when i fell pregnant for my little boy (my first), my mum had alreeady got a 4 month holiday booked, which meant she would be away over my due date. we discussed whether she should come home for a few weeks, but she would have to go back again as they had something booked at end of holiday. if it was a short hop i would have said yes, but they were going to new zealand so seemed a bit of a long way and huge expense, when the chances of being born on due date are so slim anyway. so i told her not to worry, they'd see the baby when they got home it would be okay.
but then i had to go into hospital at 36 weeks, had an emergency c-section, had my baby taken off me and taken to a hospital 60 miles away. he had to have surgery at 3 days old, we were told he was disabled, and both ended up spending 4 weeks in hospital. and yet not once did my mum suggest she came home early from there holiday. aibu to be upset by this, is it my own fault for telling her not to come home in the first case?