To wish people wouldn't assume it was ok to send their kids to my house?

[MrsSnape]

Last week DS walked home with his friend and when they got to the friends house his mum came out and said "do you want to go to JuniorSnapes for an hour? I have to go out" so the lad ended up here. Surely you ask first? I don't even know the woman that well.

And now a woman from school has just phoned and said "is it ok for my DS to come and stay at your house for a bit tonight after school as I'm going to be late home".

I have DS2 off school ill and really can't be doing with another child here tonight aibu?

YANBU

Ring the school and tell them to ring the mother and say you can't have as yours is sick.

what did you say to the one who phoned?

YANBU, being used as a convenience is a PITA, emergency cover for friends is a different matter, uninvited kids is another esp if someone ill!

what did you say? did you tell her yes and be polite.

i'm a hard faced cow sometimes. i would have said "no"

why dont you call back and say ds2 has severe shits and on 2nd thoughts it wouldn't be a good idea to pass his bugs around

Cheeky mares. Say no next time, tell them you've got something infectious.

Lulabellarama, if it's someone you know well and you are willing to return the favour then I think it's perfectly acceptable. I'm sure that all of us have been in a jam and needed help at some time or other.

But, if it's someone the OP doesn't know that well and it's just so the other mum can go to the shops or something without the hassle of the kids I think it's a bit of a cheek. Sounds like you are being taken for granted MrsSnape! Especially as you have a sick child already at home I would definitely have said no.