DD being let down - to think this is slightly selfish, or maybe I'm too soft?

[WestEndLetdown]

Have name-changed for this although I am a regular reader and poster. I'd just like to seek people's opinion on this situation as my DH feels we should just 'let it go'.

My DD, 12, has been invited to see a West End show over Xmas with her best friend and her family. We have paid for DD's ticket, btw.

Last night I received a phone call from the mother to say that for some reason, which she didn't really explain properly, she hasn't ordered enough tickets and now my DD might not be able to go unless she can secure an extra ticket (which looks unlikely). She does have enough tickets for all her own family to go though. Also, it was only when I rang back to clarify a few unclear details that the mother actually offered any form of apology.

I've explained this to my DD who is understandably very disappointed.

Both my DH and I feel that, in this situation, one of us would stand down in order not to disappoint someone else's child.

Am I expecting too much?

I should add that we do an awful lot for this girl including her coming to Centerparcs with us last year and various other treats and days out. We have already asked her to come away with us again next year, but I really don't want her to come now, even though it is clearly not the poor child's fault. WWYD?

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

Great news for your daughter! Maybe you'll never find out the story behind it, but at least she'll get to go.

Counting and OP: can see what you're saying about feeling used etc when you put it like that.

[MissisBoot]

That's fantastic news for your dd!

It might be worth a quick phone call to the mother to double check its all back on though as it could just be her daughters wishful thinking.

[compo]

she must have realised that after the 2nd phone call you were pissed off

[Countingtheflocksbynight]

... ah ... love a happy ending ...

(yes didn't explain myself v. clearly before CurlyHairedAssassin - used to be concise in my younger days .. since dd I just ramble )

Hope your dd has a lovely time WestEnd

[Hulababy]

So glad your DD is now able to go.

It was IMO very out of order for her to be told she couldn't go. I would have been very cross on my DD's behalf too. An adult memeber of the other party should have stepped down.

[wheresthehamster]

I bought 5 tickets for a theatre show - one for each of the family. On the night I realised I only needed 3 - dd1 and dd3 were in the show! My point is that I can totally understand someone being unable to count.

[Heifer]

A big change of direction, I wonder if the mum is a mumsnetter.......

[shatteredmumsrus]

I challenge you to find out the reason for the change of plan and report back to us at 10am tomorow!

[WestEndLetdown]

I promise that if I ever manage to get to the bottom of it, I will report back asap!

For now, I have officially Let Go.

[sandcastles]

Great news that your dd can now go, WELD...hope she has a great time!

[HarrietTheSpy]

West End
if the tickets came through a 'contact' at the show it sounds to me like that person could have cocked up on the number he was going to be able to get...and then got lucky because another became available. They may have really wanted to include your daughter but then went for just the family unit when it looked like that was going to be all that was available. My bil was in a similiar situation with his work and this is just the sort of thing he would do. "I can get tix for X, front row" etc. Sometimes delivered but it was usually a close all and he really messed friends of ours around one time, it was so embarrassing.

Anyway I'm glad it worked out...your friends may have been equally mortified (but should have apologised earlier I agree....!)