To buy baby clothes from Ebay?

[memoo]

Long story short, I'm pregnant with my 3rd, baby isn't due til sept but we are absolutly broke, struggling to pay the rent let alone buy new baby things.

So I decided to start buying a few little things each week from ebay. I've bid on some babygrows and a pramsuit, both used but look lovely and clean.

I was casually telling a work colleague about it today and she turn her nose up when I told her I was getting stuff from ebay. She said she "would never put her baby in second hand clothes" and "you don't know where they've come from" she went on to go on about how baby clothes aren't really expensive anyway etc etc

Maybe I'm being over sensitive but she made me feel really bad, as though I was getting second best for my baby but the way I look at it is that the baby won't know or care and newborns are only in stuff for 5 minutes so even second hand stuff will have lots of wear left in them.

Like I said, maybe I am being over sensitive (pregnancy hormones are raging) but she has made me feel like I'm not doing the best for my baby.

Is it really so bad to get second hand clothes for a new baby?

You're a lot of bloody little catty girls in the playground.
One person is singled out and you all have a go at them. I would have hated to be at school with you lot.

Daftpunk it's absolutely fine for you not to want to put secondhand clothes on your newborn. I don't feel the same way as you, but that's OK.

But I don't like the way you've stereotyped those of us that do. I'd bet my last dollar that not everyone posting on here who would buy secondhand are poor, a hippy ethical type or addicted to Ebay. I'm certainly none of those.

"The sort of people who have to buy their own furniture"

hello daftpunk, i can see where you are coming from, really i can. i was very much like that with dd2. (dd1, i had when i was quite young, and most things she had was second hand), so i wanted dd2 to have new, as both me and her dad were working, and at the time, could afford it) but it just seems silly because she wore them for so little, due to growing so big at an alarming rate!!
so with ds1 i have bought both new and second hand from ebay, charity shops etc.. and have been more than happy with the quality.

i understand what you mean about actually being in the shop and picking the clothes out for your children, i too love to do that. (just money is very tight at the moment, so do not have the opportunity to do so very often)
i suppose its a matter of balance. you giving your outgrown clothes to charity, sort of balances it out, someone else is enjoying them too.

Since when have "poor" "hippy" or "ethical" been insults or undesirable things to be?

More ethical to GIVE clothes to charity than SELL them on ebay.
People in glasshouses....

Memoo, you are doing absolutely the right thing. You´re being sensible and responsible and setting a great example to your older children. Only a fool and a snob would think you are a bad mother for buying second hand clothes. Don´t fall for it. You know already that how much you spend on your baby has nothing to do with how well you care for and love your baby.

I can't believe that people put their children in clothes more than once. My DC wear new clothes everyday, because they are more precious than any other children.

Message withdrawn

Gateau after reading some of your other posts I think the glasshouse comment applies to you dear, the schoolgirl comment? Well you are quite frankly one of the worst on MN for 'catty comments', well I think that's what they are meant to be.

At the end of the da we do what WE want for OUR children not anyone else. I use Ebay a lot because money is tight and I like to have nicer 2n hand than shop bought which I could afford.

Exactly seeker.

seeker, i never said being a poor ethical hippy was an undesirable thing to be...you are twisting my words yet again.

Ignore this woman she is pathetic to try and make you feel bad for doing something most people find perfectly reasonable and sensible.
I have 3 dds and all have worn second hand stuff.With each one I have i seem to get given more and more .I now have that much I could dress my daughter for the next year and a half and never wear the same thing twice.It's so wasteful.I've been thinking of putting it all on e-bay but am an e-bay virgin so haven't really got a clue if it's worth the trouble.
Also as you know babys never wear something for very long I must get my near 5 month old changed at least 4-5 times a day(she's a very messy drinker).
So the things you are buying may have been worn for as little as 24 hours in total.If you are buying them second hand they are cheaper and therefore likely to be of a better quality than say if you got something brand new but in the same price range iyswim.
Hope that makes sense gosh I am sooo eloquent.

Yes, seeker, that IS what i mean! Which, I know, makes ME the snob. It just seems so...aspirational to insist your DC only wear new clothes.

Oooh, am being very mean.

I have just recieved a parcel from ebay with a beautiful baby jacket which is as good as new and a fraction of the price!

I have been offered clothes and have thrown away the ones that had clearly been worn (no hangers, no tags) . It makes me shudder to think of other babies puking etc on these clothes...urgh?? We do have money worries actually but I still would never buy second hand. I shop in asda and in the sales (never buy damaged stuff though) and those stuff are affordable!

you threw them away if they'd been worn?

did you not think of taking them to the charity shop so filthy dirty less well off or thrifty mothers like me could buy them and the charity would benefit too?

shame on you

LOL at 'damaged stuff'.

Message withdrawn

What is it that you're worried about kizzib?

Is it the thought of possible infection, or just the 'ick' factor?

My children virtually only wear ebay clothes and they are by far the smartest children I know. Much sooner they wear lovely, good quality second-hand stuff than tacky, badly-made tat that has more than likely been knocked up in a third world sweatshop. I would never shop at asda because its trade policies (via partent company Wal-Mart) are appalling.

Some of the best clothes we've had have been the 2nd hand designer stuff. Well designed, nice colours, well made and they wash really well.

The cheap stuff stains, looks grim and you can't wash it as effectively because it falls apart in a hot wash.

Buying cheap and new is a completely false economy IME.

I'm not twisting your words, daftpunk, but you have just never given a sensible reason for not wearing second hand clothes, and you have said that those of us that do are wither poor, or hippy ethical types or ebay addicts. (not meant in a nice way!) You have also said that it's yucky to put a baby in second hand clothes. If you say horrible things like that to people you will be challenged

seeker...most of my RL friends are poor ethical hippies... & believe it or not, i'm one myself!....i just don't buy from ebay, i honestly think if you can't buy new for those first few months then it's a little bit sad......the fact that i buy from shops does not mean i'm reckless/ruining the planet/ or uncaring about child labour, etc etc.

i would always give old stuff to charity shops rather than try & make a few pounds from ebay....that makes me more ethical than most penny pinching tight arsed ebay users who would sell their soul for a fiver.

i'm not a hypocrite seeker, i say what i think..why i'll never be that popular on here.