to want Hecatewatsit not to................

[shivermetimbers]

smoke when she is weeks away from surgery.
You lot tell her cos she wont listen to me.Pleeeeaaase.

Aww

She never listens to us lot either you know shiv

she should, she spends more time with you guys than she does with me.

What if she really really cuts down?

Hecate - try telling yourself you'll have one in an hour or when you've just done xy,z or go and brush your teeth?

Maybe you could cut down by 1 a day until you just have half a day?

she says she will stop 2 weeks before the op,and that will be ok.

shes nuts, shes going to die.

what op?

hecate you bad girl. stop immediately or else.

last time I met Hecate we were teenagers in the park, and we were smoking on that thread as well!

Hecate, how long till the op? I will consider kicking my 20 a day in solidarity, but only with a buddy (I am weak and fatalistic as only us ex-twats can be...), and it has to be you, ie a cause greater than me.

I think that she will stop when she is ready to.

Tough as it is to stand by and watch, there is little else you can do except offer her support as and when she feels ready for it.

Tell her I have bags of advice on giving up when she is ready to listen, until then, let her know you care about her, but don't nag, it will only make her want a fag.

I cannot believe you have done this!!!!!!

I know it increases my risk and I want to stop, I really do. But I am struggling to stick to a very restricted diet to try to lose weight to reduce the risk AND am having rather painful CBT as well and have lots of other 'ishoos' and it's hard to do everything. I'm too weak.

I really do want to. I just keep failing at everything. [ashamed]

I cannot BELIEVE you have done this, shiver! I am sorry that i have worried you so much you felt this was your last option.

I agree Squonk...I was thinking of it like being sponsored to do an incredible cycle ride across the Gobi desert or something but I will want to start again afterwards

what op aer you having??

i think aiming ot cut down now, and stop soon would be a start. rather than cold turkey?

BOF - op is 23 feb. I may die anyway. it's a risk. tbh, I don't much care either way. new life or die on table. either is fine, the only thing I can't bear, is to stay in this limbo for ever.

lulu - it's a gastric sleeve. They are going to slice away 2/3 of my stomach. If I had any fucking strength (angry at self, not you lot ), does anyone think I'd be at this point anyway?

BoF - I have advice about not starting again as well

What did I say about weak and fatalistic? Rooting for you though, hope you'll be ok chuck x

my friend had a gastric bypass last summer.. she has been transformed. she is a different woman, it was done keyhole. i hope yours is as great a success

I don't think there is much anyone can do to help - Hecate is obviously aware of the risks but is not in a place to be able to stop right now. The only way she can do it is if she wants to.

Good luck with the op Hecate, I'm sure once you're recovered and able to see the physical changes you will feel completely inspired to give up and be uber healthy

can i offer you a manly pat? don't stress matey. will all come out in the wash.

BTW - don't be too hard on shiver, she obviously cares a great deal about you!

Wishing you all the very best for the op Hecate.

I hope all goes well

Good luck with everything, Hecate.

Hecate I think of you often as I drive up to Thika, remembering what a wonderfu, selfless thing you did for that school, (while I did and still have, done bugger all). Good luck for the op.

Hecate - I had no idea and now feel bad for making a joke. Sorry.

You have no need to be ashamed, you have made a very tough decision about your future, and you should not be calling yourself weak.