To think someone should have rushed to help DS??

[sally78]

My DS is here they are everywhere but quite small still. We were at a baby group today and he was happily playing. I crossed the room to get his lunch and as I turned back to get him I saw him summersalt over a piece of furniture and fall on the floor! Lots of mums were sitting right next to him but not one moved they just looked and gasped!

I ran like the wind, he was very still for a few seconds, then let out a massive scream I felt terrible!!!!!!!!

I was upset that nobody got up, I was only about 6secs run away but it felt like forever whilst they just sat their drinking tea!

I think in the situation the OP describes, the other mums knew she was on her way and that's why they didn't get involved.

I think if she'd nipped to the loo and he'd fallen then somone would've picked him up until she got back.

This is going to sound patronising and I'm trying to word it so it doesn't but the reactions of a PFB mum are so different to a mum of 2 or more.

When I just had DS1 I would've thought 'you heartless cows!' Picked him up, cwtched him, kissed him, checked him all over

Now with DD, no 3, I stand her up, check her all over, usually just a bump and say 'oh look dd, you're fine, now give me a kiss and off you go to play big brave girl'

She has been toughened up by having 2 big brothers.

And I can tell from how she cries if she is hurt or just shocked from falling/bump etc, whereas with my own PFB every cry was heartbreaking for me.

I would always help if a child was lost or on it's own. I think the reaction of parents is to do with their own panic, a bit like when DS1 has gone out to play and wandered off. When I have found him, after running all the horrible possibilities through my head, I have an initial Thank God you're safe moment with him, and then I just want to give him a good bollocking!

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sally - not read the whole thread but I have to say that I'd be nervous to do anything. People can be very precious about their LOs and do not appreciate anyone touching them. Very sad yes, but true to a great extent. If I had been there I would have picked him up but only if no-one came to help him straight away as you did. You don't always get thanked for 'helping'.

Ah... I see others think the same way. Only intervene if carer doesn't appear immediately. It can be seen as unwarranted inteferencce and a slight on the parent

Pitchounette, no-one was going nuts about paedophiles here, in fact it has been acknowledged again and again that it is very unlikely throughout the thread.

No crazyness to see here...

yabu

they saw you were there, what could they do in six seconds

pickhim up and hand him to you? sheesh thats neccesssary...not

you were right there, they didn't need to do anything