to take the mick out of male colleagues who bring in shared food that their WIVES have made

[morningpaper]

this makes me both scornful and slightly depressed and I resort to extreme sarcasm

Only last week I was nibbling lemon cake from a colleagues WIFE.

What IS that ABOUT?

AIBU?

I iron shirts, bake for strangers, pick up DH's prescriptions, run all sorts of wifey errands.
What does that make me?

A good wife, Goober.

Completely downtrodden and a disgrace to feminism apparentl VG.
I can't talk though, I work full time and do all that stuff. And I bake. I allow DH to put oil and water in my car, deal with joint correspondence such as bills and put the bin out. I'm a hopeless case.

This is a fascinating thread I have to say.

I work FT, have 3 gorgeous girls and my DP is the MD of a small-ish (20-30 employees) company. I am plenty busy, but I do love to bake.

I send in cakes reasonably frequently as I will do a huge batch for both his colleagues and mine.

You see, I have the perfect life, I work FT, bake for both my colleagues and DPs because I enjoy it, therefore I am not demeaned and DPs colleagues still get their goodies MWAH HA HA HA HA HA

You are demeaned, bratnav, you're just so conditioned you don't even realise it.

I got the impression from the other thread that the OP didn't like baking or wasn't good at it - there is nothing wrong with baking cakes if you like doing it, nothing wrong with sharing them with people etc. What would annoy me is a man insisting his wife, who has other things to do and doesn't care for cookery anyway, bake cakes for his colleagues when it would be easier and quicker to go and buy some.

I do a lot of homebaking and I regularly send in stuff to my DH's work when I am trying out new recipes and I love doing it too.

oooh I am enjoying the Great Cake Debate

It is most interesting

And if anyone seriously thinks this is an enormous bitchfest, I am even more baffled than at the original cake-baking-wives-phenomena. It's about CAKES. Wherever one stands on the Great Cake Debate I do feel that investing too much emotion in it is probably unwise - 'tis only AIBU

Perhaps we should start baking FLAPJACKS OF FEMINISM (for women only)

MP

I am so feminist I have been referred to as "That squauking lipstick lezzer in the bike jacket".

And even I would send food in if I thought people would enjoy eating it.

I LOVE cooking for an appreciative mouth. I would do it for a female flatmate too ... and EX used to do it, as he likes to cook too.

LOL at tortes of tyranny etc

I occasionally send Dh with (fiendishly delicious) chocolate brownies. I do it to make his male colleagues fancy me and his female colleagues fat

Oh is that what it is georgiamama, thanks for setting me straight

well Madamant I can admore your strategy

Christ almighty, why does it matter who makes the cakes?

I'd tell them not to bloody eat them if they were that bothered.

How pathetic, I think you all need to chill out abit!

you know, i'm lucky that i don't suffer from depression...but i'll know all hope is lost if i ever get depressed and scornful about a cake.

Yes MP, they are the CAKES OF CRAFTINESS

I like Brownies for Bitches meself.

LOL at Tortes though.

I would make dh a cake to take to work but he would troff through it all and most probably be break dancing on arrival at his works's reception.

I think you cake-bakers ought to extend the services you offer your DH's colleagues. I'm sure they'd be grateful if you asked them to send their shirts to you to replace missing buttons, for example

pmsl @ morningpaper

my dp works from home, therefore if I made a cake for his collegues I would have to
eat it

Hurrah

I have been known to get the DCs to make squashed fairy cakes with lots of icky food colouring and chocolate crispy cakes to take into the office. so, i get one up on all the wifely people. i am using child labour too

Anna believe me, I am not in the slightest bit upset. I couldn't care less what others' attitudes about me are. Many years on MN has given me a much thicker skin!

I do however find the way you put your points across as some what patronising and with a supposed air of superiority.

Anyway I am in the middle of making sugarpaste flowers for cupcakes for a christening this weekend which will earn me £100, and I make trow in a few extra for dh .

If I was having colleagues home after a seminar, I might well ask dh to cook us supper. He makes my private pupils a pot of tea when they turn up. So I might well bake him some cakes. But if it was mince pies, he'd have to do them as that's part of his culture, not mine. And dh does the family knitting, because I'm not much good at it.

Nothing to do with feminism or being tied to the kitchen. I much prefer home-baked myself and would hardly find it worth the bother to nip over to Sainsbury's. But I am known in the neighbourhood as a good biscuit maker. And dh is proud of his knitting. Big deal? Not.

Oh FFS! It isn't unfeminist to bake cakes IF YOU LIKE BAKING. It is unfeminist to bake cakes because you have been ordered to, when you have other things to do and there is no need to bake cakes (if your DH wants cakes for the office he can go and buy them). And there are some men who will make a big deal out of cakes being handmade by their wives - 'Look! My wife is a Real Woman (ie knows her place and obeys me, none of this women's lib nonsense in My house I'll have you know...)

sticksant......LOL.......thanks for that!