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DH said I should be cleaning the skirting boards in the hall and not on MN,

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chewitt · 31/01/2009 20:45

have not sat down all day, was up loads in the night last night with DS3. Is it normal to not do housework,even if there's stuff to be done, if you're tired and want to sit and veg for a while?

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NotPlayingAnyMore · 01/02/2009 11:05

He fell out with you about it?

You didn't do it did you?

LucyEllensmummy · 01/02/2009 11:43

If i started cleaning the skirting boards in the hall - i think my DP would call a doctor, as it would be SO out of character he would think i was having a breakdown - well that, or pregnant! .

MakkaPakkaStacker · 01/02/2009 11:57

I must admit I love clean skirting boards and clean mine all the time

But dh would never tell me to do another cleaning job instead- he wouldn't dare! Also, his eyes don't really see mess or dirt. He's lucky like that!

PinkTulips · 01/02/2009 12:16

the last time i cleaned skirting boards was when heavily pregnant with dd(4) and having a nesting episode at 1am as i was convinced SS would take her away if the PHN saw my filthy skirting boards.

dp shouted at me for being mad and told me i was endangering the baby doing too much cleaning

if a job needs doing then whoever sees it need sdoing should do it..... not sure i'd count skirting board scuff in the category of 'urgent' but if he thinks it is then what's stopping him picking up a cloth and wiping it?

and after 7pm housework is illegal, does he not know that?

catsmother · 01/02/2009 16:08

Ha ...... the only time I have ever cleaned the skirting boards is the same as PinkTulips - when I was heavily pregnant and madly imagining that "germs" on skirting boards, pipework and plug sockets would otherwise threaten my babies' lives.

Twice in 19 years in other words.

Fleurlechaunte · 01/02/2009 16:17

My exH once said to me "Can you come and look at something with me?" I got up and went to look and he pointed at a dusty skirting board and said "I don't think I need to say anything else do I?" The row that followed was apocalyptic.

He used to a lot of stuff like that. I particularly remember complaining of being shattered when bf on demand a 5 week old and running around after a 3 year old with HFA and he said to me "I know hardworking and busy women Fleur and you are not one of them".

I don't want to launch into a rant about your dh being controlling and leave him at once etc but ime there is something very wrong about men who notice dusty skirting boards and then order their wives to clean them.

DoThisDoThat · 01/02/2009 17:30

Jaysus Fleur, that's a shocker. Thought my exH was a twat.

NotPlayingAnyMore · 01/02/2009 17:33

PinkTulips has also just reminded me that the least time I cleaned skirting boards was when DS was in a breech position a week or 2 before I was due. 52 card pick up off the floor also did the trick.
That was 8 years ago. The only other times I've given them a second glance has been cleaning before or after moving.

ChippingIn · 01/02/2009 21:47

Fleur I think 'My exH' sums it up nicely!!

What a twat!

Fleurlechaunte · 01/02/2009 22:58

Oh he was unbelievable. The skirting board dig was made at around the same time I believe. Dd couldn't have been more than a couple of months old. This was the man who disappeared for three days without so much as a phone call when dd was two weeks old. Bear in mind I had had a CSection and also had another small child to look after. No friends or family nearby. Mind you I don't know what I expected because he was not around often during ds's first year either. I may as well have been a single parent even then.

When I had PND he said "I am not buying into it, if you buy into people's moods then they get worse and worse, I am not standing for any nonsense" and he didn't

Sorry don't mean to hijack, skirting boards in the title just struck a chord with me.

LucyEllensmummy · 01/02/2009 23:08

Fleur, much respect to you for not killing the bastard - how very dare he!! What a cock!

Fleurlechaunte · 01/02/2009 23:16

When I posted about him on here once, a few people said, "you need to get out or you will get used to it and accept it as normal" and I thought "I will NEVER do that!". Guess what, I got used to it and started lowering my threshold for what I would accept.

I have to say though it is all down to MN that I managed to make the change. Just reading other peoples shock about his behaviour made me really sit up. A thread where 100 women are like this about him, actually does make you take a new look at things.

Alambil · 02/02/2009 02:04

isn't that what socks were invented for??!

Mumsnut · 03/02/2009 13:23

Don't suppose Fleur's ex-twat and Chewitt's current twonker are one and the same?

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