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Original poster

to be annoyed at my friend refusing to give my maternity clothes back

62 replies

NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:21

my friend recently moved house, and left my maternity clothes behind in her old house her uncle is now living in.
she is saying its too far to travel too to get me my clothes and that i have to buy them all again.

so now expecting my third and last baby i now have to buy a whole load of new clothes which will get hardly any wear out of them

AIBU to be throughly pee'd off?

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mishymoo · 09/12/2008 21:23

YANBU! Why is she being so difficult? You need your clothes, she needs to go and get them, end of....

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 09/12/2008 21:23

friend ?

I don't think so

what a selfish cow

cross her off your xmas card list and outta your life

thisisyesterday · 09/12/2008 21:23

no yanbu! what kind of a friend is that??/
i know it isn't ideal, but could you go and get the clothes yourself?

PuzzYuleLogs · 09/12/2008 21:24

If she knew you would expect them back at some point then no YANBU.

Coldtits · 09/12/2008 21:26

She's ebayed them.

TheButterflyEffect · 09/12/2008 21:26

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Nightmareneighbours · 09/12/2008 21:28

What age gaps do you have - if they're quite big then actually she's doing you a favour - all your old stuff will be well out of fashion!

andlipsticktoo · 09/12/2008 21:29

OR, you could look at it this way......

WOO HOO! A lovely shopping trip for you to buy lots of lovely, new clothes!

I know this is annoying, it happened with all 3 of my pregnancies, my clothes just got passed on and passed on. But let's face it, being pg is not the most glamourous of situations to be in, so buying a few new clothes surely can't be that bad? Can it?

Original poster
NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:30

lol, i cant go get them cos i dont know if her uncle will be in, and he doesnt know where they are apparently.

her arguement is that she didnt realise i would need them back... which is stupid because we were TTC at the time i lent them to her, so she knew i would need them.

i think she has ebayed them too coldtits

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Lulumama · 09/12/2008 21:30

why can;t the uncle dig them out and give them back to you? unless she has sold them!!

bit mean of her, unless she genuinley thought they were a gift not a loan

but sounds like she is taking the pee

congratulations though !

compo · 09/12/2008 21:30

I'd ask her to either get them or give you the money to buy new ones
agree that she has probably ebayed them or given them away

TheCrackFox · 09/12/2008 21:30

I second the Ebay theory.

sunnyshine · 09/12/2008 21:31

my friend put them out for the charity collection!!!

Original poster
NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:32

thanks lulu
has taken a while but we finally got there, im very pleased.

and i suppose on the bright side i get to go shopping now

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thisisyesterday · 09/12/2008 21:33

i would just say to her, that you've got to go down that way at some point and you're going to call on the uncle on the off chance he is in.

scare her into admitting she has flogged them

why on earth should you have to spend money on new things???? totally out of order.

skidoodle · 09/12/2008 21:34

Yes, shopping for a nice new friend.

What a cow.

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:34

yeah thats my point. especailly as its 2 pregnancys worth, so a couple ofhundred pounds.
i begrudge spending money out i dont really have, when i had already invested once

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DorisIsAPinkDragon · 09/12/2008 21:37

Def sold

You wouldn't know her ebay id would you just for a quick look at her feedback???

pregapuss · 09/12/2008 21:38

But did you tell her you were LENDING Them to her or GIVING them to her? My step mother in law GAVE me a whole load of maternity stuff and then asked for them back (while I was still pregnant) because she had got pregnant again with her 3rd.

Lots of people GAVE us baby clothes etc and if somebody were to say to me that they wanted their bag of clothes back, I couldn't. I don't know which ones are from who etc. And if I find out I am now having a boy, the girl stuff will be given away to people. If they wanted them back, they should have said LENT

27 · 09/12/2008 21:38

Why cant the uncle post them to you?

Original poster
NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 21:40

askeduncle to post he wont spend the money.

lol i wish i did know her ebay id lol!

and she def knew i was lending them to her like i already said i was TTC and she knew that when i gave them to her.

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27 · 09/12/2008 21:44

She can pay him the money to post them cant she? Probably cheaper than someone driving to get them.
Where is the uncle based? Maybe some kind mumsnetter could collect them and post them for you? Much cheaper for you to pay the postage the buy a load of new gear?

PeachyBidsYouNadoligLlawen · 09/12/2008 21:46

offer to pay postage, cheaper though my immediate thought on thread title was ebay too

thisisyesterday · 09/12/2008 21:46

is the uncle very far away?
I honestly would say that you have a friend there, or that you're going over there and that you WILL go to the house and ask for the clothes.

she will then confess, or offer an alternative.

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NattyTurkeyAndEggnog · 09/12/2008 22:38

yeah she says all thestuff is in random bags under her stairs, and she thinks someof it she chucked..

i think ebay

cheeky cow.

u will all be pleased to know she is no longer a friend, and have removed her from my phone facebook and messenger.
problem is this is not the first time she has been out of order to me.

just wanted to be sure i wasnt over reacting lol, oh and i forgot to put in the OP, ive been asking from them back since her baby was born, and she is one year old in jan

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