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Is it bad form to bitch about Christmas presents?

157 replies

WinkyWinkola · 01/01/2009 12:50

Only my brother and his wife got all the DCs in the family one of these each for Christmas. Pink versions for the girls.

I was annoyed as they showed such little thought for the individuals, their ages etc. They've got pots of money too so it's not like they couldn't afford a nice book or something.

Imagine DS's face when he opened a freaking blanket up. MIL has one very similar for her dog.

I don't care how much a gift costs but don't get crap like this, please. It just shows you don't actually give a shit.

AIBU?

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ItsAllaBitNoisy · 03/01/2009 22:21

To be fair, I think its a fairly lame present. Did they slit the twin packs?!

If it was the thought, then prehaps little personalised blankets might have been nice, certainly not a job lot from tescos imo (as money is not an issue in this case).

ItsAllaBitNoisy · 03/01/2009 22:21

split not slit...

nappyaddict · 03/01/2009 23:05

Just because someone has money doesn't mean they should spend loads more than everyone else at xmas. xmas is about more than expensive presents. I can afford to spend more but I only spent £5 on everyone.

lilolilmanchester · 03/01/2009 23:08

I only get annoyed when people show no thought. I don't care how much or how little they spend. Have a friend who spends shed loads on each of us, but so little thought the presents are rarely relevant, and bunged in an expensive gift bag with a bit of crumpled tissue paper on top. Others spend little but gifts are spot on, and so beautifully wrapped that you are made to feel special.

load · 03/01/2009 23:11

look, its not a length of knicker elastic; get over it!

Guitargirl · 03/01/2009 23:46

I don't think YABU but I think it's not about the present, right, it's the lack of thought? I was a bit when my single friend told me that this year she had bought every member of her family a DVD from Amazon as she 'didn't have time to go shopping', i.e. she spends every weekend so hungover and Christmas shopping is just not a priority for her. She did it all in about 40 minutes. I spent weeks planning and shopping for my extended family and put lots of thought into each gift, etc. BUT then I thought why am I bothered about my friend's present shopping? It's absolutely bugger all to do with me, I probably just feel a bit envious because if I had done the same I would have ended up feeling guilty whereas she is obviously fine with it.

I was also a bit at some totally inappropriate (and IMO thoughtless) gifts given to our 2-year old. But they will be given to charity and a thank you card will be sent all the same. I would have actually quite liked a blanket though for her, can never have too many I reckon!

independiente · 04/01/2009 12:47

In answer to your question, IMO it is very bad form to bitch about presents. You do not have a 'right' to presents. They are arbitary tokens which represent that someone is thinking of you. You might find that the way they express this is different to you, but the well-brought-up thing to do is to be gracious about that.
Receiving an unwanted gift from a relative is almost de rigeur at Christmas surely! It's an opportunity to demonstrate to children how to be gracious and good-humoured about minor disappointments.

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