... to find the idea that women choose men for their money insulting?

[goodnightmoon]

a new study says women's orgasms are linked to the size of their partners' bank balances.

I am so fed up with reading all the time about how women select their mates solely for financial reasons. I never considered marrying a man for money. I was brought up to have my own career and make my own money.

I know there are obvious examples of young, beautiful women and hideous older rich men. I'm not saying some women don't do this.

But on a broader basis, isn't more true that men capable of making money are simply more attractive partners for many reasons, such as intelligence, confidence, attractiveness, etc.?

Did you choose your partner because of his bank balance?

Isn't the great thing about psychology that nobody agrees on anything really? Or at least you will always find a dissenting voice.

I agree that men are not hardwired for infedility and my opinions are only from my own wee head so in no date at all

LOL - just realised my typo

wanking - notwithsanding

Hope not!

Maddy, there is a huge amount of consensus in psychpology. This thread is not representative, as you well know! You'd like that book too, I think.

Isn;t your H. Flick an ev. biologist?

this one

I've just finished a degree in psychology myself - and I saw some definite bickering for sure.

Oh, well then you know - you only get breakthroughs with bickering - or some such - falsification being the essential element in progress.

I dont need a man to keep me financially but I do need one to read a map. Just as well SATNAV was inventented.

Rich mens willies taste better.

Fact.

Says you DonaldTrump LynetteScavo

There are people who marry for money. Men or women. Why is this research only for women?

Also in other cultures is the other way around because of the custom of drowry (sp?)

Here in Cyprus the parents of the bride provide the house plus cash so yes there are men who might choose their wife based on this. I think the same custom exists in parts of Greece and Turkey, many Arab countries and India.

The study isn't about people who marry for money Tira. That's just the spin the media are putting on it.

no, but my OP is about this myth or truth or whatever you consider it about women going for rich men.

I dont know which is worse, love or money nothing is guaranteed.

But...

I personally think that men (if given the opportunity) marry for looks, you dont see the ugly girls getting chatted up, or the ugly girls in the Most Want to Shag Lists, you also dont see he ugly men getting chatted up, unless they drive a Ferrari, money is a aphrodisiac, for both sexes, you have money you dress better, smell better, live better, go to better place, have more opportunity.

My poor mother married for L O V E got her heart broken and has been alone ever since 30 yrs.

If I had my time all over again from being a young lady I would have been more savvy about my choice of boyfriends, I went for pretty, lots of nice memories, but no diamonds!

Wasn't there a previous study that said that women tended to marry more nurturing men who hang around to help bring up children but then have affairs with more traditionally successful men? Or could that be hummingbirds?

Well okay, but that's nothing to do with the study. And even if women were more attracted to resource rich men, as well as good looking men, that still does not imply 'gold-digging' it means women fall in love with men they feel they can rely on in a number of ways. Men who are averagely good providers and averagely good looking actually do best by this female tendency - as do averagely good looking women too. The media is interested in the extremes is all and they misreporesent anything and everything to do with sex cos it sells papers!

The whole golddigger myth is a misnomer. Just let the boys fight it out among themselves.

Flaminhell I think you do men a disservice I am an ugly bird and have never had a shortage of men wanting to chat me up.

Well, there is nothing to say to that twins, apart from my hypothesis is truly knackered now!

like attracts like. (Don't fancy yours much Twinset!)

Thanks Eve [hmmm]

My friend has had two rich partners in a row and both of them are as tight as a gnat's chuff. What fun we had when she split with the last one - I made her remove the bulbs from the fittings

My DP earns pretty much the average salary and is v generous with it. Good enough for me.

I've found that when men say 'It's not fair, women don't want me becuase I don't have a Ferrari' what they really mean is 'It's not fair, women half my age who look like FHM models don't want me because I don't have a Ferrari'. Boo hoo fellas.