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Original poster

to think im should be able to do DIY at 8pm without neighbours knocking after 10 mins

94 replies

lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:11

DH is cureectly remvong some bricks from fireplace, so involves a little bit of knocking. Their childrenare older, so not in bed. Its impossible to do this when our girls are awake.
Well 10 mintues in, she knocks and tells me i have made her mothers pic fall off the wall onto her dds head
I asked if pic was broken and if dd was ok, she said she didnt know as she had come straight to see me.
Will be finihsed in about 20mins, aibu to reply "it wont be much longer, let me know if dd is ok".

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snoopdog · 27/12/2008 20:48

yabu,

it is not that 8 pm is very late, but if it is late enough for your neigbour to be unhappy then it too late in this instance,

so much so that instead of grumbling to herself for 30 mins she called round and asked you to stop,

imho you should respect that,

i have to say that i think knocking bricks from a fire place is noisy, for you and for her,

i know it is a messy job, and if you work all week it is an arse to do at the weekend, but if you hardly ever do diy then it wouldnt be the end of the world if you took the dcs to the park/shops/cafe for 2 hours and dh did the work while noone was home,

even better would be to ask/tell/say sorry to your neigbours in advance when works like this need doing,

i do, and they do, no problem all round,

that and it is the christmas holidays, even more reason for them to be relaxing in peace

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:50

but snoop - some neighbours will complain no matter what time of day you do it..........(speaks from experience)

Original poster
lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:51

Well I went to check how her dd is, but no answer, I guess they have gone out.
I will take some choccys for the kids tomorrow.
The dust is terrible which is another reason we didnt want to do this during the day.
Oh well the MN looks spilt.

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Original poster
lisad123 · 27/12/2008 20:51

yes the neighbours the other side complain if we make noise during the day as her son (aged 40 odd) works nights. No way I can win.

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LongDroopyBoobyLady · 27/12/2008 20:52

But goldFAQ she already said her neighbours are usually fine so it's not that they complain at the least little thing.

lisa, I think that's a great idea to take round a peace offering.

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:53

ooops sorry missed that it

ScottishMummy · 27/12/2008 20:53

8pm too late for banging about.do you really have to ask why damaging a picture of recently deceased mum and bopping her dd on head might irk?

pack noise in

resume at more appropriate time

snoopdog · 27/12/2008 20:54

agrees with faq, i had the neigbour from hell in london,

but,

if her neigbour, who she gets on well with normally is upset enough to call round then she should think about stopping,

even if she thinks it is an over reaction,

it is after 8pm, her neigbour has complained,

not worth the hassle to carry on and ruin relations,

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 20:55

But I think noise during the day is acceptable. People who work nights KNOW it's something that will happen and they make allowances; earplugs, blackout blinds etc. I think they are NOT within their rights to complain about daytime work - that's just not reasonable, whereas a complaint about evening work IS.

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:55

Scottish - more appropriate time for who - the nice neighbour who's picture of her recently mother dropped on her DD's (although she didn't stop to check that either the picture or her DD were ok before going round to complain ), or the neighbour on the other side who works nights and will therefore be sleeping during the "appropriate" time for the other neighbour.............

onebatmotherofgoditschilly · 27/12/2008 20:57

Not on, too late, esp at Christmas. And surely the rule is that once someone complains, even if you disagree, you apologize and stop.

Why should your dh not see the dcs? Well, you are the ones who want the diy done, not she. Why should she have loud banging in the evening during the Christmas period?

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 20:57

Leo - I used to work nights, I couldn't use earplugs, as when exH left for work he would put DS2 down for his nap - and I would have the alarm clock set (to make sure I woke up in time to collect DS1 from school) - if DS2 had woken up and I had ear plugs in I wouldn't have known............

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 21:00

no, not awkward FAQ - what I mean is, you couldn't use earplugs for understandable reasons, but then I don't suppose you would have been complaining at every normal, everyday, daytime noise.

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 21:02

actualy I did - hated it in the summer when it was too hot in the bedroom so would have the fan on (very noisy) and the windows open, and would be woken by all the car doors opening and shutting and nagging parents (live next door to the school) I would whing the whole of my next night shift about it

FrostytheSurfmum · 27/12/2008 21:02

I must say I'm relieved to see this thread as my neighbours think nothing of starting to drill and hammer at 10pm and later and I wondered if I was being unreasonable thinking it was too late.

In view of that I wouldn't mind if lisad lived next door and was doing it so early .

goldFAQinsenceandmyrrh · 27/12/2008 21:03

no 10pm definitely too late.

8pm not (IMO).

Original poster
lisad123 · 27/12/2008 21:03

I wouldnt dream of carrying on past 9pm tbh

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OneBoyOneGirlWithBellsOn · 27/12/2008 21:11

NU to do the work in my opinion, but would have let the neighbours no what i was doing as that i'd only be 30 mins or so.

Moondancer · 27/12/2008 21:13

Lisad123 I am very confused. You say the your neighbours on one side is a woman and son aged 40 who works nights OK? But the neighbours on the other side (which this thread is about) have older children. BUT in another of your threads I thought you said your neighbour was a man with a son about 10 who (together with their friends) shout and scream till midnight. So why are you worried about making noise for half an hour if they themselves are noisy? Sorry if I am mistaken and have understood things wrong.

Original poster
lisad123 · 27/12/2008 21:16

ah yes the man and his sons moved out about 6months ago. We now have a mum and her girls instead. Lovely girls and loads better than boys
Still got the moany lady and her 40year old son the other side

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misdee · 27/12/2008 21:17

moondancer, the man with older kids, big dog etc have moved out i think, and these people have been there a few months.

MarlaSinger · 27/12/2008 21:18

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Moondancer · 27/12/2008 21:19

Oh that explains it! I was about to suggest that you make as much noise as possible! Glad you have got better neighbours now.

roisin · 27/12/2008 21:22

Our neighbour does lots of noisy DIY at various times of the day. Occasionally it's a bit irritating - but that's life, we never complain.

However, we got a Wii Family Trainer for Christmas, and when we play on it it sounds like a herd of elephants: so we're getting our own back now!

mediocrebronze · 27/12/2008 21:23

Why don't he take the girls out for the day while you bash away at the fireplace.

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