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AIBU?

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to expect my local cancel to pay for transport to a private school

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tootyflooty · 13/12/2008 12:23

My dd has been offered a place at a theatre school, it is fee paying but not local and they do not have scholerships. I asked the council if they would provide the cost of a train pass, but were told no, because it is not our local state school.My argument is that by funding my dd education for the next 5 years (not easily affordable for us)I am saving the local education authority vast sums of money as they will not be paying for her place at the local state school, it seems unfair that we are penalised for our decision, She would get a free pass if our local school was over 3 miles away.Sorry to ramble but we have never had handouts from anyone and this seems grossly unfair.

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Geepers · 13/12/2008 12:24

yabvu. Nuff said.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 13/12/2008 12:27

Oh FFS! You know you're being unreasonable.

FromGirders · 13/12/2008 12:27

YABU. You choose to go to a private school, you pay for all the extras that go with it.
The governement won't be paying for costumes etc either.

JingleBennysAndJooniper · 13/12/2008 12:27

what's a local cancel?

amidaiwish · 13/12/2008 12:28

outrageously unreasonable.

that is like saying "i am sending my dds to the local private school so the local council should pay for their uniform because i am saving them so much money"

it is your CHOICE. if you can't afford it then don't do it. send her to the local state school.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 13/12/2008 12:28

I'm assuming it's Saaarf Lundun for "council". You need a long A in there. "Caaaancel".

stillenacht · 13/12/2008 12:30

agree with Geepers really

I am on verge of sending my DS1 to indie school but wouldn't expect anyone to pay transport costs for me (we are not overly well off and will fund school via remortgaging and savings i have made over last 3/4 years)

My DS2 gets transport as he is statemented and has to go to a special school and not the same school as his brother. I thank God everyday he is able to get transport to the school which can provide the right education for him as travelling to the two schools would cause even more stress on an already stressed out family.

TheProvincialLady · 13/12/2008 12:31

I'm afraid your argument is neither here nor there. Them's the rules. And very sensible ones they are too. I'm sure all those parents sending their DC to Eton are saving the taxpayer a fortune too, but I don't think we'll give them Income Support to make up for it.

echt · 13/12/2008 12:43

Feck away off, OP.

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tootyflooty · 13/12/2008 12:44

I wasn't expecting handouts, I was just a little disappointed that no help is available, and of course i wouldn't expect to have uniforms,costumes etc paid for,we are not "rich" , but we both work hard to provide for all 3 of our dc,I want her to have this opportunity.It is a fact that it costs local Councils x amount per child to educate them, surely I am lessening this burden by taking her out of the system!

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thenewme · 13/12/2008 12:44

Why should you get handouts?

YABVU to expect the council to pay. Are you really sendning your child to a fee paying school to save the council paying for state education? I thought not.

crankycrane · 13/12/2008 12:50

but that is your choice tooty

surely you cant expect the council to cough up transport

SparklyGothKat · 13/12/2008 12:54

My Ds1 is disabled and as a result we have had to apply for 3 schools that are not our nearest schools. They are all over 3 miles away. I have been trying my hardest to find out if we are entitled to free transport and am getting nowhere. No-one can tell me if we can get it until we know what school he gets (even though they are all over 3 miles from our house (one is 8 miles))

So I think you are being very unreasonable tbh

stillenacht · 13/12/2008 12:54

it would be nice if we could get a rebate if we take our kids out of the state system but what about people with no kids, no health problems etc should they get a rebate as they seemingly 'overpay' on their taxes....where would it end? I think if you pay your money you take your choice really.

ClausImWorthIt · 13/12/2008 12:56

But it is a handout if they give you money for transport! What do you think a handout is?!

And wtf should you qualify for extra help?

I can't actually believe that this is a serious post, but if it is I am that you would even consider this a reasonable argument

stillenacht · 13/12/2008 12:56

SparklyGothKat - where we are you get free transport if DC is statemented and school is more than 3 miles away i think

Good luck. Those with disabled DC shouldn't have to fight for all of this.

Freckle · 13/12/2008 12:56

The rules state that the local authority will pay transport for any child living (normally) more than 3 miles from their nearest available state school. If you choose to send your child to a school further away, whether you choose that school because it is a theatre school or because it offers something which other local schools do not, then you have to accept that you will not be granted a train pass. A friend's sons went to a local CofE primary because she is religious. When it came to choosing secondary schools, the nearest CofE one was about 20 miles away. There was a local Catholic secondary, so friend chose that one. The local authority refused to fund transport as there was a nearer state secondary and that, as friend wasn't Catholic, she couldn't opt for that school. They would, however, have funded her child to go to the CofE school 20 miles away.

SparklyGothKat · 13/12/2008 13:00

DS1 isn't statemented So we had to apply for the adapted schools under 'medical and social needs' and as a result its proving hard to find out about transport.

thenewme · 13/12/2008 13:01

Don't be so ridiculous.If it was that easy, everyone would do it.

stillenacht · 13/12/2008 13:02

Am sorry to hear that Sparkly - its such a battle all the time eh? Is there any chance that the school could support a statement? (sorry majorly hijacking thread)

SparklyGothKat · 13/12/2008 13:04

no, Ds1, although is disabled (has modarate Cerebral Palsy), is very very bright, so doesn't need help to access the education.

TheFalconInThePearTree · 13/12/2008 13:04

YABU and you know it.

stillenacht · 13/12/2008 13:08

I understand Sparkly . Good luck with your endeavours. Its hard fighting the system all the time i know xx

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tootyflooty · 13/12/2008 13:10

When I left my local school to go to 6th form college, I choose one 2 train journeys away, I was given a train pass!?, there were several local schools I could have gone to. It wasn't an issue then.
Also "travelling folk" (i resist using the work "pikey" to avoid offence.) have taxi travel paid to ferry their kids to school, I just wish the system was more evenly balanced that's all. I pay in and never take anything out.

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SparklyGothKat · 13/12/2008 13:11

Our SEN officer has emailed everyone on thursday to try and find out for us (it will play a huge part in deciding whether to move our DDs to a nearer school, when DD1 has learning disabilities, CP and ADHD, and the Head is being funny with us)

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