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AIBU?

to think im should be able to do DIY at 8pm without neighbours knocking after 10 mins

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lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:11

DH is cureectly remvong some bricks from fireplace, so involves a little bit of knocking. Their childrenare older, so not in bed. Its impossible to do this when our girls are awake.
Well 10 mintues in, she knocks and tells me i have made her mothers pic fall off the wall onto her dds head
I asked if pic was broken and if dd was ok, she said she didnt know as she had come straight to see me.
Will be finihsed in about 20mins, aibu to reply "it wont be much longer, let me know if dd is ok".

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Thunderduck · 27/12/2008 20:28

The neighbour sounds like a bit of a loony.

Mimia · 27/12/2008 20:30

Sorry but you can do it during the day, don't be so precious, we all have to do things that take up time we would rather spend doing other things. At the very very least you could have knocked nexzt door and told them and shown some common courtesy.

pantomimEDAMe · 27/12/2008 20:31

8pm is too late. If you reckon it's only going to take half an hour, your excuses about not wanting dh to miss out time with the kids/can't do it while they are in the house hardly apply.

lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:32

the job it self will take 30 mintures but the clean up will be more plus the non banging part after. We both work all week too, so impossible to do much during the day.
I have to say, we NEVER normally bang at this time of night. This is the first bit of DIY in aggges.
Neighbours are normally fine, we have helped them loads wuth runs to tip and hospital as she doesnt drive.

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Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:32

I think it's too late. I think it's reasonable for people to expect to be able to have a peaceful evening without DIY noise at 8pm. I realise with young kids it's not easy, but I do think 8pm is too late - sorry. But your neighbour TBH was bizarre to come along with the clearly made up story about the picture. She was within her rights IMO just to say that it was too late for the noise.

Are your kids sleeping through it?

lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:33

Yes my kids are sleeping though it, and both fairly light sleepers tbh

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AbricotsSecs · 27/12/2008 20:35

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jalopy · 27/12/2008 20:35

8pm is too late. Did your neighbour know the work would take half an hour when your dh started it?

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:36

Yes I still think YABU.

8pm and later is simply not the time at all. It's just not.

Anna8888 · 27/12/2008 20:37

Works and noises just have to stop at 6pm at the latest IMO.

compo · 27/12/2008 20:37

loads of people work all week but still do jobs at thr weekend though

pantomimEDAMe · 27/12/2008 20:38

The noise will be worse in their house than in your childrens' bedrooms as it is, presumably, a party wall.

LongDroopyBoobyLady · 27/12/2008 20:38

I think YABU - at the very least you should have popped to your neighbours to forewarn them that you will be noisy for 20 minutes.

spicemonster · 27/12/2008 20:39

I work all week and still wouldn't do DIY at 8pm. I don't think it's very sociable tbh. And you may know it's only going to take 1/2 an hour but they don't - have to say my heart would sink if my neighbours starting bashing out bricks at 8pm.

pamplemousse · 27/12/2008 20:40

Why don't you see if they are going to be out or in another room another evening and plan to do it then? That way you can explain you have to do it in the evening (I know how hard this is, I have just finished doing our house up after 2 years of being here, dd is 2 ) and you understand that its annoying but it needs to be done. You could pop round tomorrow with the excuse of checking her dd is OK even though she sounds nuts your neighbour!!
Sorry hope you understnad what I mean it all seems round the wrong way I have a bad cold and my brain is mangled.

lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:41

Its in the chimmy breast which runs the length of the house, included where the girls are sleeping, so not sure if noise is worse there or with neighbours tbh.
So all those people saying iabu, do you never make noise after 8pm?

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compo · 27/12/2008 20:43

not really
in the day the kids make so much noise we feel guilty about our retired neighbours who never seem to go anyway

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:44

Yes I agree - DH and I both work too and IMO you just HAVE to fit jobs at the weekend. Yes it's damn stressful and hard and cuts into family time - but that is how it is. Doesn't give us the right to cut into other people's family time in the evenings by disturbing them!

I really do have massive sympathy with you and would love to say YANBU but I'm afraid your neighbour is right to be annoyed. I would be!

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:44

No, I never make noise after 8pm!!!

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:45

it's 8pm ffs - hardly the middle of the night!!!!

randomxmas · 27/12/2008 20:46

Could you have warned them in advance - explain your situation. Half an hour can seem along time when you don't know when the banging will end. Perhaps they might have helped you?

Lovesdogsandcats · 27/12/2008 20:46

not only are you being unreasonable, you are being deliberately obstructive to argument too - you can't take kids to park for half hour so he can bang in the day, because he wants to spend as much time as possible with them?utter So, you all spend 24/7 together at weekends do you, and one can not be apart from the kids for a few minutes? You would rather bother your neighbours, than let him miss out on half an hour with the kids? Hmmmmmm, weird.

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jalopy · 27/12/2008 20:46

Yes, we are quiet after 8pm. We try and be considerate to our neighbours.

onager · 27/12/2008 20:47

You can't always avoid making a noise and DIY is better than loud parties IMO.

However as someone said you might have knocked on their door first and said "we're going to be making a bit of noise, but it won't last long" It makes all the difference and most people will be so pleased you thought of them they won't mind.

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:47

but hang on - she's says the noisy bit will take 1/2hr - the entire job much longer. So he's not just missing out on 1/2hr with them...........

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