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Original poster

to be sooooooo mad at this women for this???????????????

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theboob · 31/12/2008 17:47

just had a phone call from a woman who's DP is in my class at college

we sit next to each other most lessons because we were in the same classes last year too,it was his birthday and everyone in the class got him a card so i did to,i signed it lots of love as i do in all cards no XXXXX or anything like that

she has just acused me of having an affair with him and fancying him
we have been shopping together and our babies have played together i just feel so that she would think this as i thought we were friends,and not to mention i'm married with 3 DC
so what do i do now,never speak to him again so she is happy,she also attends this college but is a year behind me ,cant belive im getting so much hassle for nothing

sorry rant over

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cornsilk · 31/12/2008 17:48

Blimey - what a loon.

IAmTheNewQueenOfMN · 31/12/2008 17:50

hmm tricky one

some people just see much more into lots of love than other people

I would never write lots of love in anyones cards but dh, kids, my family and some very select, very close friends

it would look weird to me

dreamingofagreenlawnchristmas · 31/12/2008 17:51

More to it than a card - has he got form? (not with you, obviously!)

MrsTittleMouse · 31/12/2008 17:51

Maybe he's having an affair and she's desperately trying to work out who the other woman is. Still a bit barmy to accuse you though, with no evidence except a birthday card.

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theboob · 31/12/2008 17:52

thankyou i thought it was me,i would not feel angry if DH came home with a card from a female friend

i'm dreading going back to college now incase she thinks anything else,its a shame really as we are going into the same line of work ,so all we had in common is studying and nursing

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dietstartstomorrow · 31/12/2008 17:53

I put love in everyones cards.

Now you've put her straight it will probably blow over now anyway. Imagine the grief her DP got though!

oldraver · 31/12/2008 17:53

Does the husband knowshe has accused you and can you approach him to have a word with his wife ??

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theboob · 31/12/2008 17:54

its just habbit ,i write it in every card always have,it means nothing at all
i do know he spends every min of the day with her apart from when in college,i'm just for her to think this and dont want other people thinking this

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jollyoldstnickschick · 31/12/2008 17:55

I should just carry on as you were - maybe she just wants to alienate all the women in his life -maybe she has a lot of issues?

Dont give her an excuse to justify her actions- carry on as you were.

cornsilk · 31/12/2008 17:55

You may not be the only woman she's contacted if she's been through his xmas cards so thoroughly. He may well be keeping a low profile on his return to college.

jollyoldstnickschick · 31/12/2008 17:55

she must have been quite psyched up to call you .

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theboob · 31/12/2008 17:56

i have no idea,i dont have his number but will see him in class on the 6th,I'm going to be on pins now thinking if he speaks to me and she see i will add to her thoughts

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lottiejenkins · 31/12/2008 17:59

I would tell her to get a life and to stop being so accusing and confrontational.................what a stupic cow she sounds!

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theboob · 31/12/2008 18:00

she was very angry,she said I'm with him all the time,but this cant be helped as we are in all lessons together,but all breaks he spends with her and me with my friends
i think she must have issues but i have just told her to get a grip and stop acting so stupid as i'm still very angry with her,she said all other girls signed and family,but he does not know my family so never singed that.....i would in a xmas card but not birthday

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MegSophandEmma · 31/12/2008 18:00

OH MY GOD please tell me it isn't who I think it is??????

You can't ignore him chuck. Don't have an answer to the problem yet but will have a natter later.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 31/12/2008 18:02

The problem is though, that if you stop speaking to him, it'll only "confirm" her worst fears. I'd just carry on as normal.

MegSophandEmma · 31/12/2008 18:03

Please don't be worrying babe. I will protect you hehe

piscesmoon · 31/12/2008 18:04

I would just carry on as normal-it is her problem. I put love in everyone's card-I wouldn't expect people to read anything into it.

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theboob · 31/12/2008 18:05

yes meg its her

she is going mad

i will never leave your side now

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MegSophandEmma · 31/12/2008 18:11

Well I love that guy to bits (in a friendly way of course ) we all formed a bond last year and we know the chap in question is besotted with his family. When you get back it may be wise to sit him down and ask him what he thinks is the best course of action. You still have until May studying together, you need to get your heads together and work out something. Or may even be best to get the three of you together to talk about it in an adult manner. Either way, yes my love I will be your hero xx

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theboob · 31/12/2008 18:14

its a good job i'm putting off uni for a year ,what we she think of the same class for a further 3 years

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fuzzywuzzy · 31/12/2008 18:17

My ex did this to me, I got a birthday card (many years ago), from a friend who signed it love or lots of love (dont remember now), but apparently that meant we were having an illicit love affair....one of the many reasons he is now an ex!

solidgoldstuffingballs · 31/12/2008 18:19

SHe's a loon. Carry on as normal. Either he is dipping his wick elsewhere hence she is loony with not knowing, or he;s a Good Boy and she is an utter mentalist who will get dumped soon and deservedly.
Whatever- it's not your problem and you shouldn;t give it a second's thought.

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theboob · 31/12/2008 18:22

i will think now before i sign peoples card,it never entered my head at all before now that it could be seen as anything else

just feel really sorry for him now,what kind of a life is that

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MegSophandEmma · 31/12/2008 18:23

She needs to be realising how lucky she is really before he finally does pull the plug..

Really it is ridiculous.