To be angry that my neice is a spoilt 20yr old madam.

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Sorry if this is long.
Dh's parents divorced 20 yrs ago and both have remarried. Neither they or there partners have siblings (and the new partners have no children of their own btw), and they all get on. Which is nice.
Dh's only sibling, his brother, lives away, so we all got together today, the 4 inlaws, dh,I and our 2 children, dbil, his wife and thied 20yr old only child.
Because we live near inlaws, they all came to ours, along with their partners and my family for Xmas Lunch, which was nice and friendly.
Today I cooked another Xmas dinner so we could celebrate with inlaws and Dbil's family.
All that is irrelevant really, the crux is, dniece is TWENTY and has just had a major hissy fit because dmil gave her a box of chocolates and £100, which is the same as what she gave dd who is 14. (she effectivly gave ds the same, but his was toys to the tune of £100)
She has just spent an hour moaning long and loud that as their is only one of her she should have £200 and to that effect she thinks her grandmother owes her 2 grand in back payment. I am so annoyed that she could be so rude, that if she was mine (and I am not and have never been a person to do this) I would of slapped her legs.
Apparently she feels this way as thats what her other grandparents (ie sil parents) do.

I meant to add, all mil had said to dh was that she felt sad. Whilst step mil was not supposed to tell anyone, but told me because she likes a gossip.
I have to go know, dh will be wondering what I'm typing

BIL and SIL sound completely off their rocker. It's clear where their spoilt brat (supposedly) adult daughter gets her ideas from but I wonder where they got their ideas from in the 1st place ?

To not only ask about the PILs' will, but to then demand what should be in it is disgraceful ..... the PILs should not have had to justify themselves. With people like this who are obviously bitter and twisted, and who equate love with money, nothing they do will ever be good enough and they will always want more. The best thing the PILs can do is to ignore them and not stoop to their level by discussing the issue at all. If they must buy any of them gifts in the future, please let them buy charity gifts and nothing else .....

FWIW, all you've said paints the PILs as lovely generous people who certainly haven't favoured your DH and his family over anyone else.

OMG!!
Poor you and your family!
What a bunch of... well, really, words fail me.
But yes, your parents-in-law sound lovely...
I hope all this gets sorted.

Some people...

One of my sisters is like this. I had 2 brother and 2 sisters. Mum and Dad had always said that if there was anything left when they were gone that it would be split 5 ways.

One of my brothers died a few years ago so mum and dad changed their wills to put dead brothers partner in place (they werent married but had been together 17 years when he died - plus 2 kids).

When the original wills were written I was the only sibling not to have DCs. Weird Sis kicked off about the original will saying that it meant I got more, because I didnt have to provide for any kids. Mum and Dad put her right and nothing more was said (except under her breath).

When 2nd will was written weird sis kicked off big style as SIL (thats how I see her) "Wasnt even family" . She was with my brother a lot longer than some marriages for crying out loud!

It caused a HUGE family ruckus - to the point that I am now the only one that even talks to weird sis (I lost a brother, I'm not losing a sister as well)

Some people seem to EXPECT cash/inheritance/etc. Me, I've told my parents time and time again that I dont want their bloody money - and to spend it on themselves (they need Central Heating and a new bathroon but wont spent as it is 'the kids money')

Your neice and BIL and SIL have cut their noses off I'm afraid. One interesting point for me tho is that your DH says BIL 'isnt like that'. Well my sis wasnt like that till she married - so I know who I blame. Could your SIL have 'brainwashed' BIL?