mentally ill mum...

[adorabelle]

I think she could well be bi-polar or have some type of clinical depression which leads to her to being extremely unpredictable (with regards to mood swings) & means I,& my 14 yrold sister who lives with her, end up being totally mystified by her behaviour.

She's unreasonable to the point where all around her are dumbfounded by her bizzare decisions & ways of dealing with the situation. Any advice on how to handle this.

I am a sufferer of diagnosed clinical depression, so am sensitive to such matters.
My mums moods/emotions surpass any kind of feelings I have been through. I need help as I'm slowly but surely distancing myself from my mum, this is not what she needs
Thank You.

No practical answers for you, I'm afraid, adorabelle, but hopefully someone will come along with some decent advice for you.

I have friends and family who live with bipolar, but I can't think of the best advice for prompting someone to seek care for themselves.

Does your mum ever acknowledge the unreasonableness of her behaviour?

My mum has been diagnosed with bi-polar in the past but more recently borderline personality disorder (i have discovered that people can have both illnesses but not many doctors like to diagnose both together). Is your mum currently on medication? I find it really difficult to deal with my mum all the time, it can be really draining and also dont want to have her around my children when she is at her worst which means i have had to leave her on her own when she is threatening suicide (she has attempted it lots of times). The lack of care and professionals to turn to in times of need is what leaves me most frustrated and there are no answers to anything. I have no useful advice for you, but i do understand why you would feel that you need to distance yourself from her. I've been trying to look for support groups for families of people with mental illness, but havent been able to find any yet.

Thank you snigger.

techpep,I am now 32 & I honestly believe she has had some kind of personality disorder or bi-polar since I was small, about 8. Yes she has beenn diagnosed as having depression, but like myself, who can hide symtoms v.well, her major problem has never been clinically diagnosed.

She is displaying all the characteristic of being Personality Disordered, far too complex to go in to.... But it's now getting to the point where I am finding it v.hard to deal with. My sister is coming to stay on Friday night & on Saturday myself, dd & ds will be visiting one of my close friends...Mum has Hit The Roof that I'm taking ds to friends house as (as she put it) 'I don't know why you need to arrange to see your friends when you have Bea visiting'.

She's gone mental over this & this isn't the first occasion she's been unreasonable about certain situations.

Will be at friends house for lunch & there for a maximum of 2 hours.

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