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Original poster

To be irritated by women who are sanctimonious about breastfeeding then go and wean their little darlings at some ridiculously young age

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bangandthedirtisgone · 15/01/2009 20:20

This is not a rant against early weaning, formula feeding, or breastfeeding - I need to say that now.

But, I have to be totally honest it gets right on my tits when women crow about how they breastfed then reveal that they weaned their babies at 12 weeks (I know 3 people like this).

I mean ffs if you're going to boast about following guidelines then at least actually follow them!

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bangandthedirtisgone · 15/01/2009 21:53

Ah Lynette, you're so cute when you're riled up

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CatchaStar · 15/01/2009 22:17

I'm very pro breastfeeding and I was good at it, but stopped when dd was 7 weeks for various other reasons. Mainly, if I'm honest because I was young and shy. I didn't however start weaning until dd was 5-6 months because she didn't need to be.

I'm sure they have perfectly valid reasons for weaning early. Perhaps they've had very hungry babies, who knows. Why do you care?

You're entitled to your own feelings on the topic but I cannot understand why this is bothering you so much. Can't you just be happy that they had positive breast feeding experience's instead of seemingly criticising them them for what you seem to think is weaning too early?

'I mean ffs if you're going to boast about following guidelines then at least actually follow them!'

That's a fairly ignorant thing to say I think. Guildines are just that, guidelines. They aren't law, every baby is different and needs a different set of 'rules' if you will. Perhaps, shock horror, the women in question didn't 'follow them' because they didn't apply to their children's specific needs.

Just a thought. May be wrong. Who knows.

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bangandthedirtisgone · 15/01/2009 22:25

Missed the point spectacularly catchastar.

Well done.

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Doodle2U · 15/01/2009 22:29

Nobody gets your friggin point Bang!

Go to bed.

sagacious · 15/01/2009 22:31

You seem very determined to be pissed off.
Have you been drinking?

Nice glass of water should sort it out
Theres a dear

[passive agressive]

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bangandthedirtisgone · 15/01/2009 22:32

Ah doodle, don't tease me you big flirt!

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bangandthedirtisgone · 15/01/2009 22:32

Sagacious yes please, glass of water would be lovely.

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Nanook · 15/01/2009 22:36

I get you...I think

you're talking about double standards and hypocrites

don't get why it bothers you so much though

forget the water....have a vodka....

sagacious · 15/01/2009 22:36

You'll need it if your bf'ing

chancelloroftheexCHEQUERS · 15/01/2009 22:38

For some reason it seems as though breastfeeding is the easiest way to earn parenting brownie points, and it's annoying when people score those points and then wean at a dangerous age. Right?

Doodle2U · 15/01/2009 22:38

Flirt my arse - sooner have a good, hot dinner now-a-days!

Doodle2U · 15/01/2009 22:39

Thing is, the the time the kid gets to 5, nobody cares how you fed her/him. Nobody cares at what age you weaned. Nobody cares how old child was when potty trained.

LittleBella · 15/01/2009 22:42

LOL at parenting brownie points

Are they like Nectar points? Can yuo redeem them against the cost of private education/ asbo-type fines?

chancelloroftheexCHEQUERS · 15/01/2009 22:45

Not sure LB, don't think I've earned any yet

Natt82 · 15/01/2009 22:54

OP - I am agreeing with you. I didnt manage to BF my eldest son past 4 weeks, and got no end of stick and awful comments from my SIL as she preached about breastfeeding, and how much better her kids would be than mine.

Then at his first Christmas (he was 4.5 months) she called me cruel for not giving him a sausage roll, and keeping him on milk - and then told me how she started all her babies on baby rice at 7-8 weeks as breastfeeding wasnt enough.

Personally I cant understand how someone would think formula to be that evil, and that gloop is in some way better for baby that early just because they are breastfeeding.

But my inlaws do have some odd ideas, including guinness for 8 month olds....

chegirl · 15/01/2009 23:08

I really really dont want to get mumsnutted but i kinda know what the OP means. I only know one mum like this but she was irritating enough to be 3 people.

She went on and on about bf and how brilliant it was for babies etc.She spoke to me at great length about how I really should do it. Thats fine but a bit odd when I was doing it (in front of her) and had twice before. But then she is the sort to talk at people. She did wind a lot of my friends up as the bf rate is pretty low round my way and I dont think she has done a lot to change that with her goings on.

Annnnywho - as soon as her baby was about 2 mths old she would stuff anyold crap in her mouth and when she was crawling around she let her eat stuff off the floor. I dont mean pop the odd dropped raisin I mean hoover the playgroup floor for trodden sandwiches etc ewwwww!

The two things just didnt seem to go together really. On the one hand give your baby the best start in life with bf on the other let them eat monster munch and malteasers at 2 mths and playgroup road kill at around 6.

Mumsnutted · 15/01/2009 23:51

I am all yours Chegirl

chegirl · 16/01/2009 00:10

Oops sorry mumsnutted. I didnt mean YOU . Please dont feel defamed or oppressed in anyway. It was a hilarious play on words

pinkyp · 16/01/2009 00:27

are you jealous or something? ur coming across very annoyed at people who breastfed and weaned early? u didnt breastfed so ur angry at people who did? why?

Mumsnutted · 16/01/2009 00:48

Chegirl, I was only joking, don't be

I name changed jus for yoooooo

kittywise · 16/01/2009 07:36

bang, you're nasty.

randomcupsoftea · 16/01/2009 07:46

chegirl - like your expression on being mumsnetted!!

op - I know what you mean. I've had friends go on about how they bf & giving advice to others but have only done it for a week or so.

psychomum5 · 16/01/2009 07:55

if you need to shoot someone, then do me......the way I feel today it will be a welcome relief.

I breastfed exclusivly my DD1........and started her on solids at 12wks.

psychomum5 · 16/01/2009 07:56

oh, and this sentence.....sorry, the (normally very lax) pedent in me is now irritated with you.....

"Secondly, as I've already said, their babies are still babies, they're between the ages of 29 and 36."

in what world is this still classed as baby ages

noonki · 16/01/2009 08:22

lol psycho I thought that (though I'm sure my BIL is still a baby in his mums eyes (brings his lunch to work and does his washing he is 33 ffs)