To expect my DH not to eat garlic if I haven't been eating it too?

[Gunnerbean]

Sorry but whilst I've nothing against garlic and am not adverse to eating it myself in some foods, the smell of it on peoples breath when I haven't been eating it myself literally makes me wretch.

If DH goes out and has a curry/kebab or something and I haven't had any and he comes back smelling of garic, I can't tolerate him being in the bedroom. The smell of his breath in the room can even wake me up out of a deep sleep. It's vile and it last the whole of teh next day too. Toothpaste and chewing gum can't mask it either - YUCK!!!!

If I know he's having it, I can have it too and then it's not a problem - we can stink together and neither can smell it - but I have to have advance warning if he's having it!

Anyone else with similar feelings on garlic who has to lay down the law like me?

I think it is a bit unfair that people are trashing this lady's thread because of the rudeness thread.

I also have a sensitive sense of smell, I will throw up on the spot if a smell offends me, again I dont know how I did the baby phase.

DD is poorly at the moment and one of her symptoms is awful wind, I have thrown up at at least 3 farts.

gunnerbean, I can see your point about the rudeness!

I think you are being unreasonable (YABU) but your DH could remember more to warn you he is likely to stink, thus allowing you to have some garlic and avoid this issue.

I agree totally about the mint not helping - I had a boss who used to come and breathe over my shoulder with heavily minted garlic breath - think it was worse than just the garlic, to be honest!

It's not bitchy to repond to someones posts sayin you think they are off the wall unreasonable when they posted in 'Am I being unreasonable'

The answer is nearly always a resounding 'YES' but despite the inevitablity of this the op is always shocked and surprised! All very strange.....

My position:

YAB a bit U to ask him not to eat it at all..

I have a similar problem with DH drinking beer - esp Real Ale at the annual festival. Every bloody year I remind him that I get a second-hand hangover, and please can he leave me alone when he gets in. Every year until last year he'd agree, go out, come back, whine that I wasn't being affectionate enough and fall asleep facing me with his bloody beer fumes filling the bedroom. I've told him that I didn't have this problem before we had DS and therefore it's his problem for getting me knocked up This last year I just went to sleep on the sofa and left him to it

But I don't get that you can eat garlic if you're that sensitive to the smell?

And personally I love a bit of rude language - especially since jolly phonics don't cover it yet

And Marmaduke Scarlet (love that book btw) - why on earth do you put up with it? Large applications of aftershave have been known to give me migraine (yes, I too am a delicate flower) and I would be eating curry every time he splashed it all over...

yanbu!!

Get him to chew some parsley before he climbs into bed. Have some growing on your kitchen windowsill or something.

I think champagne breath and goat curry farts are a more serious threat to public health however. And so much more middle class.

@ wilf

notreally thanks, I'm glad I'm not the only delicate flower. He wears it every day, the only respite I get is when he is away (now about 50% time) and he put it on at the office (gee, thanks) whilst I was preg as even more sensitive then.

He cannot forego it altogether for some reason. I now buy him one that I find more acceptable.

Goes off to lie down in a darkened room...

twinset, it is not rude to trash this thread since the OP committed the cardinal sin (by MN standards, anyway) of starting another thread to bleat about it instead of standing her ground on the original

saturday night, daft OP, starts whinging "woe-is-me" 2nd thread about how rude people are cos they say she is BU

deserves a proper pasting IMO

and then tomorrow we kiss and make up

My Dad eats too much garlic and my mum hates it. He does reek sometimes. Wouldn't like that in my face either.

You're not in the early stages of pregnancy are you? I always knew I was pregnant before I took the test because I developed a very strong aversion to garlic!!!!!

Don't mind garlic but the smell of brown sauce makes me barf.

If your aversion to garlic smells was that bad or you wouldn't be able to eat it, surely? That's why you sound somewhat controlling with the you're not allowed to eat it unless i eat it with you thing.

i was in early pg at uni and the girl who sat next to me was very found of garlic and cooked lots of dishes with it

the stale garlic breath meant i was constantly retching

i would hate to be like that constantly

could you have some garlic butter in the fridge and eat a finger of toast with that on whenever he smells and he hasnt prepared you or frozen doughballs?

YABU (you ARE being unreasonable)

If you dont like it you swap rooms

its his room too, and IMO you are making it an issue so you leave

cant believe your husband acually leaves his bedroom cause you tell him to, for such a trivial reason