, I'd start sterring your DD as gently as possible towards some other friends.
Poor thing, was she upset by the email?

LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 19/02/2009 17:03

I think calling her a bitch is too strong - you're putting adult motivations on her email. She could just be poor at communicating in writing.

pingping · 19/02/2009 17:04

Agree Laurie.

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:05

She was really upset- she went all pale and went to lie on her bed- bless! She's not overly sensitive either. Yes the girl can be a cow in RL. I would be upset to get this off a friend (you know what I mean) never mind a 6 year old.

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ForeverOptimistic · 19/02/2009 17:05

Not all 6/7 year old girls are like this, my niece isn't and I wasn't but a lot are. I think you are looking into it too much. I agree with Laurie she may just be a poor communicator.

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:06

No Laurie, her mum emailed and said she was in a really bad mood. It was definitely meant in the spirit in which we read it.

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Sassybeast · 19/02/2009 17:08

I would never let my 6 year old send/read emails without peering over her shoulder so whilst she sounds like a bit of a madam, I'd be more pissed off at her mum tbh. Hope your little one is ok.

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:09

She isn't a poor communicator, has typed emails quite well in the past.

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Lizzylou · 19/02/2009 17:10

Your poor DD

Goodness help that girl's mother when she hits her teens then!

jemart · 19/02/2009 17:12

Probably no need to steer your dd away from this girl, if she was as upset as you say I am sure she will avoid her all by herself.

ForeverOptimistic · 19/02/2009 17:15

I can remember when I was that age one of my friends said "we've got a fitted kitchen, you only have council units". "You got a second hand bike for Xmas I got a new one", "Your mum has fatter arms than my mum" . She was actually a nice girl and did grow up to be well balanced. I think sometimes girls get a hormone surge around this age and if they are feeling insecure about something they try to put others down. I'm sure it is probably down to jealousy.

LadyThompson · 19/02/2009 17:16

Yep. Steer her away. Kids KNOW when they are being rotten, even at that age. 'Bad mood' indeed! Horrid little madam.

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 17:18

Thats interesting FG, the girl is what you would call 'spoilt' with material possesions, but they are having issues with her and her brother (age 3) being aggressive. Hopefully it could be something like you mention.

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mamas12 · 19/02/2009 18:05

Do you mean to say her mother knew that she was sending this to you and that she was excusing it by saying she was in a bad mood. Not fair on your dd by either of them imo is it. Poor you and to cheer your dd up. Go and invite other friends around fo a treat for her.

Lilliput · 19/02/2009 18:08

Quite suprised that kids of that age are emailing each other to be honest.

cory · 19/02/2009 18:14

Agree with Lilliput. Precisely because girls this age do often have problems with communication and bitching is common, I think emails are better left for older children. The upset of the written word lasts longer.

And the spelling is not that abnormal for a 7-year-old. Dd who learnt to read relatively late was still a poor speller at this age, but has now caught up and is very good at literacy. Ds who is 8 is also quite a poor speller.

bamboostalks · 19/02/2009 18:17

If you know that she is nasty, then of course distance your dd but that email sounds like an awful lot of stuff that girls just say at that age. I doubt that it would sound quite so damming if spoken. She wasn't abusive just boasting. A bit of an over reaction on here I think. I also hate calling 7 year olds bitches.

bamboostalks · 19/02/2009 18:18

x post cory.

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