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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to think im should be able to do DIY at 8pm without neighbours knocking after 10 mins

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lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:11

DH is cureectly remvong some bricks from fireplace, so involves a little bit of knocking. Their childrenare older, so not in bed. Its impossible to do this when our girls are awake.
Well 10 mintues in, she knocks and tells me i have made her mothers pic fall off the wall onto her dds head
I asked if pic was broken and if dd was ok, she said she didnt know as she had come straight to see me.
Will be finihsed in about 20mins, aibu to reply "it wont be much longer, let me know if dd is ok".

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mediocrebronze · 27/12/2008 21:24

doesnt

ThePregnantMerryYuleWitch · 27/12/2008 22:18

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 27/12/2008 22:28

TBH I don't think YABU. I have had complaints from idiotic neighbours upstairs over idiotic things like 1yr old crying, washing machine too loud, The bass on my tv/home cinema too loud, halloween party too loud, drier too loud, to name but a few....BUT when they moved in a week after me they were drilling at stupid o'clock every day and night and I never said a word.

8pm is not a prob for me 11,12,1,2,on the other hand is.

sosadandtired · 27/12/2008 22:43

as someone who's life is made miserable by noisy neighbours, I think YABU. Why wait and do DIY in the evening when people are trying to relax when it can be done during the day? Like others have said, could you not pop out with your children for an hour or so while your DH gets on with it?

sosadandtired · 27/12/2008 22:49

And why choose the christmas period to do it anyway? Normally a time for families to spend precious quality time together.

piscesmoon · 27/12/2008 22:50

YABU-especially in a holiday period.

SpankyouHardOnChristmasNight · 27/12/2008 22:53

Why not chat to your neighbours and say that you need to spend x amount of time at 8pm one night to get this job done and which night would they prefer? Apologies profusely and say you know it's awfully unsociable etc etc etc and that you value their help with this and you're terribly sorry but wanted to give them the choice of which night to minimise the impact.

LucyEllensmummy · 27/12/2008 22:55

You were knocking bricks out of the wall at 8pm? Your neighbour is exaggerating, but that is unreasonable, do it during the day when one of you takes your children out.

Lockets · 27/12/2008 23:05

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Chandon · 28/12/2008 09:35

8pm is an hour to relax, and imho yabu for thinking it is an acceptable hour to do DIY.

TLESinChristmasStockings · 28/12/2008 09:40

I have done DIY of an evening when I moved into my new place. and doing when the lo's were in bed was a darn sight easier than when they were up.

piscesmoon · 28/12/2008 10:13

I think if you are doing DIY your first priority are your neighbours! If it is difficult with DCs in the day then one of you takes them out, but you shouldn't be disturbing people after 8pm.

ForeverOptimistic · 28/12/2008 10:16

YABU. DIY should not be carried out after 7 p.m.

mayorquimby · 28/12/2008 12:38

yabu, it is you that need/want the diy done so it is you who should take reasonable steps steps to make sure that no one else is disturbed by it. and it is you who should have to suffer the inconvenience of it by your husband not seeing his kids for an hour. not your neighbours simply because you have judged your husbands need to see his kids for an hour greater than her needs to have a bit of peace and quiet in the evening (especially during the holidays), because i'm sure she'd disagree with your judgment, as have the majority of people on this thread.

kslatts · 28/12/2008 13:39

I don't think 8pm is too late, I think anytime between 9am and 9pm is fine.

Earlybird · 28/12/2008 13:43

Agree it is too late - especially during holidays when people are at home relaxing.

Am amazed that your own dc could sleep through that sort of banging, tbh!

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lisad123 · 28/12/2008 23:04

spoke to her today, she hadnt gone out last night but gone to bed, so cant have been that bad tbh. I took some choccys for the kiddies and explain the dh would be doing more banging today for about an hour. She was fine
Im dreading the noise of laying the new floor

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SalLikesEggnogUnderMistletoe · 28/12/2008 23:10

Sorry, but I think you were being unreasonable. And yes, she was exaggerating, but it doesn't change the fact that this should be a relaxing time for all.

MerryMadMarg · 29/12/2008 09:43

Good for you for going around. The noise can actually be worse next door - I speak from experience!

Some pre warning for your neighbours is the best thing, if you can't avoid doing work in the evenings.

You do need to check your council website to make sure evening work is allowed, though. Some councils prohibit any noisy DIY work after a certain time unless it is emergency work (ie the roof is going to fall down or the place is flooded - not that you just don't have the time during the day). Other council's just say 'try to avoid evening work'.

Check the 'noise' section on their website.

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