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To want DD to distance herself from this girl?

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suwoo · 19/02/2009 16:54

DD aged 6 sent her best friend a lovely email today, asking how her half term was going and what she had been up to etc and this is the reply she got.

Hi (DD) your club is not as cool and great and asome as mine. and my TV is nicer than yours I can wach The wicklist link and Raods darls matilda and HSM3 HSM2 and HSM1. But my sleep room is biger and better than yours and now I must go oh Todels (Other girl)

The friend is a september born 7 yr old and we have had 'ishoos' before. I don't think I'm being precious..........am I?

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ScummyMummy · 19/02/2009 18:24

Your posts are lovely, ForeverOptimistic. You definitely live up to your name and I think and hope you are right. Hope your dd feels better soon, suwoo.

Katiestar · 19/02/2009 18:24

i think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.
She is a 7 yr old girl in a strop acting like a 7 yr old girl in a strop Delete the email and teach your DD how to build bridges not hold grudges

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 18:33

My dd is 7 and uses email but not like this to her best friend but to email her dad and friends we have left behind. She would not send an email like this not least becauuse she cant email without me opening it up for her.

She did once email without my knowledge and sent a mail to various friends/ relations saying "I love you lost and lost"

But having said that dd does have the odd diva moment and I would hate to think she would be labelled a bitch for it. 7 year old girls can be vey insecure and this can lead to the need to big themselves up and say things they do not mean.

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 18:37

I suspect suwoo that you may be about to get a tough time on this thread and I do totally get the fact that it is horrible seeing someone upsetting your child. I dont think for one moment that you think this child is a bitch, but she has hurt your precious child.

PlumBumMum · 19/02/2009 18:39

Little girls can be like that sometimes, but that e-mail was abit much and I would tell your dd not to bother too much about her for awhile, she won't be long changing her attitude

HMC · 19/02/2009 18:41

Agree with Katiestar!

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 18:42

I think a lot of this depends what the issues are that have happened before. My dd had a friend before we moved that used to say things like this and it stemmed from insecurity. I explained this to dd so she was not upset by it.

mloo · 19/02/2009 18:46

DS is 9, exchanges emails to cousins he rarely sees in person.
They constantly brag in these emails, and make one-up comments. Like we have a Wii -- did I mention we have a PS3?, etc. "Oh, we have a PS3 not an old PS2"
So I wouldn't think anything of the email in OP. Bit self-centred, but that's what little kids are like.

TheyCallMePeachy · 19/02/2009 18:57

I want to be foreveroptimistic is she doesn'tknow what HSM3 is LOL, I ahve 3 boys and know toobloody well

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 19:00

I wondered as well how a parent cannot know what HSM3 is.

bamboostalks · 19/02/2009 19:08

That is why she is optimistic, she doesn't know what these things are.

Frasersmum123 · 19/02/2009 19:14

I agree TheyCallMePeachy, Its all I have had over the holidays!

Was your DD upset? If she was then I would be worried, but if she didnt take it to heart I wouldnt worry.

TheyCallMePeachy · 19/02/2009 19:15

MIOne dont like Nen10 though whioch is great (actually they dontlike HSM either- wellds3 does- its still everywhere though)

after me girls 'we're all in this together (but you can watch Pea-chy running out the gym doors to throw'

ForeverOptimistic · 19/02/2009 20:05

Thank you scummymummy.

I haven't completely managed to escape High School Musical, nieces are obsessed by it. Ds won't watch anything that doesn't involve pirates, knights, aliens and racing cars so fortunately I haven't been forced to watch it yet!

Original poster
suwoo · 19/02/2009 20:56

I haven't disappeared, I've been at work. Yes DD was upset but is over it now . She is more than capable of emailing by herself as my parents live in France she emails them frequently.

I have thought about it a lot whilst at work and perhaps I am projecting a bit. I went through this sort of thing at 14-16 (which most girls do) and just was upset that she was experiencing those sort of feelings at such an early age.

There have been issues with the other girl that have been dealt with by the school and the mum is struggling with her aggression like I said earlier.

Katiestar, I haven't mentioned it again to DD and I'm not teaching her to hold grudges.

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twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:00

I think it is quite natural to project suwoo and it just shows you are a mum who thinks things through and wants the best for dd. When we moved I remembered how much I hated moving and projected all my own fears and anxieties onto dd. She was fine and ios actually happier now.

Glad your dd is happier now.

Original poster
suwoo · 19/02/2009 21:08

Thanks twinset.

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plonker · 19/02/2009 21:08

Wow, I'm more surprised at 6/7 yo emailing each other tbh ...when did I get old?!

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:19

I think plonker it is more common among children who perhaps have moved away from friends. Dd is used to communicating with people that way and sometimes when emailing her gran or old friends she will email her best friend.

Original poster
suwoo · 19/02/2009 21:22

Like I said, she emails her grandparents in France and is used to me being permanently on mumsnet and hotmail etc.

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twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:22

lol at used to you being permanently on mumsnet.

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:22

lol at used to you being permanently on mumsnet.

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:22

lol at used to you being permanently on mumsnet.

twinsetandpearls · 19/02/2009 21:23

sorry I clearly found that very funny

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