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AIBU?

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Original poster

I know I'm not, but how to handle it?

46 replies

Runners · 21/12/2008 20:34

I got to an exercise class. Its like thai-box, circuit and aerobics mixed into one class. Anyway a couple of weeks ago, this woman joined and she's so loud and brash with everything. She talks like a man and whenever she says anything, everyone just bursts out laughing but she doesn't seem to twig on (or if she does, she doesn't care).

Like last week we were using gym balls and she kept falling off hers. At one point in went bouncing across the floor and she ran after it shouting "Come 'ere ya bastard!"

Anyway I took my friend along to the class this morning who is hoping to join after new year and this woman has totally put her off. She kept going on about "all the sweaty betty's" that would have used the equiptment and shouting stuff like "oh shit in a stick, I feel like I'm gonna have a fucking asthma attack".

Apart from this, its really uncomfortable seeing someone having the piss ripped out of them for two hours straight when they're paying money to train just like everyone else.

I want to mention it to the instructor but don't know what to say.

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HolyGuacamole · 21/12/2008 20:46

I sort of think you're being unreasonable. Presumably she is a paying member exactly the same as you....live and let live, each to their own and ignore. Maybe she doesn't care, you obviously do....and who cares if she talks like a man?

It all sounds a bit judgey to me.

compo · 21/12/2008 20:48

'whenever she says anything, everyone just bursts out laughing but she doesn't seem to twig on (or if she does, she doesn't care).'

what are you , 12? sounds like a bitchy gym to me, bordering on bullying of the poor woman

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2008 20:48

agree with HG.
i can't believe a group of adults would laugh at someone like that, just because of how she speaks. that's pretty sad

if your friend is put off just because she doesn't like someone there that's kind of shallow too!

harleyd · 21/12/2008 20:49

ffs sounds more like a school playground
actually, no, i think most kids have more sense than to take the piss like that

Original poster
Runners · 21/12/2008 20:52

Its not that we don't like her, she's just a bit too much. She comes and talks to you but sticks her face right in yours and she smells a bit too. She was explaining how she'd got there that day and said the bus driver had stopped the bus suddenly and:

"I went fucking flying, arse over tit down the fucking ailse. My bag was open so all my shit went flying everywhere, fucking tampons and everything, the bastard" she was telling us this but the entire class heard.

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PuppyDrunky · 21/12/2008 20:53

She sounds fab!

compo · 21/12/2008 20:54

just nod politely
you don't need to do anything but be ppolite
who doesn't smell in the gym?!!

mmelody · 21/12/2008 20:55

YABU.. Get over yourself and accept that people are different. You are there to exersice not to judge other people. Im sure you must smell a bit after a 2 hour workout! God I can't stand gym snobs like you!

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2008 20:55

so, you ahve a problem with her language? or just that she is a bit "full-on"??

you know, it takes all sorts, and she is no less worthy of being there just because she isn't your type, iyswim?
i think you may just have to live and let live

Original poster
Runners · 21/12/2008 20:57

no it isn't a sweaty smell, I don't know. She smells before she's even started working out. That wouldn't bother me alone but she has no idea about personal space and is so crude.

She's a biker apparantly.

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harleyd · 21/12/2008 20:58

what the fuck has her being a biker got to do with anything
you are up your own arse, you know that

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2008 21:00

well, ateotd she pays her money and she has every right to be there.

i think you're being v unreasonable actually.

MillyR · 21/12/2008 21:00

Maybe she has an ASD or something similar. It would be nice if you could be tolerant.

If the swearing really bothers you ( if you are religious), maybe you could ask her to curb that, but I don't see why the other stuff matters.

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Runners · 21/12/2008 21:01

nothing, just that she told me that today whilst telling me that:

"my hubby went a bought a big fuck off dog and the bastard knocked the fucking biker over so thats summat else I've got to fucking fork out for. I'll be working the fucking streets at this rate, but at least I'll get a shag out of it! eh?! eh?!" (que...a punch in the arm that will probably bruise now )

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LobstersLass · 21/12/2008 21:04

I think you are being unreasonable.

You're not very clear about what your problem with her is. Is it her manner, her language, the fact she's put your friend off attending, or the fact that seeing other people laugh at/with her makes you feel uncomfortable?

If you're that bothered, have a word with the woman concerned, not the instructor.

thehappyprince · 21/12/2008 21:04

Surely this post is not for real...(?)(!) - especially noting runners competent swearing in previous posts....

LobstersLass · 21/12/2008 21:07

This has got to be a wind up. While I was typing my answer it's transpired that in addition to the earlier problems, she is overbearing, smelly and a worst of all, a biker.

I think the simple solution is to burn her.

TheSeussisgettingfat · 21/12/2008 21:07

She sounds quite fun to me - are you sure the others aren't laughing with her?

'arse over tit' - I love that expression

solidgoldprawnring · 21/12/2008 21:12

Oh fuck I didn't think there were any cunting MNers went to that gym

slavetomykids · 21/12/2008 21:26

You are a snob, or should that be a knob!

ScottishMummy · 21/12/2008 21:26

shit on a stick ya sweaty betty grass.i'd better keep taking strepsils i thought husky
not manly

ah pay my fees to fall off gym balls as i want

lenny101 · 21/12/2008 21:33

Have you all lost your minds? This is surely not a genuine post. Someone out for some christmas sport yes?

TheSeussisgettingfat · 21/12/2008 21:34

Someone is def. out for some Christmas sport - unfortunately the gym is full of sweaty biker-grrls.

twinsetiscrapatflouncing · 21/12/2008 21:36

Is this a moldie reference thread?

TheSeussisgettingfat · 21/12/2008 21:37

Can someone tell me what 'moldies' are?