Well the shit has hit the fan big time.
D's dad picked his mam up at 9 and so they could get there early before every one was up and out the door. Dh step dad came around to ours as he was a bit about them going as a couple, although he did say that they needed to be a united front when dealing out punishment to dh brother, like they would of been when bil was a child.
Apparently they got there about 9.45 and knocked them all out of bed, which did not go down to well.
When they said they had come to visit because they were so upset about neices behaviour yesterday, sil said that it was nothing to do with fil. He pointed out that he did they same thing and spent the same on dd as he did on neice. Sil, then went ape and asked how they could discriminate against her daughter, why were my two so special. MIL, said to dh that she was at that point of holding on to her temper by a fine thread. Fil apparently told her to shut it, that our kids were nice, kind and considerate, which was more than he could say for her daughter.
Dh said to them all, that mil and he had worked out how much they has spent on neice over the last 20 yrs for Xmas and worked out how much they had spent on dd and ds too, neice has had £4000 (so 20 yrs x £200 (£100 of each) for neice)and they had paid for neices OU fees and books and that it had come to £4200 (she is in her last yr and on her last 2 courses, so it has all been paid) that after her 21st birthday (in August) that she was just getting a token gift for xmas and birthdays from then on as she will be a graduate with a good job.Apparently neice got all gooey and was all Nanna darling do you not love me any more, do you only love the babies (the babies are 14 and 9!) Is that why you are being so mean. Then neice started crying and asking pil if they was still going to buy her a car for her 21st, because apparently sil had said pil would!
Apparently this is when MIL flipped and told neice that she was a spoilt and selfish little madam and if she carried on this way then she would make sure that neither her or fil brought her more than a card for her 21st. And then it got worse.
Dh's brother had been drinking coffee up until to this point, up til then sil had been moaning and neice had been crying. Then Bil started on about sil bro, he is divorced aparently and his ex wife has a new relationship, and so sil parents spend Q on their sons kids as they will also be getting presents from sil bro, and his ex wife, her family and her new fellas family; so to compensate they spend twice as much on neice. And they thought that it was a good idea, as they hadn't chosen to just have 1 child, they had wanted a load of kids like what we have (that would be 2 then)
And that while they were getting things in the open, either pil left half of their assests to him and half to dh, or if they decided to leave it to the kids, they were to remember that he had 1 child so she should recieve exactly half, to my two's quarter each.
mil said she had been intending to leave her assests to her husband (ie step fil) and fil agreed he was doing the same for step mil.
Fil asked if he was being deleberatly obtuse, as he knew bil liked money, but did he really want to leave his step mother homeless to get at it.
Then apparently there was a big slanging match between fil and bil with neice and sil chiming in. About how he was always second best, and dh was the golden boy.
Fil siad that if that was they way they felt it was nice knowing him, and he was off. Neice was all I'm sorry grandad and I love you, you don't mean anything do you not really. But mil was all you need to learn some respect of your elders young lady.
They left then, we wasn't told any of this, by pil, btw, dh's stepmam rang me and told me, whilst all dh mam had said to him was that it was sad and that she had to hold her temper a lot. Apparently step mil was not to tell us. But she can't talk about it with any one else, so she rang me. Oh and she likes a gossip
The irony in all this, is neice had uptil now been the golden girl. I think it will take a long time to sort this out.