To not want to see every child abuse horror story linked in IN THE NEWS section every day.

[Sycamoretree]

There are exceptions, I'm sure, but really - how many times can we all say to each other, "jeez, how terrible. I feel so sorry for that poor child, how could a mother/father/grandparent do that?"

These stories make me so STRESSED....

And even the act of hiding the thread means you have had to read the headline of the post...

I don't think people should put details in the headline; I find that distressing. Maybe its the same kind of person who reads misery memoirs though, and they don't realise that other people find it distressing.

I have now hidden the whole in the news section! I am on here in the evenings and can't sleep if I read really awful stuff. I know that doesn't help anyone but not sure me reading about it would either.

dont read them then

how awful

yanbu

yeah ria, thats compassionate

I have had to hide the whole topic
I dont want to hide the whole topic but I have to as I can't cope with the panic attacks and fear

sycamore...they make you feel so stressed....oh well how inconsiderate of people....honest...if you don't want to read it, etc...don't....but I hate it when people react like you, sorry!
I bet those abused chdren feel rather "stressed" , too...

children even

yanbu, can imagine how 'triggery' these can be

yeah fairlady cause thats what the prople who post them are most worried about.....the children involved
hmmm its just like rubbernecking at an accident

I hide the news for this very reason.
The last thing I want before bedtime is to read a horrible abuse story (for personal reaons, not because i am shallow)

well, some people probably do do the rubbernecking thing....but not all...

tbh, I mostly just click on threads I am on and unanswered threads and don't come across that kind of thread very often....but well, if I don't want to read and come across it, well, I tend to just not read...

btw, what brought this thread on then....have not really followed news...

oh and thread titles should not be descriptive, it should be clear however about the issues discussed

do you know what i am going to hide this thread....

lol Ria...

your stress your responsibility.shall we all tipsy toes in case someone upset.RL can be scary,brutal unfortunately BUT overall you are responsible for your emotion's and your responses not someone else.so nope don't attribute you are stressed about someone else choice of posts

ha ha fairlady i'm not laughing

I have always hidden the topic for that very reason. I brought it back to my list for Obama threads (gotta love the new prez ) but plan to re-hide at some point.

You see, it's the very accusation that because I don't want to read these stories that some how I am diminishing the suffering of these children that makes my blood boil.

You do not care more and are not a better person because you want to rake over these stories.

And I don't believe they are posted by people who on the whole really want to get into the issues and see what they personally can do about it.

I think it is rubbernecking and patting on back for being such a superior parent.

"you feel stressed, imagine how those children feel" - Oh yeah, I really hadn't thought about it in that incredibly layered and complex way...how silly of me. I was obviously thinking my feelings were more important that those of the abused children, and that reading the story in some way HELPS them...

Am so enlightened now.

it's probably not fair to assume that the news stories are shared in a voyeuristic sort of way, everyone copes differently

there's nothing wrong with talking about these events and there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be exposed to them either

Erm... which story brought thsi on exactly?

I read those stories and yes I do read over the 'misery memoirs' it's not doing you any harm is it?

Personally I can't stand morons who judge people because of what they want to do it's like live my way or don't live.

I like to talk through abuse stories and discuss what kind of things could be done about it and the why's etc. I have done this from a very young age though as my dad and uncleswere seriously abused as children so it is an issue I've always felt compelled to read/talk about.

If you don't like it don't read it, I however will continue to read them as at the end of the day it is my decision. I for one am sick of hearing about this wonderful new bloody president but doesn't mean I moan about it being in the news.

Although do agree that the titles should be better thought out rather than '12YO eaten by pack of dogs blood and guts trail lead to cave' (DISCLAIMER:that did not happen as far as I know ) but you know what I mean...

Yes, you are right Mystery. I know that not everyone posts them in this way - I'm just reacting (badly) to an accusation on this thread that to not want to read them is in some way an indication of a lack of empathy.

If I could hide the section I would, but am interested in other threads that appear in the news section.

But I accept Scottish Mummy's point that I'm responsible for my own feelings. I suppose given MN is somewhere I frequent -every- -day- every now and again, it has lately felt like they have been in my face every day.

Thanks Mamadiva. Yes, I see your point, and no, I'm not really moaning that you want to read them or find value in it. TBH if one of these stories came up in conversation with a group of friends, I'm sure I wouldn't just walk away.

I'm thinking most recently about the baby smoking fags, and also that story about the mother who put her daughter in the daily mail to tell the world she didn't love her (not the norm, not a good example, because there was at least an issue here to be debated, not just the abuse).

And I'm sure you aren't calling me a moron....

it wouldn't be a bad move for there to be some warning in the subject line so you can roam about the news section in relative comfort

I've got good radar for these things, I also like the news stories but I don't need to know about certain topics - I have a right to avoid them in the interests of keeping my own head together!

(just want to add that I think there can be good reasons for sharing and discussing this stuff, it shouldn't be repressed)

OP i see your point, and personally these stories make me extremely upset, however YABU to expect not to see them, if they make you stressed, then dont read them, hide this section, you cannot expect everybody to feel the same as you

at the risk of sounding like a boring old oldie MNer, we did have this discussion before and people started putting in the thread title "distressing news story" and things like that.

That seemed to work because if you can tell straight away that you probably don't want to read it, then you don't have to click on it at all and I think MNHQ made it so that you could hide a thread without opening it.

Perhaps there should be a warning as you start a thread in "in the news" to phrase the title carefully, that not everyone wants to share in all the gory details - a bit like the disclaimer in "mental health" that the site is populated by nutters who probably can't actually help you with your mental health issues