I buy stuff on Ebay all the time. Why spend loads when you don't need to? My little boy has shedloads of sleepsuits, to cut down on laundry, and they cost me about a quid each - lovely soft cotton, all in good condition because everyone's babies grow so damn fast. And as shops treat clothes with chemicals to make them look good, you have to wash new things before babies wear them, so what difference is it? Washing out someone else's laundry powder, or a shop's formaldehyde treatment sprays?
I also buy really gorgeous little items to wear out (you know - on the rare occasion I summon the energy to visit anyone, these days), in fact he's wearing a Molo playsuit and a Brora cashmere cardigan as I type, because he visited his Grandpa today. Both were new with tags, as it goes, and cost a tenner each instead of £25 and £50 respectively. Maybe if I were loaded I'd not blink at buying those new, but that isn't a universe I inhabit. I am cheerfully willing to admit that I love a lot of stuff by Boden and Brora and Katvig and Mini a Ture and El Sikke Lej and Toby Tiger and Gap and... but I just can't justify buying those kinds of brands instore, given the speed babies grow, and when it's purely for my own satisfaction - he wouldn't give a damn what he wore, if it were warm and comfy. (I'm pretty sure his favourites are ultra-soft cotton sleepsuits from Mothercare, actually.) Ebay means I can dress my little guy in clothes I love, at the same price as George and Primark (and I am happy to put him those too, they have fun things sometimes.) I dunno. I think it's a sad world if people judge their own and other people's parenting on what clothing choices people make. You are not what labels you buy - hopefully.
And as to people on Ebay being "tight-aresed losers"? I bought a really cute waffle grobag when I was first pregnant. The woman mailed me to say she'd posted both the two she had, and hoped I didn't mind. I mailed back to explain that my LO wasn't planned, and was actually coming at a less than ideal time, so on the contrary, I was grateful. Next thing I knew, she was sending a huge bag of immaculate baby stuff - sleepsuits and cardigans and socks and hats and mits - from newborn to 6 months, all M&S and Mothercare and John Lewis - together with a note that her baby wasn't planned either, and had come late in life so would be a one and only, and she hoped his things ight be of use to me. She also said being a Mum was the best thing she'd ever done and she was sure I'd feel the same - only put so beautifully and sensitively. She'd obviously intuited that I was feeling a little ambivalence about the situation at that time. She refused any payment, too, when I offered. That woman never even met me, and never will, but she was amazingly kind and generous, and not just about the clothes, either. If that's a tight-arsed loser, it's one I'd delight in being.
If my baby died, I doubt I'd be posting a bundle of his clothing on Ebay. Can you imagine having the physical or emotional energy, even if you didn't want to keep his things as a momento? So that seems an anxiety it's safe to ignore, I think.