To expect my DH not to eat garlic if I haven't been eating it too?

[Gunnerbean]

Sorry but whilst I've nothing against garlic and am not adverse to eating it myself in some foods, the smell of it on peoples breath when I haven't been eating it myself literally makes me wretch.

If DH goes out and has a curry/kebab or something and I haven't had any and he comes back smelling of garic, I can't tolerate him being in the bedroom. The smell of his breath in the room can even wake me up out of a deep sleep. It's vile and it last the whole of teh next day too. Toothpaste and chewing gum can't mask it either - YUCK!!!!

If I know he's having it, I can have it too and then it's not a problem - we can stink together and neither can smell it - but I have to have advance warning if he's having it!

Anyone else with similar feelings on garlic who has to lay down the law like me?

get real uabu you should eat garlic when he does [wsmile]

No. I am currently chopping garlic for tonights dinner for everyone apart from me. WHat a weird controlling rule to have.

I think you are being a little selfish tbh.

what a great excuse to get him to bring you some back when he gets a take-away

or tell him you can't snog him as he's so stinky so he has to give you oral instead

Is this a wind up ?

Must be

yes

YABU

Is this your only marital problem?

Yabu. God, you sound like my H.

But then my mum, who's 78, can't bear garlic too, so maybe it's an age thing. But I would have thought that H, who's been around the whole flipping world in his army career, might've developed the taste. Or at least detest it less.

Oh dear, controllingbean Gunnerbean. If you are not joking of course you are being unreasonable! I would be mega-peeved in your partner's shoes.

If I were Mr Gunnerbean I'd be tempted to eat garlic every day tbh.

YABU. I love garlic and don't expect anyone else not to eat it because I have'nt. Does your rule apply to friends, colleagues, neighbours.........

Poor Mr Gunnerbean

I used to work with someone who entered garlic eating competitions. He would eat 10 or more heads of garlic in a sitting. Now he did smell...

When your dh eats out, I bet he can't always be sure that what he's eating is garlic-free.

Ok, you are mega sensitive to garlic breath. Not fun, but I think that's your problem more than your husband's.

But luckly you know the cure for your sensitivity - you just need to eat garlic, too. So, if you think there's any remote risk of your dh eating garlic when he's out, why not eat some yourself at home in anticipation of the worst? Problem solved?

I think you are being unreasonable but that some people have said so very rudely.

YABU

poor you being so sensitive to it.

But sorry you can't ban his garlic eating! I agree with the others who've said a good solution is just to down a few bulbs when you know he will be

No this is not a wind up! - the smell of it makes me feel absolutely sick and always has since for as long as I can remember. There's nothing I can do about it .

I don't think I'm controlling, I have already said that I often eat it if I know he's having it but sometimes he doesn't give me warning and then I have no chouice but to send him packing from the room. And yes, he must know that there's garlic in curry or garlic sauce at the kebeb shop!!

Friends, neighbours and work colleagues can eat as much, or as little, as they like as I actually don't share a bed with them.

Oh and have I missed something - who or what is YABU?

Actually I know how you feel. It is rotten. You cant ban your DH from eating it but you can tell him how difficult you find it. My DH doesnt eat anything with chorizo in it for the same reason.

chucking your husband out of the room is pretty controlling in my view. How does he respond - does he just go? Have to say were i married to you this would cause a row or two I think!

I can't stand garlic.

We have no problem though, when DH eats it, he sleeps on the doorstep