To think enough is enough?

[MrsMagooo]

DS is almost 5 months & has a strong, solid, albeit less common, bible name (old testement).

We knew that DHs Nan & Grandad wouldn't be keen on it but figured they would get used to it.

When DS was born & we announced his name DHs Nan said 'Well....it will take some getting used to' & DHs Grandad said 'I thought you would have called him something normal like Raymond'

Anywho - we figured after a few weeks they would get used to it.

Well we are almost 5 months down the line & they are still making a big issue of it.

DHs Nan refuses to say DSs name & always calls him 'the Baby' or 'that little fella' DHs Grandad always says to us 'Now, how do I pronounce it again?' it's really not a hard name to say/spell honest.

I've gritted my teeth until now but I am getting fed up with it.

We spent a long time choosing our sons name & I adore it, it suits him beautifully & will suit him all his life (I feel anyway)

I just think they are being damn rude now.

They can't keep calling him 'the baby'

I know that I should just be grateful that DS has great-grandparents & that in the grand scheme of things being reffered to as the 'little fella' is not so bad but it's really getting to me now.

They've had plenty of time to get used to it - it's almost like they think by keep going on about it we'll change his name!

Even MIL has said how daft it's getting now.

DH won't say anything as he doesn't see it as a big deal.

I don't like to shorten names & prefer DSs full name but have offered up the shortened version (even though I didn't want too) but they won't use that either.

So AIBU in thinking they should just get over it & start calling him by his name?

I have plenty of friends who have chosen names for their dc's that have made me shudder and grimace when they are announced. Of course I have kept it to myself (none of my fucking business really is it?)

However give it a couple of weeks and the name becomes nice becaue your feelings for the child grow dont they? I really don't get how they dislike it so much that it is an issue this long down the line.

We considered calling ds2 Paddy. When we told MIL this she said 'Oh that is awful I couldnt love him if he is called that' . I just said 'that is completely ridiculous of course you ca't not love you grandchild becase of a name!!!!' We din't use it in the end as dh changed his mind but actually he ridiculously chidish reaction just mademe wnt to use it all the more (although that is probably childish of me too)

Chequers you had me worried then - thought you might be Nan seeking me out PMSL!

I don't really post over on that forum anymore - hope you & babe are doing well (can you give me a hint to who you are from the board????)

MrsMagooo I wonder that as your mil also thinks it is getting daft, perhaps she could have a word with them if your dh isn't managing to get the message through.

Perhaps ignore the old bats dears if you are visiting and they call to the baby or refer to him incorrectly. Just act all blank. If they persist be consistent and say "oh, were you referring to/talking to Elijah?"

Start referring them as "That old man" and "The Woman" and repeatedly ask them to clarify how their names are pronounced.

Ta chequers, but that isn't the oen I am thinking of. It is this post somewhere/sometime else and the same name.

OP. I never said you did put it on AIBU and nor did I say you were BU lol

PSL doesntchristmasdragon!!!

PMSL evn - sorry keyboard is a bit knackered hence all the typos..

Brussel I considered this - however DHs Nan had a right old go out at me for apparently not saying hello to her & it got a bit nasty so now I'm having to make a huuuuuuuuuuge effort to make sure I talk to her all the time etc etc [rolls eyes]

Got it!! You have posted it before I knew I wasn't going mad!! (Well, I am but no madder than normal!)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=relationships&threadid=647472-DH-39-s-grandparents-refuse-to-use-DS-39- s#13177266

MN is so much better than over there isn't it? Although they are a very nice bunch I have to say.

I'm not sure you would remember me, can't think of a point when we would have spoken about anything in particular...My DD was one of the biggest babies on the board at 9 pounds 11, but there's no reason you should remember that!

Btw - I think Elijah is a lovely name and YANBU

ilove I posted on the relationships board about a month or so ago (before I realised we had this AIBU board lol) but as it's still going on (and on and on) thought I'd get the AIBU MNetters views on it to see if I am BU or not [fgrik]

Chequers is DD your first or have you other DDs??

I remember this too.

The time has come to tell them he is your baby and if they don't like the name, tough, but they need to start using it as he can not be called baby at 18

I love his name. I don't think you are BU but then they are old...and set in their ways...how often do you see them?

She's my first MM.

ilove on average we seem them once a week, DH was convinced they'd love it with it being a bible name - I knew they wouldn't like it but not this much.

Chequers it's bugging me as I want to know who you are lol!!

Mwahahaha!

PMSL

Really lovely name, we considered it for our DS. YANBU - I don't think it's even a weird name. My DS is called Dareh so they could have had it worse!

That's a lovely name Stefka

I don't think it's wierd either (but I guess I wouldn't)

I don't think you are BU, it's a lovely name, easy to say and after 5 months they need to let it go.

Are your family Christians, there are some names in the Bible that a christian would not use because of the character association.

Myself, MIL & DH are Christians but DHs Nan & Grandad are not. Elijah the prophet led a lovely life though, he was a true Christian.

YANBU.

We've got an Elijah. Lovely name, and no one we know has any problems with it.