To think its not cos shes proud BUT to show off

[lazybum]

A friend is always phoning/texting me with what she or DC are doing well at
She texted me again tonight to say DS has been moved up a reading level (DS and her DS) are in the same class just to remind me he is well above Ds on his reading level
I replied "Well done its good "

I dont ring/text her about things like that Footie badges swimming badges as she does to me Last summer DS did some footie badges when we went back to school a mum from the footie group asked if DS had got his next level I said he hadnt .He was working towrds it so probarly get in October break.
This friend just went quiet.Next thing you know she has booked her Ds into a footie group for a week.He gets the next badge My ds did`nt go as he was ill in the hols.She then phoned me to say how well her DS was and that he had got his badge "oh you should see him a kick a ball hes so good now bla bla"

I always say "nice one" etc when her DS does something like that

I am not jealous BTW
If DS gets an invite to a party and her ds does`nt ,She phones the parents up and say DS must have got lost so what time is the party or SHE just turns up

It is really starting to piss me off

I am not in competition with her nor is my DS so why does she have to keep letting me know

AIBU????

she is a freak

yanbu

some people just thrive on the one-upmanship thing. i find it very odd. my sister lost a close friend after she started boasting of her black ash furniture.

She must feel inadequate in some way. Sad for her, annoying for you.

YANBU

Arghhh your friend sounds like mine !
Have had this crap for years, since we both had our first dc, around the same time.
hers is also based around drams and ill-fortune, she can beat you every time in how dramatic/amazing/frantic/stressful/busy etc her life is
Just ignore and dont care !

You sound like a really nice person. You're very lucky you're not insecure like she is. So competitive. It proves nothing in terms of her DCs abilities. It's more about her.

I would try not to make an issue of it although I can see it will get really annoying.Just keep on saying what you say like, "Nice one," etc. Some parents are just like this.

Also, maybe don't tell her what your DS is doing. If she asks, don't give details, just say, "He's doing fine, thank you," or "I'm not sure what level he's at just now,"

Agree with Winky's last paragraph as a way of moving forward with her BTW

Don't rise to it she obviously has noone else to bore compete with, so lucky you!!! You get alllllllll her attention ( and insecurities)

Thankyou

I was starting to doubt myself
Feel I cant say "big deal" or something But she would think I was jealous and I am not I dont really a give a shit

I have put space between her Ds and mine as He was always trying to put my DS down in whatever game they were playing .It did`nt count if Ds won he shout he had cheated that kind of thing
And the last time he came round here caught him with DS playstations game in his bag WTF
She has no idea nor would she believe it

SEA lol lol lol!!

@ black ash furniture

I am somone who shares dd achevements with friends and certainly do not do it in a one upmanship way.

My facebook profile at the moment says that I am very proud that dd won a special achievement award in assembly.

Could it be that she is just incredibly proud.

The party thing is very strange though/

winky
I dont tell her anything about DS at all . Dont mention the parties or anything from school .But she still finds out from her DS

We have some friends coming for a meal in a couple of weeks and shes really wants to come but these friends dont like her and have said <strong>no</strong>way She keeps asking me when are they coming they might want to see her and so far I havent replied just changed the subject
DH says just tell her the truth they don`t want to see her and that she is trying to make me feel guilty .
If i tell her the truth she will be gutted BUT....

She sounds OTT. I think that competition is normal - we all do it to a certain extent - I have a friend who does it a lot but she is lovely.

sea I have nominated you for quote of the week!

twinset
so you should post about your dd award
But she does it a manner thats not genuine

Like when her Ds got moved up in reading I must warn my DS in case her DS told him she would`nt want my ds upset WTF
Why would he be????

My mother used to have a friend like this with a son the same age as my brother, although this was before the age of text - so competitive parenting time-slots were limited! She used to call him Mastermind!

Her friend enrolled her son in the same school and afterschool clubs and strangely - like in your post - he stole from my brother despite wanting for nothing. My brother was far too chilled to react tbh, but the boasting only lasted until his first brush with the police re petty theft. My mother afterwards only got what were clearly edited accounts which made her suspect that his troubles continued.

You seem to be doing exactly the right thing. I admit that she must seem very irritating, but rise above it and don't tell her anything. You have to feel very sorry for her DS and she must be a very insecure person.

I was suprised when my dd started school and I too noticed this one upmanship

its pathetic

just smile sweetly and say how lovely!
x

I wouldn't be able to stop myself from laughing

this might be why I have so few friends?

Sounds like she has issues

Think your Dh is right you should tell her about the friends who are coming round for a meal.She is trying to spoil it for you playing on your guilt that you say she is putting on you

She sounds very controling if you can`t invite other people round to your house without her

I would start putting distance between you and her

at Black Ash Furniture.

(We sed to have this, thought it great until DH polished the table with a white wax polish that got into the grain and turned it stripey!)

YANBU, would love to read her Christmas "Round Robins"