to expect my local cancel to pay for transport to a private school

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My dd has been offered a place at a theatre school, it is fee paying but not local and they do not have scholerships. I asked the council if they would provide the cost of a train pass, but were told no, because it is not our local state school.My argument is that by funding my dd education for the next 5 years (not easily affordable for us)I am saving the local education authority vast sums of money as they will not be paying for her place at the local state school, it seems unfair that we are penalised for our decision, She would get a free pass if our local school was over 3 miles away.Sorry to ramble but we have never had handouts from anyone and this seems grossly unfair.

um
then the problem was not your FILs lack of career progression but his failure to provide.
He was earning well enough at his level to privide for your DH. He chose not to.
#Is it not likely then that a salary hike would have done little to change that?

I don't think many people would choose to live in a caravan in pontefract, it's fecking freezing in summer.

silly to expect council to pay

A head of department would have earned well over an average wage, something else must have been going on here. This is such a deeply depressing world view. A complete "I'm all right Jack". The idea that what really matters in life is money. Yes it does bring choices, and that's great. Most of us would probably like a bit more, that's fairly normal. But what we spend our working lives doing does matter. A year or two bringing in the buck sis fine, but a lifetime seems to me real drudgery unless you enjoy what you do and feel it has some value.

I suspect not

But it sounds as though there was something else going on that he couldn't pay basic bills from what would have been a decent salary.

My father paid for eight of us and did it on a delvery mans salary for most of our childhood.
Your FIL seems to have been making odd choices for one reason or another.
But his salary was probably not a major factor.

Your poor DH though. We had virtually nothing but we always knew my parents were working their arses off for us.

I was not trying to justify crime in any way, Katie. Merely referring to the statistical fact that societies with very wide gaps between the rich and the poor tend to be more crime ridden.

I have no problem at all with stating that a person who commits a crime is wrong. But I am afraid that would not be much of a consolation to me if it was one of my family members who was mugged and murdered.

I would prefer to live in the kind of society where this was statistically less likely to happen.

Totally agree Cory. I feel really uncomfortable here in Canada where there are so many homeless people (and the temperature is currently -22C, so not a good place to be outside).

xenia, when we still had a car last year, I googled for insurance as we'd had a very high quote from direct line - I saved more than £200 simply by switching (gave DL the opportunity to match it, they refused silly buggers)

and I already work 4 days a week, thank you, and literally could not work any more hours without unbelievably complicated and expensive childcare, which would definitely adversely affect my children.

not everyone lives in your tebbit get on yer bike cloud cuckoo land (thank god)