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To think enough is enough?

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MrsMagooo · 28/12/2008 20:07

DS is almost 5 months & has a strong, solid, albeit less common, bible name (old testement).

We knew that DHs Nan & Grandad wouldn't be keen on it but figured they would get used to it.

When DS was born & we announced his name DHs Nan said 'Well....it will take some getting used to' & DHs Grandad said 'I thought you would have called him something normal like Raymond'

Anywho - we figured after a few weeks they would get used to it.

Well we are almost 5 months down the line & they are still making a big issue of it.

DHs Nan refuses to say DSs name & always calls him 'the Baby' or 'that little fella' DHs Grandad always says to us 'Now, how do I pronounce it again?' it's really not a hard name to say/spell honest.

I've gritted my teeth until now but I am getting fed up with it.

We spent a long time choosing our sons name & I adore it, it suits him beautifully & will suit him all his life (I feel anyway)

I just think they are being damn rude now.

They can't keep calling him 'the baby'

I know that I should just be grateful that DS has great-grandparents & that in the grand scheme of things being reffered to as the 'little fella' is not so bad but it's really getting to me now.

They've had plenty of time to get used to it - it's almost like they think by keep going on about it we'll change his name!

Even MIL has said how daft it's getting now.

DH won't say anything as he doesn't see it as a big deal.

I don't like to shorten names & prefer DSs full name but have offered up the shortened version (even though I didn't want too) but they won't use that either.

So AIBU in thinking they should just get over it & start calling him by his name?

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floaty · 29/12/2008 18:25

They are made adn should be ignored,nether set of grandparents was wowed by either ds1 or ds3 s names but they always used them and now they just are the names.

By the way would love to know what the irish name is that teh french think is feminine

floaty · 29/12/2008 18:25

They are made adn should be ignored,nether set of grandparents was wowed by either ds1 or ds3 s names but they always used them and now they just are the names.

By the way would love to know what the irish name is that teh french think is feminine

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MrsMagooo · 29/12/2008 18:28

He hee Floaty I was wanting to know that too

Regina isn't it odd what Grandparents consider to be 'acceptable' names

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squik · 29/12/2008 18:38

Tell them to either call him Elijah, or else you will change it too Horatio

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MrsMagooo · 29/12/2008 18:50

I quite like that

During my PG we ran through many names one being Rupert, somehow DHs Nan heard about this & kept saying things like 'Oh please don't call him that I really don't like that name at all' to DH.

Since Elijah has been born I've heard her mumble 'I wish they'd call him Rupert now' lol

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Podrick · 29/12/2008 18:50

Elijah is a gorgeous name.

You need to stop letting his grandparents' ridiculous hang ups bother you. It's their problem, not yours, they can deal with it as they wish.

squik · 29/12/2008 19:10

Dh says that Horatio is too nice, you should say its either Elijah or Tarquin/Quentin. (Tarquin imo is baaad, sorry for being insulting to all those with Little Tarquins)

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MrsMagooo · 29/12/2008 19:47
Grin
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minouminou · 29/12/2008 21:44

They really are going a bit OTT over this, eh?
It's tempting to snap, but I really think playing them at their own game is the best way - they're pretending to be a bit dotty and old - so treat them as if they really are.
They'll know you're onto them and are letting them know they're out of order without actually raising the subject.

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MrsMagooo · 30/12/2008 09:56

I've addressed their thank you car to 'The Great-Grandparents'

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Podrick · 30/12/2008 19:18

wHAT ARE THEIR names?

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MrsMagooo · 30/12/2008 19:23

Here's the funny bit, DHs Grandad is Giuseppe (although known as Pip) but in fairness his parents were Italian hence the name!

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Podrick · 30/12/2008 19:26

Tell them Guiseppe has now become too difficult for you so you will call him John.

What is her name?

ScottishMummy · 30/12/2008 19:26

read the op tentatively thinking,what is the name then-but Elijah is really nice,not weirdy nor hard to say

my friend has an Elijah too

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MrsMagooo · 30/12/2008 19:29

Thing is Podrick I call them Nan & Grandad as they asked me too

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Podrick · 30/12/2008 19:31

OK, they don't do what you ask them to so you need to level up the playing field here!

Breizhette · 30/12/2008 19:34

Floaty, it's Finn.

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MrsMagooo · 30/12/2008 19:56

Breiz that's a gorgeous name & in no way girlie!!

Podrick I'm getting DS a T-shirt from Nappy Head & going to get something like 'The name's ELIJAH dimwit' printed on it & put him in it everytime we visit to far perhaps??

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Breizhette · 30/12/2008 19:59

Thanks Mrs Magoo. I hate how it makes me doubt my choices.
Tee-shirt is a good idea!

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MrsMagooo · 30/12/2008 20:56

Don't doubt your choice - it's a gorgeous name, a good, soild, strong boys name IMO!

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 30/12/2008 21:01

Finn is not girly at all. It's a lovely name.

Breizhette · 30/12/2008 21:08

Thank you! In French, it sounds like fine though. We have an Irish surname though, so I'm sure it'll be fine. Well too late anyway.

thumbwitch · 30/12/2008 21:43

Wasn't there some Australian soap girl character called Finn? or Finlay or something? Maybe that's why they think girly - I don't, I think it's a lovely boy's name.

thumbwitch · 30/12/2008 21:47

yep, thought so!

sphil · 30/12/2008 21:58

A friend of mine couldn't get her head round the fact we'd called DS1 Ned (he's Edward on his birth certificate). For months and months she would do those silly inverted commas in the air with her fingers when ever she said his name! And she didn't even have the excuse of being old...