To buy baby clothes from Ebay?

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Long story short, I'm pregnant with my 3rd, baby isn't due til sept but we are absolutly broke, struggling to pay the rent let alone buy new baby things.

So I decided to start buying a few little things each week from ebay. I've bid on some babygrows and a pramsuit, both used but look lovely and clean.

I was casually telling a work colleague about it today and she turn her nose up when I told her I was getting stuff from ebay. She said she "would never put her baby in second hand clothes" and "you don't know where they've come from" she went on to go on about how baby clothes aren't really expensive anyway etc etc

Maybe I'm being over sensitive but she made me feel really bad, as though I was getting second best for my baby but the way I look at it is that the baby won't know or care and newborns are only in stuff for 5 minutes so even second hand stuff will have lots of wear left in them.

Like I said, maybe I am being over sensitive (pregnancy hormones are raging) but she has made me feel like I'm not doing the best for my baby.

Is it really so bad to get second hand clothes for a new baby?

and that'll be sweat not seat LOL

If you wash something, it is clean. That, surely, is the point of washing it. When you wash the brand new clothes your dc has just dirtied, they will be clean. When you wash the second hand clothes that you just bought from Ebay, then they too will be clean.

Warning (so that all you who faint at the idea of second hand can ensure you're sitting): I've bought a cot bumper from Ebay. When I get it, I will wash it. It will then be clean. If I had bought it brand new from a shop I would wash it (as who knows what was on the hands of customers who might have handled it or sneezed on it, etc.) and that too would be clean. What, exactly, is the difference?

"I'm of the opinion that if you can't afford to give your baby nice things"

so new = nice and old = bad?

i offered a huge bundle of baby clothes to a work collegaue,she got all snippy and huffy thought i was insinuating she was impoverished etc,started harrumphing "only the best would dougal doo for her wee princess..."

i got tons of gifts,bought stuff.it was all in exc condition,washed etc.shame to see it unused

gave it to my HV,who gave it to someone who was grateful

ok,i draw the line at 2nd hand pants/vets.find that icky.but anything else no problemo.resourceful after all

In our town we have baby nearly new sales in church halls and these are always packed, and a lot of these mums that go are obviously quite well off. And some of the clothes are really lovely too, you wouldn't know they weren't new. I didn't get my dd baby stuff from ebay simply because i have a sister with 2 girls, one who is only 6months older so got bagfuls of clothes from her, and my mum got us loads from charity shops, car boot etc. Before dd was born, we had only got her 1 pack of vests, 1 pack baby grows and some scratch mitts. And most stuff we have now passed on to others. Your work colleague is a bit of a t*

Oh my god! Have just read some more posts! So shocked at attitude of some!!!!! My dd will also (shock horror!) going to be wearing homemade clothes (probably not very well made either )

look your child is unlikely to turn around and berate you age 21 for 2nd hand clothes

"Why...why...did you ruin my life with those filty cast off's mutha.oh the ignimony of it all..i am ruined i tell ya"

YANBU, but I wouldn't do it.

christina; tbh, i don't buy much from asda....all my baby clothes were bought in mothercare/M&S/ or john lewis.

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christiana - no problemo just heefed loads out but next time will give you a shout

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have read this whole thread.
i love ninedragons post. excellent idea, i am going to do the same from now on. thankyou.

daftpunk, i dont think anyone is saying you cant buy new baby clothes, but i cannot see how you think it is 'yuck' to dress your baby in second hand clothes
if they are washed and unstained they are perfectly fine. and babies grow so quick, so it makes sense to sell them on. the seller makes a couple of ££ and the buyer gets a great bargain.
however if you give your used outgrown baby clothes to charity, then that is great. i applaud you for that.

no it isnt, you workmate is a tit!

ebay and also ask on freecycle, i know i give most of my kids clothes away on FC (i dont drive and it ws too many to lug to the charity shop)

Most people only sell nice stuff on ebay.... I do anyway.

My best friend has a DD 4 months older than my DD. Best Friend was given 6 bin bags full of baby stuff which I rooted throw while pg. I never bought a first size/3-6 baby gro or vest as I ended up with a drawer full. My Mum toured car boot sales - in the posh end of town and DD was a second hand rose for at least her first 18 months. This meant I never felt guilty if I splurged on a nice coat/dress. Personally if the stuff is clean no stains etc I'd gather all you can. One charity shop near me was full of stuff with labels still on. I don't think DD has suffered due to being put in second hand stuff at all

hi madiltax

i think where newborns are concerned it's best to buy brand new, you're dressing your baby in clothes no one else has worn, clothes you've bought 1st, taken time over...that might make me sound shallow...i don't know?...but to me, dressing a newborn in 2nd hand clothes is like giving someone you love a microwave meal instead of cooking them a proper dinner..

I have kitted all mine out from E-bay, most of the things I have bought are lovely, and would me alot more than I could afford BN. I have been bitten a few times but it hasnt stopped me.

Why is daftpunk getting shit for saying what she believes?
It is just catty to call her "pathetic" and immature" and a "snob" because she's voiced an opinion that's in the minority here. I mean why are you attacking her?
I wouldn't want to dress my newborn or any of my children, no matter what their age in secondhand clothes. And I don't have to defend that decision to you lot or anyone else; it's my choice.

The thing is Daftpunk until the baby is born you don't know what size they are going to be so you could spend a lot of money buying clothes in several sizes not knowing whether they will ever be worn. Also many people do not find out if they are having a boy or a girl so you could be spending money on clothes that will not fit or suit your baby at all.

I think if one is buying new expensive clothes it is better to buy things when the child is older and will get more wear out of them.

So did you take your own sheets to hospital with you?

ROFL @ Daftpunk

'but to me, dressing a newborn in 2nd hand clothes is like giving someone you love a microwave meal instead of cooking them a proper dinner..'

Well that settles t then, ban Findus and Ebay.

Only read the OP, but personally I think it is rather vulgar to look down on second hand clothes. Tell your colleague she's a chav.

thank you Gateau...and for everyone else that has backed me....i don't really know what i've said that's so bad?

Heehee charitygirl